thisisrightnow Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 So I met this guy a week ago and we were texting every day (which I don't know if it was a no-no from the get go). I saw him 3 times last week in the span of 4 days, and he even ended up staying the night one of those nights (we just cuddled). Do guys start talking to a girl a lot and then realize they need to slow down so they put communication on hold or not as frequent? It's just weird hearing from a guy constantly and then when you don't, you wonder. I talked to him Sunday in the morning cause I got sick Saturday night and he told me to text him when I woke up, so I did. And then he texted me at night (we hadn't talked since the morning) and was like, "Night sweetie". I texted him when I was at work yesterday morning and we did that a few times back and forth. I asked what his plans for the day were and he said WoW (world of warcraft). So I assume he played that all day and that's why I haven't heard from him. So I was gonna wait til he texted me again cause I don't like to appear clingy by talking to a guy every day. I'm wondering if I don't hear from him in a day or two if something is up. He did also tell me has trust issues due to past relationships with the girl either cheating on him or just not knowing what she wanted in the end, and he said his last relationship went south pretty fast. Would a guy distance themselves a bit for that reason alone? Maybe he thought things were progressing too fast since we were seeing each other a lot and talking to each other a lot and it was only the first week. Or maybe he just simply wanted 'me' time? Or just isn't interested anymore? I know he doesn't have to be in contact with me every second, it's just unsettling when you DO hear from a guy all the time and then it slows down. Thoughts? From a guys perspective, do you think we were talking/seeing each other too much? I just wish I could get into his head and I can't. By the way, we are both 25.
sunshinegirl Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 The fact that you are asking this after knowing this guy for one week tells me things are moving too fast for such a nascent relationship. In other words, you don't have a solid foundation to be able to ask HIM what it means. When there's more trust and open communication between two people, this kind of dynamic becomes a non-issue because you can just talk about it. But to answer your original question, I don't know that there's a "right" amount of talking but the amount of contact you've had thus far seems excessive to me. You should have your own life, friendships, hobbies, and activities such that you're not focusing undue energy on whether/when/how often some new guy gets in touch.
torranceshipman Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 The very fact he spent all day playing WoW is a bit of a red flag to me... Mind you he must have been secure enough in himself to admit this to a love interest straight off the bat so kudos to him, lol!
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