skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 For a 51 year old, that's not a great track record for relationships, nvm viable relationships. Two years is pretty short. i agree i should actually say seven i got dumped via satellite email while i was deployed last march
threebyfate Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 i agree i should actually say seven i got dumped via satellite email while i was deployed last marchSo where is your viable relationship experience? Or is it that games slowly eroded on these relationships?
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 btw the way, you asked me abouy "viabe" relationships. i've had many others that i didnt consider "viable"
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 So where is your viable relationship experience? Or is it that games slowly eroded on these relationships? great question i honestly dont know
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 please dont misunderstand me i've had wonderful relationships w/ wonderful women. they just didn't work. the last one on account of this f..king war
bhingie Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 1. You are NOT nice. Kissing up to a girl, and then sulking because she won't have sex with you, or because she decides to go out with someone else is NOT nice. The fact that you bought her something gives you NO reason to expect her to have sex with you. If you wanted sex in exchange for dinner, you should have told her upfront. 8. You could stand to shut up a little more. Look, if you really were "nice", you wouldn't need to shout it from the rooftops every five minutes. Genuine nice guys never tell anyone how nice they are, they just get on with doing nice things and let their actions talk. If you need to say you're a 'nice guy', you're probably just a jerk. I should say that the Number 1 and Number 8 really caught my attention. There are just guys who think that treating a girl to a dinner means that the girl wanted to have sex with them. I mean hello???? Dinner is different from sex. And with the number 8, you are right! It pisses me off when a guy shout every second/minute that he is a nice guy. That is something that i will going to leave right after the 3rd time he will say that. LOL
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Skydiveaddict, please keep us apprised of your results. At least I wanna know. vg: thanks for your kind concern things are chugging along just fine now that i've learned to become an alpha male a..hole, i'm getting more hits than ever!
Vasto_Lorde Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 1. You are NOT nice. Kissing up to a girl, and then sulking because she won't have sex with you, or because she decides to go out with someone else is NOT nice. The fact that you bought her something gives you NO reason to expect her to have sex with you. If you wanted sex in exchange for dinner, you should have told her upfront. 2. You are not funny. Newsflash: It's ok to make a joke or laugh at one occasionally. It's OK to make fun of a woman's flaws occasionally if it's done in a light hearted and funny way. Stop acting like such a miserable stuffed shirt for ****'s sake. 3. You can't be trusted. How can a woman possibly trust you if you have to try to buy her affection with dinners and gifts just to get her to like you. What are you hiding, anyway? Stop trying to pretend you're something you're not. 4. You are a doormat. You just say "yes" to everything she says. What's the point of spending time with you just to find out what she already knows? Newsflash: It's OK to say 'no' occasionally, she might even respect you for it, and she'll certainly trust you more. 5. You're creepy. Look, the fact that she said "hello" to you or maybe smiled at you on one occasion doesn't mean she's about to marry you. Sure, you might have a chance if you can fix up some of your issues, but it won't be helped by following her around and stalking her for the rest of her life. 6. You are a doormat x2. Why can't you move on from that woman who "broke your heart" years ago? What was so special about her anyway? Just move on already! The next woman you meet is a different person, and whatever happened before has nothing to do with her. A true nice guy would realise that and would be prepared to give the new woman a chance. 7. You don't respect women. It's OK for a woman to date a 'jerk' if she so desires. It's none of your business, she's a grown woman, she can do what she wants. If she's dating a 'jerk', she wasn't going to go out with you anyway. Find someone else and leave her alone. At least the 'jerks' can respect a woman who leaves them for someone else. 8. You could stand to shut up a little more. Look, if you really were "nice", you wouldn't need to shout it from the rooftops every five minutes. Genuine nice guys never tell anyone how nice they are, they just get on with doing nice things and let their actions talk. If you need to say you're a 'nice guy', you're probably just a jerk. I think this whole nice guy rubbish has gotten out of hand. What set of characteristics make someone a "nice guy"? I've been told in the past that I'm one of these aforementioned nice guys. Shoot, I've even been accused of being too nice. The problem has always been that I did not and do not believe in the nice guy label or any other label for that matter. I'm just a normal guy living life like the rest. Reading over your list, I can safely say none apply. I do think you are on to something here regarding people pretending to be something they are not.
Madelf Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Thanks for convincing me that it's really a troll and not you. Some people actually thought it was the real madelf.. But now I'm certain it's not. Thanks. And this has always been your reaction when you're challenged. You have an odd sense of always wanting to be right, yet your knowledge of the real world is so shallow.
sagetalk Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Only if you're in the hit it and quit it game. Beyond that, if you're honestly looking for a viable relationship, games detract from trust and respect, which makes it impossible for love to happen. Keep in mind that we could have completely different interpretations of what the word "games" really mean. Most guys face extremely tough dating situations and terrible odds. It is not uncommon that a young, attractive, fun girl has 5 to 10+ guys pursuing her when she is single. The guys are all mostly as cool, interested, and crafty as each other. If you just play it by ear and be yourself, the odds are the guys that are playing games are gonna create more interest and mow you down.
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