Falling for an escort!

[Scottie]

I haven’t told the whole truth

 

I‘ve been seeing her for around eight months. It’s been pretty regular for around 5 months, that’s because I have had health issues of late and I guess I just wanted to see her as a friend.

 

 

We seem to get on; this is the sort of thing I mean.....

 

She confided in me when she had a fallen out with a friend who was really mean to her.

(On the phone and during out time together)

She also confided in me when she split with her ex

I confided in her when I had health issues

She said I could call her anytime if I wanted to talk)

We talk about family/work her job/things we do eleswhere in life

She tells me about her kids (She’s even shown me photos)

She says she can see something is wrong because I show it in my facial expressions and she asks me to tell her what is wrong

We haven’t been xmas shopping yet, mainly due to her paying her bills and stuff.

 

I text her today to say thanks for being a friend and happy xmas and she text back that I was also a good friend.

 

I am not really sure what is going on, I don’t know how she feels, I don’t know how I feel.

Edited December 23, 2009 by Scottie

[JamesM]

It is very possible that she does like you as a friend. And it is also likely that she enjoys the money you spend on her. Loyal customers in stores do become friends withe the owners or clerks. But there is still a line.

 

As for Christmas shopping, my guess is that you may find yourself "wanting" to help her pay for her gifts. Just a thought.

 

There is a long story that I cannot link here about a guy who fell for an escort. The gist of the story is that she took him for alot of money even though they ended up living together while she still worked as an escort. He paid for alot of stuff for her and gave her a place rent free, because he was in love. Of course this was while he was married, then separated, and finally divorced from his "frigid" wife. Up til that point he had seen many escorts, but narrowed it down to her because they loved each other.

 

The story ended up badly for him. He was out of tens of thousands of dollars and she left him. She was busted by the police and took down a couple of high ranking people with her. She now has a legitimate job...allegedly.

 

He is now pretty much bankrupt and lonely. Sad...as a lawyer, he should have known better. Another case of the wrong head doing the thinking. He would tell you to run.

 

As long as she is an escort and as long as you are still paying anything for her, then you are still in a business relationship. You have crossed over the line that can never be forgotten in the escort industry...it is all about the money. It is a business transaction and nothing more.

[robert8]

She said that she was leaving her job very soon? What is it exactly she is leaving to?

 

Maybe she really needs a friend if she is going through BF issues, did she also meet her BF the same way she met you?

 

You said she had children, is she much older than you are?

Edited December 26, 2009 by robert8

[whichwayisup]

why wouldn't you just tell the truth and whole situation from the beginning?

 

Anyway, if you like her, she likes you, just come right out and ask how she feels about you. or let her know that you care about her and hope she feels the same way...

[Scottie]

I don't know why I didn't tell her the truth from the start. I am worried about what might happen if I tell her how I feel because I don't think she feels the same.

 

She's isn't leaving for the time being. She didn't meet her boyfriend the same way I met her because he dosent know what she does for a job.

She is 25 and I am 21.

[Space Ritual]

I don't know why I didn't tell her the truth from the start. I am worried about what might happen if I tell her how I feel because I don't think she feels the same.

 

She's isn't leaving for the time being. She didn't meet her boyfriend the same way I met her because he dosent know what she does for a job.

She is 25 and I am 21.

 

 

You are nothing but a mark.

 

You will be replaced as soon as she can sucker somebody with a bigger dick or more money.

 

You are in fantasyland. Get checked for STDs and move on

[Scottie]

You are nothing but a mark.

 

You will be replaced as soon as she can sucker somebody with a bigger dick or more money.

 

You are in fantasyland. Get checked for STDs and move on

 

 

Nice of you to say I have a big dick. I use protection thanks.

 

Aside from paying for her services she hasn't asked or I have given her any other cash, she has never hinted, I have never bought her anything.

[LucreziaBorgia]

As long as you are paying for her services, you aren't much more than a steady source of income. If you want to see how she really feels about you, simply tell her that you can't pay for services anymore but that you want to date her.

 

Of course, if you are ok with paying for her services, then continue to do so - just understand that your relationship will only be as strong as your cashflow in her direction.

[latefragment]

I think everyone here is giving you HORRIBLE advice.

 

I think she LIKES you and wants you to STEP UP and ask to be her Boyfriend.

 

Tell her you want to be her boyfriend and see what she says. if she says, NO then you have your answer.

 

PLEASE do this. From what you've told me it sounds like she likes you back. I don't know if she likes you as much as you like her, but I know she likesyou. So, ASK HER!!!! Don't waste any more time. PLEASE.

 

Some people make decisions in life because they have children to support and no other income (say, the father is gone). The other posters are judging her lifestyle and work decisions unfairly.

[Scottie]

latefragment I think you are right. I am going to tell her how I feel when I see her next, I am off work sick at the moment but when I am feeling better I will go and see her and tell her how I feel about her.

 

I don't know how she is going to react but its driving me nuts.

 

Thanks x

[latefragment]

THANK GOODNESS, keep me posted.

 

Just tell her the truth and see what she says. Honestly. I think she will tell you she likes you as more than just a client.

 

Obviously, she could be saying this to get more $$ out of you, but you know what, everyone on earth could also be struck by a meteorite tomorrow.

 

I say, GO FOR IT. I bet she'll say she likes you back and even if she does't you can finally stop worrying. There is no time like the present keep me posted. xx

[JamesM]

Scottie....

 

Please do us a favor and give us an update after you next meet with the escort.

 

Your experiences one way or another will be a help to others.

[Scottie]

Yes will do!

[SincereOnlineGuy]

You are nothing but a mark.

 

You will be replaced as soon as she can sucker somebody with a bigger dick or more money.

 

You are in fantasyland. Get checked for STDs and move on

 

 

 

LOL - there's a good one... a working girl supposedly in search of a client with a bigger dick.

 

 

That should almost be a stereotype... except it would be the 'big (penises, I mean)" which would make for the worst sessions.

[Scottie]

Sadly I think most of you were right! This girl has text me today "Sorry to ask this but I have I done something wrong to you?" I text back "What do you mean?" she texts back "You haven't text or rang me so I thought I had done something to upset you"

 

The reason I haven't met up with her is because I was ill for a week, then we had bad snow and the roads around here were bad, then my car broke down. However I did text just to keep in touch.

 

I think her reasons for saying what she did are because I haven't asked to meet her for sex for a couple of weeks and she needs to make some cash.

 

I just text back "Don't be silly lol x" but if I had told her the above she would text back something like "Ok let me know if you want to meet up next week?"

 

I think its time to leave this girl alone as much as it hurts me to do so.

[Ronni_W]

I think her reasons for saying what she did are because I haven't asked to meet her for sex for a couple of weeks and she needs to make some cash.

...if I had told her the above she would text back something like

Scottie, you're just making up stuff about what she's thinking and what she MIGHT say -- you're just guessing and assuming her side of things.

 

Have you told her how you feel yet? I'd suggest that you not just assume what's going on for her. Communicate with her. Find out for sure.

Regardless of the woman's profession, you need to step up and open up about what is going on inside of you. You can't have a relationship with ANYBODY without communicating your own thoughts, feelings, needs, likes, dislikes, etc., etc.

[JamesM]

Scottie, oddly though I posted differently, I think you are making assumptions. Ronni is right...you don't know what she is thinking.

 

Perhaps it is the tone of her text that bothers you. And you could be right, but based on what you typed, I cannot draw the same conclusion as you did yet.

 

Telling her how you feel will make everything clear. Doing so will not only make it clear for both of you, but it will prevent you from always wondering how she really felt.

 

It is a risk, but not knowing will hurt more IMO.

[Scottie]

I can tell what she is thinking, its clear she is only interested in cash, when were supposed to go shopping together she let me down about six times, the last time it was an hour before we were supposed to meet. She didn't call or anything. But if I had text her to meet for sex she would have jumped at it - because she's getting over £250 a time from me.

 

I became a regular - it was every week, sometimes twice a week and now nothing for six weeks or so, so she wants to know when she can earn some more money and she pretends she's my friend to get it.

[Scottie]

I don’t want this thread to go on but I wanted to update you all. And thank you for your advice.

 

I visited this girl on Monday; I hadn’t seen her for a month and half. We got talking and she told me the reason she didn’t go xmas shopping with me was because she didn’t have enough money and she was embarrassed to say so. She told me that when I accused her of texting her to prompt me to go and see her, it upset her because she hoped that I would have known her well enough by now to know that she cares about me. I asked her how she felt and she said she sees me as a friend as well as a client. She said we get on well with each other and she was texting me because of my heath issues and she was worried about me.

 

So now I know and I am pleased that she likes me more than a client, I am glad to be her friend.

[JamesM]

Thanks for the update. rarely does a thread get too long...especially when someone posts new information relating to the topic.

 

Surprisingly, many of us do like to know how your life is going.

 

As for her simply wanting to be her friend, I would say accept it and move forward. There is no danger in that. If it turns out that you think she is simply using you, then you can make a decision at that time.

 

To not trust her because of her "occupation," is unnecessary. I know that escorts do keep guys on the string to keep perpetual business, but that certainly does not mean that every man they know is simply for business. In fact the opposite is probably true. Many have boyfriends and male friends that they keep separate from their business "clients."

 

So accept her word until you think it is suspect. And enjoy.

[Lizzie60]

I don’t want this thread to go on but I wanted to update you all. And thank you for your advice.

 

I visited this girl on Monday; I hadn’t seen her for a month and half. We got talking and she told me the reason she didn’t go xmas shopping with me was because she didn’t have enough money and she was embarrassed to say so. She told me that when I accused her of texting her to prompt me to go and see her, it upset her because she hoped that I would have known her well enough by now to know that she cares about me. I asked her how she felt and she said she sees me as a friend as well as a client. She said we get on well with each other and she was texting me because of my heath issues and she was worried about me.

 

So now I know and I am pleased that she likes me more than a client, I am glad to be her friend.

 

 

Sorry but I must have missed something.. this girl is an escort.. and had no money for X-mas shopping.. humm... is she into drugs..

 

Be very very careful.. especially if she's an escort and broke.. bad combination..

[melodymatters]

This sounds to me like the kind of "friends" I would make when bartending ! I never saw them outside of when I was working, but I DID care about them and their lives and knew many personal details.

 

At the end of the day, I liked them enough to care about them, I recieved much better tips from them because they also cared about me, but at the end of the day, the friendships didn't survive once I was no longer working at said bar.

 

You sound lonely. I think you need to find a non professional woman friend that you can actually get together and do things with. She will also care about your health and issues, but it will be more honest.

[Scottie]

Sorry but I must have missed something.. this girl is an escort.. and had no money for X-mas shopping.. humm... is she into drugs..

 

Be very very careful.. especially if she's an escort and broke.. bad combination..

 

 

No she isn't into drugs. She just had bills to pay off and two kids to buy xmas presents for. I believe her.

[Aedra]

I would answer with "I really like you and want to be with you, but I can't pay you anymore."

 

I suspect you won't hear from her again.

 

Best response to give to her in my opinion. You'll find out the truth after that.

[Greenpeacer]

You sound lonely. I think you need to find a non professional woman friend that you can actually get together and do things with. She will also care about your health and issues, but it will be more honest.

 

Yeah at 21, you can meet many single girls from 16- 25 and just pay for dinner instead of L200 for each time. ( Try tango, yoga or classes lots of women!) I remember walking in London and a pretty girl ticketed for biking by a cop on a Big Horse. I asked her for a coffee she said no but WAS very happy to hear from me. She was really cute and I was there for only 4 days. met another girl at Victoria Station, mind they knew I was a tourist.

 

So

and y need to build those dating skills anyway. What do you say? You can tell your escort that if She leaves her Ex and if doesnt mind dating you for YOU as a date, then you'd be happy to hang out. (but NOT for shopping bec thats not dating thats sugar daddying and its not emotional reality

Edited February 14, 2010 by Greenpeacer