cardinalfan5 Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2327958#post2327958 OK Im sure you remember when I wrote this if you havent take a look But I have made first eye to eye contact with her ever since I asked her out over the internet. I was at the cornboil (Its a huge ceremony for the first day of school 0 And I was walking up the stairs talking to my parents. She stared at me for a little then when I walked up the sstairs she looked away and made a straight face. Then I passed her in the hallway and her and her friend gave me this evil looking smile. I dont think she was laughing but this weird smile. Is that a sign she still likes me or is she making fun of me? She also stared at me for 2 seconds while with her friends. So im sure you read that if you havent take a look but should I ask this girl when the time comes? Because it sounded like she didnt want to date in the summer.
BCCA Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 She blew you off, shes not interested. There is naturally some awkward-ish moments, but trust me, the smiles are because her and her friends know she turned you down. Youre reading way too far into things, and honestly, you should have let this go a long time ago. She gave you one of the more 'definite' turn downs Ive seen, sorry to say. Thats not going to change, especially since shes told everyone she knows shes not interested in you.
dreamergrl Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I just read your other post... she has told you no many times. You need to take a hint. You're giving yourself false hoping, trying to convince yourself that she's into you when she's not. Seriously, move on, before it becomes creepy.
Author cardinalfan5 Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 Yes but she has told many other people that she did like me and my friend who asked her is very trustworthy. She said she would go out with me but its the end of the school year and she didnt know when shed see me. When she did like me she played these staring games with me sort of similar to this one. She asked me to dance at the 8th grade dance and in April she told me she thinks about it every day. Seriously how could she of changed her mind in a matter of 4 days?
silverfish Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Whatever her feelings are, teenage girls are playing at relationships at that age. Its unlikely you'll find out exactly how she feels about you by asking anyone you know, her friends, your friends, people on here. My nana still has a note from a boy I liked in school. He wrote a really sweet note about me & how he liked me and I wrote back 'I HATE you' (underlined 3 times), I actually really liked him but I wasn't ready to date anyone or talk about my feelings. I also liked the attention It sounds like shes not interested for whatever reason and you have to respect her feelings as she already communicated them to you. Best thing you can do is be polite to her, nonchalant, smile and live your life - but don't try and be her friend unles she comes to you now.
boogieboy Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 The more you look at her, the more she and her friends are laughing at you because they know she turned you down, and you couldnt take the hint. The smirks are them laughing at you. Women do change their minds in a matter of seconds. You will learn this as you get older. One thing you say will turn them off permanently. Thats why all those IM's and emails you sent ruined it or you. SHE DOES NOT LIKE YOU. Shes an evil little one that is toying with you too. But if you want to keep thinking she DOES like you, then shes waiting for you to go up to her and show her your clever self. DOnt ask her out, just talk to her and attract her to who you are. Its not going to happen if you keep walking by her. If you cant get her alone, she might be even more attracted to you if you approach her whole group of friends and involve them in some interesting conversatioon. Thats all its about is interesting conversation. You prepared to do this???
Author cardinalfan5 Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 So your saying she changed her mind because my messages were stupid? If so is there any way to win her back over? I mean shes not in any of my classes but maybe ill see her at a football game next friday. But you seriously think she doesnt like me just because of Facebook? Is there any way of winning her over?
northstar1 Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 So your saying she changed her mind because my messages were stupid? If so is there any way to win her back over? I mean shes not in any of my classes but maybe ill see her at a football game next friday. But you seriously think she doesnt like me just because of Facebook? Is there any way of winning her over? Likely not. Cut your loses and find another girl.
boogieboy Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 So your saying she changed her mind because my messages were stupid? If so is there any way to win her back over? I mean shes not in any of my classes but maybe ill see her at a football game next friday. But you seriously think she doesnt like me just because of Facebook? Is there any way of winning her over? Yes, No, Yes, and Dammit, NO! This is why I dont want kids. Damn A.D.D.
Cora Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Let this one go. I think if she was interested in you, you would definitely know it and would not have to question. There are plenty of other women out there who would actually appreciate a guy like you winning them over. Go out and find them and put your energy into them, not some girl who isn't interested.
boogieboy Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Let this one go. I think if she was interested in you, you would definitely know it and would not have to question. There are plenty of other women out there who would actually appreciate a guy like you winning them over. Go out and find them and put your energy into them, not some girl who isn't interested. Matter of fact, once you start being seen with other girls in school, watch how much attention she gives you.
dreamergrl Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I do not miss being young! Seriously OP - you're thinking about it way to much. Don't start over analyzing at a young age, it will get worse as you grow older, and it's hard to stop it then, trust me!
boogieboy Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I do not miss being young! Seriously OP - you're thinking about it way to much. Don't start over analyzing at a young age, it will get worse as you grow older, and it's hard to stop it then, trust me! Oh shyt.. good point!! Hey Cardinal, now is the time to remember that a girl who is interested in you will make life easy for you, and she will show her interest. You wont have to work hard and you wont have to wonder. Anyone who doesnt show interest in you right away, you just say Next! It can become a bad habit when you get used to pursuing girls who arent interested in you, because you forget what its like when they actually do like you. So once again, when you show interest in one, and she isnt receptive, move on to the next, dont get attached to someone before youve gone on a few official dates. Memorize Coras words. Understand?
Author cardinalfan5 Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 Oh shyt.. good point!! Hey Cardinal, now is the time to remember that a girl who is interested in you will make life easy for you, and she will show her interest. You wont have to work hard and you wont have to wonder. Anyone who doesnt show interest in you right away, you just say Next! It can become a bad habit when you get used to pursuing girls who arent interested in you, because you forget what its like when they actually do like you. So once again, when you show interest in one, and she isnt receptive, move on to the next, dont get attached to someone before youve gone on a few official dates. Memorize Coras words. Understand? She did show interest ALOT of interest a ton last year. March April and Early May she showed a ton. When she stopped flirting with me she took off the You know when facebook asks you why your on facebook? And you can choose friendship Dating and A relationship? Well she took off her interests in facebook A relationship but still said she was single. So my friend asked her if she would go out with me and she said she would but its the end of the school year and she didnt know when shed see me and she was afraid a summer fling wouldnt work out. And Im not sure if this smiling staring game is a sign. Im not good with girls im sorry. But hopes that clears it up.
dreamergrl Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 She did show interest ALOT of interest a ton last year. March April and Early May she showed a ton. When she stopped flirting with me she took off the You know when facebook asks you why your on facebook? And you can choose friendship Dating and A relationship? Well she took off her interests in facebook A relationship but still said she was single. So my friend asked her if she would go out with me and she said she would but its the end of the school year and she didnt know when shed see me and she was afraid a summer fling wouldnt work out. And Im not sure if this smiling staring game is a sign. Im not good with girls im sorry. But hopes that clears it up. Do you understand at all what anyone is saying?? You're trying to convince yourself there is something there when there's not. That was last year, this is now. You're coming across as very desperate. You're also cyber stalking her fb. She's told you no several times. No means No. It doesn't mean maybe. It doesn't mean over analyze. It doesn't mean make nothing into something. You're just repeating yourself. If you grow up with this behavour - it's only going to get worse.
BCCA Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Dude, its simple, when girls like you, they make it easy to ask them out and they say yes. You dont have to win them back or use some sort of Jedi mind trick to get a date. When youre trying to do more than you should have to, she isnt interested. Once shes said 'no', especially as clearly as she did and more than once, she isnt interested. Stop trying to rationalize what she felt last year, it makes no difference. Girls can change their mind in minutes. Shes not interested. Youre in college, there are girls all around you. Stop spinning your wheels on this one.
Author cardinalfan5 Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 Im not in college. Im a siophomore in HS if that helps. Why do they change their minds so much? Im pretty sure this girl has liked me for over a year. She asked me to dance at a dance over a year ago. Then in April of this year she told me she thinks about it every day. So I know for a fact she was interested in me when school got out because my very trusted friend asked her. HOW ON EARTH CAN SHE CHANGE HER MIND IN 4 DAYS AFER LIKING ME FOR AT LEAST 4 MONTHS?????? and i dont ever see her with any other guys Did i screw up so bad on facebook for her to not like me?
dreamergrl Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 You don't get it. She's a teenage girl. She probably has a new crush every other month. People can change their minds. And if your this way (with how you wont accept an answer or situation) IRL it's probably a good indicator of WHY she no longer likes you. Nothing you keep saying or repeating will change that. GET OVER IT. Geeze.
Author cardinalfan5 Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 What? Ive never acted this way around her never acted desperate. So no i dont act this way around her. I dont know how she could of found a new crush in the last day of school becausse the day before she stopped flirting but was interested.
dreamergrl Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Just get over it. And stop stalking her facebook. It's creepy.
Cora Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 If she said no to you it does not matter the reason she did or it does not matter how quickly she changed her mind. The point is that she did. Why would she lie to you about this? She gave you her answer so there should be no confusion. You are in high school. You should be enjoying these years and not wasting time worrying over one girl who isn't even interested in you any longer. You are going to have plenty of other opportunities with girls who WILL be interested in you. Trust me, you will get over this girl and you will meet someone new. Soon she will be a distant memory. Enjoy your high school years and try not to worry so much. It's her loss if she can't see how amazing you are. Keep telling yourself that and stop overanalyzing everything about this girl.
boogieboy Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Boy you are dense. So next time you see her, go up to her and say "hey how was your summer?" Then see what happens. Just do it, dont agonize over it, just walk up to her as soon as you see her. If you come back here without a result, I will smack you myself.
dreamergrl Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 If I stick my head the doorway, will someone come slam the door for me?
Bleeve Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 In your other thread, Boogieboy gave you some of the best advice you will ever get...Read it and and take it to heart "If they say no, you step away, and leave them alone after that. Dont worry about the reasons, lil girls dont think with logic. You made a mistake by sending in your friend to ask her if she liked you. That is not natural. Not only that, but it turns girls off when they see you are a too much of a coward to ask them yourself. Next girl, talk to her yourself. Then you told her on FB that you could go out as friends. You completely immasculated yourself to please her. Never do that. You dont want to be friends with her, you want to date. You make that known. Some Young girls turn into major liars so they dont feel guilty. The reason she said she could just be friends was because she wasnt interested in dating you. She also said "friends" because she hoped you would take the hint that she wasnt interested. They are always too cowardly to tell you straight up that they dont like you, you just have to read stupid hints. " Good luck with the next girl
BCCA Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Im not in college. Im a siophomore in HS if that helps Are you serious? 'Long' relationships in HS last months, and people change their mind every other period. Your wasting too much time worrying about this, I can promise you that anyone you meet sophmore year of high school (and most likely college as well) isnt the woman youre destined to spend your life with. becausse the day before she stopped flirting but was interested What are you looking for here? How many times does everyone have to tell you shes not interested, on top of the fact she already turned you down? Just get this out of your mind, this girl isnt interested.
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