GAchasen Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 The amount of women that I've slept with will never be revealed to any potential parters so I'm not worried about that being an issue. When your future GF asks you how many women have you slept with...you're going to lie and say 8??? LOL Hmmm...
Woggle Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Despite what they say every player I know has tons of women he can call up any time wants some action. What women say and what women do are usually two vastly different things. Also I would enjoy the life you are living. Take a look over at the threads on the divorce forum and you will thank your lucky stars you haven't commited to a woman yet.
bananaboat11 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Eh, I'm a 25 year old male... and I'm told I can have pretty much any woman I want. I've only slept with 5. 1, I was a rebound (I thought we were in a relationship...), 1 was a one week stand.. OOPs. The other 3... relationships. Hmmm, I guess I wouldn't really do what you do. I wouldn't call it a measure of class... it's just not me.
allina Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I'm not impressed or put of by a man having many sexual partners. What matters to me is if he disrespected any of these women or if he cheated while in a relationship.
Woggle Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I'm not impressed or put of by a man having many sexual partners. What matters to me is if he disrespected any of these women or if he cheated while in a relationship. This makes a woman even more attracted to a man.
allina Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 This makes a woman even more attracted to a man. If he is disrespectful and cheats? No, I don't think so.
bananaboat11 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 If he is disrespectful and cheats? No, I don't think so. I hate men like that... ruins it for good guys like me. Then when I meet a girl I think I'm into... she has trust issues... insecurities... immature... and burns me
Woggle Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 If he is disrespectful and cheats? No, I don't think so. Why is it then that all the men I know like that have plenty of success with women while the good men are lonely?
bananaboat11 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Why is it then that all the men I know like that have plenty of success with women while the good men are lonely? The good guys like me lack an edge or a bad persona... we have more to lose... our reputation as being that good guy. I don't know... many of us suffer NGS or Nice Guy Syndrome. Women 'say' they want an NGS ridden man... but in reality, they don't. I'm starting to get with the program, but will not change who I am for a stupid woman who is willing to be abused by multiple jackass ****tard cheating ****bag men.
allina Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Why is it then that all the men I know like that have plenty of success with women while the good men are lonely? I can't answer that for you Woggle, I don't know the men you're talking about. All I can do is speak for myself. And while I don't care if a guy slept around while single I would not date someone who mistreats others.
Woggle Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 It seems to me that these men that you decry are the smart ones. They are the ones getting action while you are being used as a rebound. Good and loyal men who respect women end up lonely.
allina Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 It seems to me that these men that you decry are the smart ones. They are the ones getting action while you are being used as a rebound. Good and loyal men who respect women end up lonely. I have never been used by a man. I am engaged to a loyal man who I treat like gold, but I have a feeling this argument is a pointless one with you right now.
Sharla Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I think some of you are way off base here.... Initial attraction, does not sustain over time under the circumstances some of you are describing. And for those it does, it is because there is something ingrained in their psychological make-up. This is a TWO-WAY street. I am a female, and I have been attracted to men who appear to be experienced. But slutty? Nope. And for the few that I was attracted to in the past that "appeared" to be more experienced, I no longer have a shred of attraction left towards them. Because the attraction I initially had, was like others have pointed out, hollow. A couple tried to pursued relationships with me down the road, but at that point, there was nothing that connected us. The initial physical attraction, is the easy part. And again, it is a TWO-WAY street.
Woggle Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I have never been used by a man. I am engaged to a loyal man who I treat like gold, but I have a feeling this argument is a pointless one with you right now. Hopefully this loving feeling in you will last. If so you are a rare exception. I hope for his sake you don't end up one of those women on the divorce or affair boards.
Awesome Username Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Do you think that if you DID find a woman who you could have a long term relationship with, that you would be able to sustain that relationship? I only ask this because a number like eighty in your mid-twenties is actually quite a bit. Even though you may want to have just one person to be with in a LTR, you might actually have a fear of abandonment.
Author Explorer Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 When your future GF asks you how many women have you slept with...you're going to lie and say 8??? LOL Hmmm... I don't have to lie. I can tell her that I've had my fair share
Author Explorer Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 What matters to me is if he disrespected any of these women or if he cheated while in a relationship. I was in 2 relatively long relationships (one for 2 years and the other 2 1/2) and didn't cheat on them.
Author Explorer Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 Why is it then that all the men I know like that have plenty of success with women while the good men are lonely? I'm relatively successful but also lonely.
Author Explorer Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 It seems to me that these men that you decry are the smart ones. They are the ones getting action while you are being used as a rebound. Good and loyal men who respect women end up lonely. That's because what you call 'good and loyal men' are the ones who give woman too much respect upfront without having them earn it. And, when you get burned, it strengthens your good guy notion.
Author Explorer Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 I am a female, and I have been attracted to men who appear to be experienced. But slutty? Nope. Where is your line between experienced and slutty?
Author Explorer Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 Do you think that if you DID find a woman who you could have a long term relationship with, that you would be able to sustain that relationship? I only ask this because a number like eighty in your mid-twenties is actually quite a bit. Even though you may want to have just one person to be with in a LTR, you might actually have a fear of abandonment. Not really a fear of abandonement. More like fear of failure. I haven't had strong chemistry (In love) with anyone in quite some time, but when I do, I'm pessimistic about sutainability as I know the chemistry is only temporary. With this in the back of my mind, I think I prevent myself from getting too close when I feel that every couples ultimate destination is failure. Maybe it would help if I spoke to couples that were happily married as I'm constantly surrounded by hearing about unhappy marriages and failed relationships. Regardless, I think they're the exception and not the norm.
lino Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I guess I'm asking to my male counterparts, but females please feel free to chime in if you want. I'm a 27 yr old male with what some may consider an excessive amount of sexual experience. I've probably slept with (Stopped counting) somewhere between 60-80 women. BTW - STD free. What I'm trying to figure out is where is the line between male sexual experience being impressive and slutty. Does it begin and end at a certain age? Societal conditioning has lead me to believe at an early age that the more women a male sleeps with, the better. However, my conscious has always told me otherwise and I just chose to ignore it. For example: I was at a club last night and an attractive woman approached and flirted with me. I couldn't help but to respond back and we ended up making out toward the end of the night. After waking up this morning, I just felt kind of unclean and classless. My other friends weren't doing this, but I'm not sure if they weren't because they couldn't find a woman or they believed that they just had more class. Mi male amigos - do you believe that at a certain age you should tone down the sexual assertiveness with someone you just met? How would you perceive someone that does this with a lot of women? Personally, I have much more important things to think about than how many girls other guys have taken to bed. So whether a blokes slept with 10 or 100 women, I couldn't care less and I'm not gonna judge him for it. After all, I'm not going to be involved with him romantically so I couldn't care less. I'm friends with some guys that have slept with tonnes of women and that really has no relevance on our friendship. Someone who is a good bloke will be so regardless of how many women he's f*cked! In general, I think a lot of men share that attitude. In all honesty, I reckon you don't have anything to worry about mate. Regardless of what some women will say, a guy who can pull heaps of roots will generally have no problems getting a serious partner. If he does, it won't be because of his sexual history but because of something else.
Woggle Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I'm relatively successful but also lonely. Get some male friends or a pet. Look at some posts on this board and you will thank god you are single.
Woggle Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Read this thread and be glad you are not comited to a woman. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t217928/
sagetalk Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Get some male friends or a pet. Look at some posts on this board and you will thank god you are single. As crazy as women may drive you sometimes, as crazy as they make you feel, as crazy as they make you think, as crazy as they make you sound and as crazy as they make your life, I still love em' and want one .
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