Author Golfilla Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 I agree with you completely. The problem is, there are not enough women who want nice guys for who they are. So I guess they view it as "I have to become an ahole to at least get a shot at a woman" but it will of course be the wrong kind of woman.. But the odds are not in guys' favor these days. What do you care, Steve? You've openly admitted to hating women, you have even advocated violence against women in this thread. You're the last person who could ever be called a "nice guy" and your opinions on women would suggest you have absolutely no desire to associate with them anyway.
scenester Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 A women will never like a full blown jerk. You have to be "nice" at times, "arrogant" at times, and "confident" at times. Women like nice guys who are confident which just so happens to be one of the characteristics of a "jerk." If your mean to a girl 24/7, it will not win her over.
Author Golfilla Posted December 27, 2009 Author Posted December 27, 2009 Here's something else about self-proclaimed "nice guys" -- a lot of them only ever think of themselves. All you hear from them is how they really want a girlfriend, but they can't find one because women love jerks or whatever. A real nice guy would consider others occasionally, particularly those less fortunate than themselves. They would appreciate the things they have in life and would devote time to helping others rather than whining about their single status.
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 A women will never like a full blown jerk. You have to be "nice" at times, "arrogant" at times, and "confident" at times. Women like nice guys who are confident which just so happens to be one of the characteristics of a "jerk." If your mean to a girl 24/7, it will not win her over. i guess i agree w/ that ya gotta be the "sweet, sensitive guy" @ times. but it's a dangerous balance to gauge. the minute you come off as a "nice guy" you will be dumped
sally4sara Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 i guess i agree w/ that ya gotta be the "sweet, sensitive guy" @ times. but it's a dangerous balance to gauge. the minute you come off as a "nice guy" you will be dumped Can I ask how old you are really? I'm not trying to be mean or anything but a few times I've gotten a real sense that you might be too young for this site. The most recent moment was when you perceived taking pictures of river otters to worms or grubs. That and this fixation on nice guy vs jerk......are you in middle school or as old as high school yet? Way too young to actually be jaded. Something just feels staged or forced with your posts.
samsungxoxo Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Another thing is you're not nice if you have to rely on online articles, followed everything people tell you on a dating forum (word for word) and own a book on how to attract us girls... That's like telling a deer hunter how to catch rabbits. Keep wasting time on sounding desperate and you'll attract nothing but flies....
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Can I ask how old you are really? nice to hear from you again sally i know you're not trying to be mean. i might seem a little jaded, that's because i'm 51 yrs old
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 ... That's like telling a deer hunter how to catch rabbits. Keep wasting time on sounding desperate and you'll attract nothing but flies.... i dont catch rabbits, when they're in season i shoot 'em. actually any deer hunter could kill a rabbit with ease. and i'm not desperate in the least i have a great time living life. i'm just expressing opinions here
scenester Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Being mean to a girl is not gonna win her over. If you show her you are "confident" and "arrogant" at times you'll will be perceived as a "jerk," and yes, you will attract women, but if you can't be nice and treat them well then they won't stick around. You need to find the balance. NEVER say you're a nice guy or that you did something nice for a women - rid yourself of that cliche term.
jw90063 Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 http://www.romancestuck.com/articles/niceguy.htm This article is interesting.
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Being mean to a girl is not gonna win her over. If you show her you are "confident" and "arrogant" at times you'll will be perceived as a "jerk," and yes, you will attract women, but if you can't be nice and treat them well then they won't stick around. You need to find the balance. NEVER say you're a nice guy or that you did something nice for a women - rid yourself of that cliche term. i agree with you it's just mastering the fine art of knowing when to be "nice"
threebyfate Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 i agree with you it's just mastering the fine art of knowing when to be "nice"It's not a game. Learn it and live it.
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 It's not a game. Learn it and live it. i've already lived it and learned it. a long time ago but i must disagree w/ you it is indeed a game
sagetalk Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 http://www.romancestuck.com/articles/niceguy.htm This article is interesting. Most of that article was nice guy bashing bull. A doormat is not a nice guy, he's a doormat. A nice guy is not someone who is nice just to get something they want. How is that a nice person? I'll never understand why people are so obsessed with labeling nice guys as sissy's, pushovers, wimps, doormats, with other motives. This crap gets so old .
sagetalk Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 It's not a game. Learn it and live it. I could not disagree more. It is a game.
threebyfate Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 i've already lived it and learned it. a long time ago but i must disagree w/ you it is indeed a game I could not disagree more. It is a game. Only if you're in the hit it and quit it game. Beyond that, if you're honestly looking for a viable relationship, games detract from trust and respect, which makes it impossible for love to happen.
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 I'll never understand why people are so obsessed with labeling nice guys as sissy's, pushovers, wimps, doormats, with other motives. This crap gets so old . because "nice guys" are indeed sissys ,wimps , pushovers & doormats
sagetalk Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 because "nice guys" are indeed sissys ,wimps , pushovers & doormats You are sadly mistaken.
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Only if you're in the hit it and quit it game. Beyond that, if you're honestly looking for a viable relationship, games detract from trust and respect, which makes it impossible for love to happen. thats the whole point. the 'game" is part of a viable relationship. i'm not putting value judgements on it i'm simply saying thats part of developing a relationship
threebyfate Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 thats the whole point. the 'game" is part of a viable relationship. i'm not putting value judgements on it i'm simply saying thats part of developing a relationshipHave you ever had a viable relationship?
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 You are sadly mistaken. no i'm not & you know it
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 Have you ever had a viable relationship? of course many times
threebyfate Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 of course many timesHow many and how long did they last?
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 How many and how long did they last? just off the top of my head, i'd say six. proably lasted about two years each on average
threebyfate Posted December 27, 2009 Posted December 27, 2009 just off the top of my head, i'd say six. proably lasted about two years each on averageFor a 51 year old, that's not a great track record for relationships, nvm viable relatonships. Two years is pretty short.
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