Hot Carl Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Anyone think that nice guys are at a disadvantage in the dating world?
thatguy85 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Anyone think that nice guys are at a disadvantage in the dating world? It's my personal theory that nice guys are at a disadvantage. In fact, I developed this theory on my own, and I believe I am the first who's ever considered this.
Green Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Depends what you mean by nice guy... If nice guy means boring person afraid to do and say what he really wants around a girl for fear of not being nice and just wants to be her friend and hopes she'll feel something for him by chance... then yes nice guys are bad to be
Author Hot Carl Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 It's my personal theory that nice guys are at a disadvantage. In fact, I developed this theory on my own, and I believe I am the first who's ever considered this. So you're the one. I think nice guys are at a disadvantage because women have less respect for them. Anyone care to comment?
Citizen Erased Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 So you're the one. I think nice guys are at a disadvantage because women have less respect for them. Anyone care to comment? I repeat my previous comment.
thatguy85 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I just want to make sure I'm on the same page here... women don't like nice guys, and women like jerks. Am I off base by saying that?
Author Hot Carl Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 I just want to make sure I'm on the same page here... women don't like nice guys, and women like jerks. Am I off base by saying that? No. I'd say you're on base. Right on base. Life isn't fair for nice guys, is it. They are to be pitied.
Citizen Erased Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I just want to make sure I'm on the same page here... women don't like nice guys, and women like jerks. Am I off base by saying that? I have never even heard of such a concept. Wow!
Yamaha Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Yes, nice guys get the shaft with women because no one wants to be with someone that treats them with respect and class.
knaveman Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Anyone think that nice guys are at a disadvantage in the dating world? *yawn* This topic makes me so sleepy. And slightly nauseous.
16thstreet Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I just want to make sure I'm on the same page here... women don't like nice guys, and women like jerks. Am I off base by saying that? Yes. Completely off base. I just ranted elsewhere, so I will kept this short. When "nice guy" is used as a synonym for "doormat" most women are repulsed and many might prefer a jerk who at least appears to have a spine. However, doormats and jerks are basically the same at their core -- insecure. Insecurity is very unattractive and always surfaces. What women really like are men who are well-balanced and respect themselves and are who are respectable. So on the scale of desirability it may go doormat nice guy (blech) -> jerk (please) ----> well-grounded nice guy (take me now), with each step receiving more desirable choices in mates.
meerkat stew Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I covered this last night, unwilling to retype it, but here's the link. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=216319
16thstreet Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I heard that women unfairly judge short guys. Your thoughts? I am 5'9'' and have declined short guys. Is that unfair? Well, if he's an amazing lover and partner, then I am the fool.
tkgirl Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I heard that women unfairly judge short guys. Your thoughts? hilarious! ooops.... great... time to unsubscribe to this thread now too...
dazzle22 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I think it can go both ways. Nice girls get REALLY burned in the dating world too. Nice PEOPLE get badly burned. I have been burned sooo many times in life by being nice to people, by giving second and third chances, by going out of my way to be generous, etc, that I now have a saying in my mind before I go out of my way for someone..."Be careful,... no good deed goes unpunished.." Sounds cynical, but been burned soo many times, more times than NOT... What IS it about some people that makes them turn on a good kind person??
Yamaha Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 What IS it about some people that makes them turn on a good kind person?? They see kindness as weakness.
amilyah Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I married a nice guy.Well thought i did 20 years later were divorcing because he cheated(midlife i believe).But the first 19 years he was awsome.I would love to find another nice guy.Dont care about looks or weight just as long as he treated me good.So id rather a nice one over the jerks out there that are all into themselves.
Lovelybird Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 dazzle22, I know what you are talking about. I consider myself as a nice and quiet girl, now I am thinking maybe I wasn't honest enough to myself in the past.
burning 4 revenge Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Its a hard world for nice guys Most women I know would rather be ignored by a jerk than stalked by a nice guy Its like the more effort you put into being there for her the more she resents it
16thstreet Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 They see kindness as weakness. Some people see it as a strength. The turning behavior can have 100s of explanations, such as, say, fear of commitment or inability to accept love.
Sam Spade Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Women are like children . Like children, they have tendency to push boundaries (perhaps to test how much you love them ?). Lovingly accomodating such boundary pushing (i.e. being nice) is the worst mistake a man could make since women (much like children) will instantly lose respect to Big Daddy. Hence, administering a spanking every once in a while when they're misbehavin' ironically, and unfortunately, will contribute much more to a succesful relationship than being "nice".
Author Hot Carl Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 Its a hard world for nice guys Most women I know would rather be ignored by a jerk than stalked by a nice guy Its like the more effort you put into being there for her the more she resents it That's exactly my point. You want a little closeness and affection, and they turn their back on you. When you decide, "screw it, I don't need love from you", they turn their back on you. When you go back and say, "sorry, I didn't really mean that. Maybe we can just be friends?" they call the cops. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
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