dakotaems Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Ok… so I started this new job a month or so ago, and am being taught by this woman who I instantly new I liked when I first saw her. After work, she invited me to go have a beer across the street with her and a few other people from work. Then it would be just her and I after work, and we would get a beer and relax for an hour or so. Now she normally is a social person and usually goes out after work. But after a few times we would sitt and talk for hours in her car until 5 or 6am sometimes. Matter of fact a few times. We got off work at 2am. So we would sit drink a beer or two and leave at 3, then hang out until 5 or 6. She has said a few times she had wanted a snuggle buddy. Someone she can sit with and cuddle with. She admitted to being lonely. We would have great conversation, and she sometimes would sit and sing to her CD collection and just be herself. She would talk about her past and my past and would just have a great time. One night I told her I had been texting her because I didn’t want to call her and bother her by calling her, and she then said Maybe I should. (call) She always smiles at me, but she has that type of personality where she smiles all the time. She flirts with me at work all the time by squirting me with water, throwing little things at me and smiling at me. I called he smiley one night in a text and she said she loved it. When we eat dinner at work she sits right next to me. She is next to me most of the time at work, and writes on me with majoc marker or a pen and she drew a smiley face on my arm… One night I didn’t hear from her after I text her, and the next day I text her asking if things were ok, and that because she didn’t get back to me it was ok, as long as she and her daughter were ok. She replied “I love it.” She had an interest in one of her friends who she has been friends with for a long time. They never did anything sexual, just really good friends. She was going to his house one night while he was at work to spend the night and I told her it was a mistake because of the way he was acting and she didn’t need to go there. She said she liked him, but wouldn’t sleep with him, and they had kissed one time a few days before. She told me she didn’t want to go home that night and that she had to go to his apartment. (All this while she is driving behind me towards his apartment… we live in the same area 30 min from work) I told her there were other places to go, and she replied in a text she is scared to go there (where I may be suggesting, my place but I didn’t say that). I asked her why she is scared to go there, and she said “it might be good for her. “(she doesn’t have a great decision making skill for guys) So I thought that was a big positive. Well I called her instead of texting back that minute and asked her are you going to come over to my place or what (laughing but in a way she knew I was serious). Basically her reply was she couldn’t, not this night, and that she was scared. I asked her what she was scared of, she said not me but she was just scared. I asked her if she had a wall up around her she said yes. And she said I could be the guy who takes down that wall. So I saw this as another positive. I asked her out to dinner and she said she would go on a date with me. Now… this is a bad time for her, because she is moving. So, our conversation since she has been so busy has dropped. Texting is only once or twice a day from 10-15 times a day. And when she says she will call me back she doesn’t call back, but then without warning she calls me out of the blue. It may be only for a minute but she still does it. Now she has been hurt by guys, so therefore the wall is up. I can deal with that. I got a text from her one day about a week ago and it said hey how is your day. I told her it was good but it got better. She asked me what was wrong, I said nothing I just heard from a friend so its great now. She replied, don’t be mushy. The other day at work she was more flirty… and smiled at me a lot. She tils her head down and looks up at me to smile sometimes. One night while we were out she brushed her hand across my ear like a hello. She called out work the other day. I was sent home because I was there too long and they said my teacher wasn’t going to be there, so I could leave. I asked her if she wanted anything, and she text me saying she was hungry and to warn me she was sick. She had food in the house, so I went to panera bread got soup and a sandwich and stopped at Walgreens and got some cough drops and chapstick. I stayed at her apartment for a few hours, and we had a good time even though she was sick. After I left she text me saying, she really appreciates all I do for her. A few weeks ago she would have not said that I don’t believe… and she said it then I took that as a positive. My questions are… Does she really like me? Is she telling me she will go out with me because she doesn’t want to hurt my feelings? Does she tell me not to be mushy because she likes it? Does the fact that she says she will call me in a bit and its 3pm and I don’t hear from her the rest of the night, but she has her daughter and goes to bed early when not at work and plays and teaches her daughter who is 15 months… so does she forget or is she just busy and knows she will see me at work the next day… She is in the middle of moving this weekend, and we haven’t talked much. Now I know its Christmas and she is moving so I know she doesn’t have much time. She said she was interested in a guy who was her best friend, and said she wouldn’t have sex with him. I thought it was odd to tell me that, but does that mean I can sit back and relax and wait for the time to be right and that she is that interested in me that I wont lose her to someone else. Now, our work rotates us every other weekend. So we will be working opposite weekend. I seemed frustrated about it and told her it stinks because I wont hang with her as much if at all. She came back and said we will still see each other during the week. I don’t know if she meant at work or outside of work. I am having so much trouble reading her it is killing me… What does every one think. She also told me she is destined to end up with an older man, I am 39 she is 26. she has said that many times. She seems a little more distant, but with everything going on I cant tell if its distant or because she is so busy. Opinions please…
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