b52s Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 We've come a long way, it's now 2010, but I kind of find it unusual that's still unacceptable to some people who STILL have not done it at least ONCE. You mean to tell me, since the beginning of the popularity of the internet, mid 90's....some of you NEVER even tried online dating? You'd think it'd become more acceptable, ESP with the current generation, right?
Confusedalways Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I would actually do it but there is still a serious stigma about it, which is why I don't, nor have I ever.
Kristine Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Well I must be blind to the stigma because I'm on-line and had my first date yesterday from it. My ex husband was a friend of a friend, that didn't work out he was a bore uninterested in participating in life unless it was computer related and well that didn't last. He met his current wife from a gaming website. Myeyes are rolling. This guy I'm seeing at least likes some of the things I do swimming for example, but I've had 3 psychic friends tell me this relationship is going to be short lived so I'll enjoy the time I get with Mr. Romance whose a good kisser, and hope the psychic network is wrong. But now that they said that I'm less worried about our religions not matching and still looking forward to date #2 tomorrow.
Art_Critic Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 You'd think it'd become more acceptable, ESP with the current generation, right? I know a couple of people that would not try online dating but they would go out with someone they met on facebook thru their friends network. Would you consider that online dating ? or are you thinking of only the dating websites like match.
OpenGL Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 The problem isn't if online dating is acceptable or not. The problem is online dating does not work for 80% of men unless you're into morbidly obese women.
Art_Critic Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 (edited) The problem isn't if online dating is acceptable or not. The problem is online dating does not work for 80% of men unless you're into morbidly obese women. I know you didn't say all but honestly I don't think I just fall into the 20% category as I'm just a normal guy with normal tastes. My wife is thin and I met her on match and all the girls I dated and had relationships with over the years that I met online were all thin or average. I think a lot of the times guys just get bitter about not having good luck online because they don't have game.. ( not saying you don't have game.. I have no idea ) If they were dating in the bars they would just be blaming the bars.. It is the person not the dating source that is the issue 99% of the time Edited January 15, 2010 by Art_Critic
OpenGL Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I know you didn't say all but honestly I don't think I just fall into the 20% category as I'm just a normal guy with normal tastes. My wife is thin and I met her on match and all the girls I dated and had relationships with over the years that I met online were all thin or average. I think a lot of the times guy just get bitter about not having good luck online becuase they don't have game.. If they were dating in the bars they would just be blaming the bars.. It is the person not the dating source that is the issue 99% of the time I think you missed my point. Of course online dating works for average women, ugly women, hot women, etc. Online dating works for any type of women. If it works for you, that means you fall in the 20% it works for. Online dating does not work for men who don't have good paper stats and for average looking men.
OpenGL Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I think a lot of the times guys just get bitter about not having good luck online because they don't have game.. ( not saying you don't have game.. I have no idea ) If they were dating in the bars they would just be blaming the bars.. Uh, no. Online dating doesn't work if you don't have good paper stats, game has nothing to do with it. I can pick up chicks in bars and clubs but online no one will even respond to me. My game is just fine. My paper stats/looks are not.
aerogurl87 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 The problem isn't if online dating is acceptable or not. The problem is online dating does not work for 80% of men unless you're into morbidly obese women. Hey, hey now! I've done online dating and I'm not morbidly obese. Actually I'm quite fit and slender.
jw90063 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 The problem isn't if online dating is acceptable or not. The problem is online dating does not work for 80% of men unless you're into morbidly obese women. I would say online dating doesn't work for 90% of women, unless you are into men with a dreadful disposition.
Joe Taylor Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 IF I could turn back the clock and was single again, I'd be all over it, lol.. I'm fascinated by the opportunity to find your soul mate through online dating; sounds like an excellent foundation to begin with..! In the 90s all I did was meet girls in the bar, at parties or being set up by friends (which is how I met my wife). A friend of my wife's who hadn't dated for years.. finally embraced online dating. Within a few months she had gone on a few dates and has now been with someone for several months.. and it's look'n serious. Definitely know it works!
OpenGL Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Hey, hey now! I've done online dating and I'm not morbidly obese. Actually I'm quite fit and slender. Of course online dating works for average women, ugly women, hot women, etc. Online dating works for any type of women. See the above.
OpenGL Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I would say online dating doesn't work for 90% of women, unless you are into men with a dreadful disposition. There are tons of normal men on online dating sites that are not in a dreadful disposition. Then problem is 90% of women don't want normal men. They want the top 10%.
aerogurl87 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 IF I could turn back the clock and was single again, I'd be all over it, lol.. I'm fascinated by the opportunity to find your soul mate through online dating; sounds like an excellent foundation to begin with..! In the 90s all I did was meet girls in the bar, at parties or being set up by friends (which is how I met my wife). A friend of my wife's who hadn't dated for years.. finally embraced online dating. Within a few months she had gone on a few dates and has now been with someone for several months.. and it's look'n serious. Definitely know it works! See it does work! I met one of my exes not through an online dating site but through an online gaming community. Had it not been for that I would've never met him since he lived 900 miles from me. And had it not been for meeting him I would've never learned what it truly means to love someone unconditionally and how to make myself vulnerable to another human being, trusting them implicitly.
temple Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 No I would not be interested in online dating. Call me old fashioned... all those profiles look like some sort of business agreement.
BobSacamento Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 If nothing else it keeps you busy and is good practice. I'll have to agree with OpenGL unfortunately, the vast majority of women on these sites are not in great shape. However, the vast majority of men, as I've heard from the women I've dated, are utter freaks and creeps. It takes a lot of time and the ability to take a chance.
adamt Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 (edited) i'm in the uk, based in london and use mysinglefriend.com. Lots of fit women on there. But I think women are chasing mr perfect, the men as usual just chasing the fit women. I've been on a couple of dates, some very fit. you think you have your foot in the door but the fit women are just going through a lot of 1st dates hoping to get someone with chemistry. men think they get a 1st date and halfway there already. lots of people are busy professionals and so dont have time to date the old fashioned way. Edited January 16, 2010 by adamt
OpenGL Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 However, the vast majority of men, as I've heard from the women I've dated, are utter freaks and creeps. Being a creep in womanspeak just mean's being unattractive, the wrong height or the wrong race.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I thought online dating was great. I met many very wonderful men, gained some wild stories to share over wine, and found my current boyfriend. If it doesn't work out with this guy for whatever reason, I'll sign myself back up! Go online dating!
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 It's as good as or as bad as any other method for dating. I've tried it and I am beautiful and slim. The men vary from great to terrible just as they do when you meet them in a club or a church. You have to be able to accept that some take poor pictures, write poor profiles but may be so much more once you give them a chance. I recently expanded my open-mindedness and met two bald men. It is something I just would not have considered attractive in the past. I am so glad I did. Both are good catches, attractive; one of them - omg sexy! Don't knock it til you try it.......
BobSacamento Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Being a creep in womanspeak just mean's being unattractive, the wrong height or the wrong race. I'm think Dirty oldmen are the big culprit
Ruby Slippers Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I've never done it, and I always ruled it out until one of my awesome, attractive friends did it. Of course, the guy she met was Mr. Perfect at first, then only much later exposed his hidden extreme anger issues. The furthest I have gone is to sign up on a free site, with no real profile or picture, just to browse at the men on there. So far, only cute, sporty players have e-mailed me, and I have ignored them because their e-mails suggest they are just looking for booty. Today I found one guy on there who looks really great "on paper". I will check in on him from time to time, and maybe one day I will send him a message. haha This is as far as I've gone, though. I'm kind of terrified to go further. I am worried that I would meet all kinds of crazies and freaks, and this would probably be worsened by the fact that I live in a big city. Also, might sound silly, but I'm a romantic, and if I did meet my dream boat on there, I would hate for the story of how we met to be: "We met on match.com." Blah!
Art_Critic Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Also, might sound silly, but I'm a romantic, and if I did meet my dream boat on there, I would hate for the story of how we met to be: "We met on match.com." Blah! Ruby... I know how that feels.. my wife sometimes leaves out how we met when she thinks the people she is talking too will think ill of online dating.. I will say though that it can be romantic.. My story is.. When I met her on match.com we hit it off real fast and threw many messages thru match back and forth thru match for a couple of weeks and then I sent her my work email addy.. She sends me and email that says.. " Are you so and so from so and so company ?".. I emailed back and said " yes" She said " I'm so and so from so and so company.. we know each other in real life " It turned out that she was a customer of mine and worked in an ad agency that would send me at my company work all the time.. I had been speaking to her on the phone for years ( even though we had never met or known each other other than professionally and honestly we only knew each others first name..). It also turned out that she had my name and phone number on her computer monitor at work and had for years.. She had looked at my name each day she was at work and it went from there, and of course I still had to woo her and wine and dine her to win her over and put her under my spell.. The rest is history... To me.. that's romantic... My story is just my story.. everybody can have their own version of romance with online dating..
Hot Carl Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 All guys should do it. It's good for practicing getting to know women. After a while you can be comfortable around any of them. Maybe you won't meet your perfect woman online, but you're more likely to meet her at all if you at least go through the motions.
jw90063 Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I think in general, online dating will always be seen as weird.
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