I just feel like i'm going to end up alone...& i'm scared of that

[Nikki Sahagin]

With my ex, I knew even through the hard times, I just had this feeling, he was it. I had some kind of tenacity for him, for us. I wanted us to last forever.

 

I can't imagine where or how i'll meet anyone else i'll feel that way about again. I mean we met when we were 16. We were young and we went through things together. Now is the age where all your friends drift apart to do their own thing. You can't meet people in the same way. I am only young but I just think its harder? I have this feeling of dread that i'll end up alone, when I want a partner to share my life with, but not just ANY partner, the one I just 'KNOW' I want to be with (which I did with him). I hate having this shadow of fear hovering over me.

[htoofani]

Hey Nikki, I know how you feel like. I just went through a breakup myself and i know it sucks hard. Finding that someone else wont happen overnight, hell ive been trying for a while and it isnt easy. Ive been looking for someone like my ex but ended up realizing that i dont want anyone LIKE her, i want her. And that just causes more anguish and pain. But here's the good part, there's always someone out there who can make you feel good about yourself and even looks good lol. He's out there and sooner or later he'll find you if you dont. It may seem cliche'd but dont worry, its gonna be okay. If you 2 were meant to be together, you will be. If not, there's always someone better out there even if it doesnt seem like it at the moment. Hope this helps, and good luck!

 

PS. here's something i need help on, feel free to post an opinion

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t205673/?highlight=relationship+crisis

[GrayClouds]

Never in the history of mankind has a girl named Nikki ended up alone by choice, that is double-ly true when they spell it with two "K's".

[ecm]

Never in the history of mankind has a girl named Nikki ended up alone by choice, that is double-ly true when they spell it with two "K's".

 

Geez, Gray Clouds... I get teary reading that and I'm not even pmsing That was a very nice response. (and I've also her that, Nikki)

[GrayClouds]

Geez, Gray Clouds... I get teary reading that and I'm not even pmsing That was a very nice response. (and I've also her that, Nikki)

 

thanks ( i got teary eyed just think how lucky that red face fellow next to you is)

 

Was it mentioned if there are two "i's" also that you will likely become the Queen of your own island (giving you the pick of the litter and love slaves if wanted). True.

[Nikki Sahagin]

:)Grey clouds, you're very sweet :)

If only that were true!

[PinkToes]

I think I've felt that way after every relationship I've been in. And once I remember I was absolutely convinced that I would never love someone as much ever again because we were so good togther and so in love and so connected. How could I possibly feel that way again?

 

But always I was wrong. There was someone else when the time was right. I never dated online or did anything special to meet someone. I didn't even date between relationships, even though a year might go by. I've never really liked that whole dating-with-strangers thing. I just went on with my life, and it happened.

 

Looking back, I've met future b/fs at work (3 times), through friends, at a party, and on a political campaign. So they're out there, and you will love again, guaranteed!

[Ilovecake]

You'll find someone even though you can't fathom that right now because you’re in pain. Obviously you have a great capacity for love or you wouldn't have spent years in a relationship. There are over 7,000,000,000 people in this world; we're practically tripping over each other. If you think about that it is actually implausible that you will not find someone else.

[Turista]

You simply *will* find someone...

 

But it won't happen until you get over this... And you need to cut yourself enough slack to let that happen...

 

I've been going through a breakup for the past 2 months as well, and the first rays of light finally broke through in the past 2 weeks...

 

Some you can love even more will come, you will move on, and this will all become a part of your past...

[angelface78]

Nikki youre not going to end up alone. DONT WORRY! I had a boyfriend from age 17 to 24. We broke up, and i felt exactly the way you do. I felt lost and like i would never be sure about another man being the one. I felt like i was never going to fall in love again.....but i did fall in love again. Look.. here i am crying over my most recent ex. We will all fall in love more than once. It wont be the same but it might even be better. Dont worry hun...you will not end up alone.

[Nikki Sahagin]

You guys are all so lovely.

 

Its nice to know i'm not alone.

 

Thankyou for all taking the time to reply and help put a smile back on my face:)

[ecm]

thanks ( i got teary eyed just think how lucky that red face fellow next to you is)

 

Was it mentioned if there are two "i's" also that you will likely become the Queen of your own island (giving you the pick of the litter and love slaves if wanted). True.

 

LOL. That took me a minute.

[sb129]

You won't be alone. You have HEAPS of time to find the one.

In the meantime, have FUN!

 

Better to be alone and living life to the fullest in your 20s than wasting it on losers who make you unhappy. You can't get that time back...

[GrayClouds]

If only that were true!

It is, it is, I read it on the internet.

 

 

 

:)Grey clouds, you're very sweet :)

To be the ex seemed to be diabetic.