aphrodite85 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Well, Im kindda new here... but I will like to share a little bit of myself .. and stuff that has been bothering me for the last few weeks... Also coz I will like some feedback, advices, tips or whatever you want !!... My love story comes like this!... hehe! well there is this guy that I know for almost 5 years o more, he is the cousin of one my best friends. And well, for a lot of years I only look at him like a friend, but 3 weeks ago after a long time without seeing each other we were at the same party, having some drinks, talking all night, and I felt something in that moment ....and i caught myself flirting a lot with him... so that night I don't know if it was because of the drinks, or why... but we kissed ... just kisses and pg-13 stuff holding hands, etc... but the story doesnt end there the next night I went to another party, and he was also there... and he was the same way with me ... kind, and sweet, and gentle... so he said he will call... an he did!!! He called me like everyday for a week!!.. we stay up til 2am or more everyday!... and suddenly one day he didnt call , so I called him ( like a routine call) ... but he didnt answer back... Few days later I called him again coz I havent hear form him!..but the same! he didn't answer, I left a couple of messages ... just saying hello! ... but... Noo!! Nothing!... So 2 weeks later He was on-line! ... and we were chating, but he wasn't like before, I was trying to flirt with him! but I wasn't getting response...So I decide to go back to the Friends stage! and forget about anything else with him!... But , well as more I wanted to forget him, more that I think about him!.. ... and well Now is what happend this weekend! The same thing we were in a party, and I knew he was going to be there, so I was so exited... and nervous... When I saw him my heart was almost getting out from my body... and we were together the hole night !! dancing, having fun, talking, .... and we kissed again.. and now this time everybody (friends, his family) looked at us!... we looked like a new in love couple, kissing, and hugging all night ... it was great! and well we end the night having sex ! ( I dont know if that was ok or not.. but it felt great!!)... In few words it was magical! And the next day! the same, we were together with some friends, and his family,etc... he was not so charming like the day before, but it was nice! And now!! my fears are that he doesnt call back or that happens the same thing that before!.. so ..question? what should i do to avoid getting blow off! I really like this guy! But men sometimes are so difficult to read that i dont know what to think!...
iwanttolive Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Hello, for me, if a guy has not shown any strong feeling or commitment towards me, I would take everything that has happened as two adults giving each other a good time. I would not want to make myself vulnerable by falling in love with him. I would go on about my own life, having a blast with lotsa other people. If you are happy on your own feet, you will be more attractive and people would love to be part of your fabulous life. Hope it helps
BookerT Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 As a guy my take on this would be. Since you have so many family and friends that know the both of you if he starts anything then he would have to make a proper commitment. So he's scared or doesn't want to make that step.
Author aphrodite85 Posted November 4, 2009 Author Posted November 4, 2009 yeahh I think you are right!... didnt think about it that way!... I will take everything like slow then ... and with no pressure for him!!.. coz there is no rush!!..
boogieboy Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Theres nothing you can do to make him want you more, he either is into you or he isnt. I'd think he wasnt that into you, judging from his behavior....and he knows you will come running. You might want to keep your distance.
dreamergrl Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Not so charming the day after having sex? I don't think he's looking for much of a relationship with you. He went MIA on you, until you ran into him. Maybe he thought he'd have a chance to score since you so willingly got all mushy the second time around. Did he ever try to sleep with you before?
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