MizFit Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Thank you NID...it's been a hard few weeks and your response actually sparked a couple of tears.
Author justforfun Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 I wish more MM/MW would read this thread more carefully, in order to understand what their future relationship with their children when they reach adulthood will look like. In short you are playing with fire. What most posters seem to miss is the disrespect and contempt JFF has for her mother for cheating on her father. As she reached adulthood she is able to put two and two together. This is common amongst children who have a parent cheat, when they reach adulthood, they side with the parent who has been hurt and distance themselves from the parent who cheated. Thank you for your response. You're absolutely right. When I moved to the US my son was 7 years old. My Mother was heartbroken (allegedly since I don't trust her expression of her emotions to be true). I wasn't fazed at all. I hadn't considered her feelings and still don't to this day. I don't go out of my way to hurt my Mother but I do live my life without any regard to her. When she visits the strain is terrible. She acts like some wounded animal. She held together a marriage, a successful business and an affair when it suited her. Now she tries to act as though she can't do anything, that everything is so difficult for her to do and is totally reliant on her now partner of 10 years to organize the most simple of things. She drives me crazy. It's as though she can't function without all that in her life. And then she tries to tell me how to live my life and what to do with my child. That's just way out of line as far as I'm concerned. She tells me that my little half-brother is nowhere near as smart, cute, clever, funny as I was as a child. She cried because she was here when I had a spare key cut for my Dad's wife. Said she felt left out! WTf?? She acts as though she wasn't a b!tc# when I was growing up. That woman lives with her head firmly stuck in denial. A complicated set of events. But life has turned out the best it can. My son and I now live 15 minutes from my father, his new wife and my brother (the boy they had together.) It's wonderful. My son and my Dad love each other so much it's beautiful to see. My Dad's wife is an amazing person and I love her to bits. My little brother is my joy. My Dad is so happy to have us here. And we're so happy to be here. As my BF of 20 years says. Your mother has the mothering skills of an alley cat and your Dad has always been your Mom.
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