Hkizzle Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I was on the beach today with two girls and two guys, and some guy couldn't restart the engine to his boat, and one of the guys brought up a hypothetical question. What would happen if on the first date you're about to take a girl home and the car engine wouldn't start........there are no cabs and the girl has to walk a few miles home. Both guys and girls agreed that the girl that it was such a bad experience and so embarassing the girl would probably lose interest in the guy. I then asked. How come that's such a big issue when some guys are abusive yet SOME women put up with something much more servere. After much debate both guys and girls said...........emotions. What you think?
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Maybe I'm just an oddball (which I am - I am not your average woman), but if that happened and I really liked the guy (and he really liked me, of course) we'd find a way to make a crazy adventure out of it and have fun with it. Most other women though? Hard to say. Depends on how they feel about the guy I would imagine.
nobody's girl Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Gotta say I'm with LB on this one. So I guess I'm not your average woman either. It could become a very funny story to tell friends, family, children, etc.
skjd1220 Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I agree with the other posters- if I was really into him, I'd find it funny and would still be willing to go out with him again. It would also depend on his personality. If he freaked out when it happened and couldn't just roll with it, I probably would call it quits. If he handles it well, it's a good predictor of how he'll handle tough situations in the future.
butcher's hook Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Wow that is so incredibly superficial, your female friends sound like complete dolts. So if they went out on a first date with a guy they were interested in and his car broke down the experience would be so bad it would make them lose interest? That makes no sense at all. First of all no one man owes a woman a car ride home on a first date, or on any date for that matter. It is a courtesy not a must. So if a woman would be so stupid to get turned off from a man because his car breaks down then she wasn't into him for him to begin with she was into him for what he could provide. You should always go out on a date with enough money on you that you can get yourself home. You follow that simple rule you will never depend on others for your own well being.
You'reasian Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Most women are kinda shallow, quick to judge on dates. Some are a little more adventurous, creative or easy going and take things in stride. Just depends on the woman. If the car breaks down and she gets completely turned off, that kind of speaks to where she's at and her expectations.
boogieboy Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Youre talking apples and oranges. A woman who puts up with abusive behavior has spent months with a guy, is in love, invested emotionally. A woman on a date hasnt invested barely anything yet, so she can easily walk away.
WTRanger Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 If there are no cabs, then there is no towing service either. So the guy has to walk home too, so why does the girl have to walk home by herself? And where the hell did you go on a date with her? The middle of the desert? And if it's only a few miles home, where in God's name does this girl live, the middle of no where too? Far too many holes in this hypothetical question to give it any real merit. If the guy was any kind of man, he'd have the engine fixed in no time and the girl would swoon over his greasy hands and his mechanical knowledge.
Jaytb Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 most women probably expect a guy to have a car that works reliably. I think they don't want a guy with a piece of crap car lol. And if it was a good car that unexpectedly broke down, I think the expectation is that they have AAA or Onstar or something to tow the car and give them a ride. But whatever. As for abuse, some women are f*cked in the head. No matter how much he beats her, she will continue to claim he loves her and she deserves that treatment.
caramel c Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Oh come on. A girl who can't be a good sport about that deserves to walk home twice. The poor dude would be embarassed enough, and, its not his fault if something like that happens. Make the best of it and have a fun walk home. It might be a great way to get to know each other, talking & walking.
kizik Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 If there are no cabs, then there is no towing service either. So the guy has to walk home too, so why does the girl have to walk home by herself? And where the hell did you go on a date with her? The middle of the desert? And if it's only a few miles home, where in God's name does this girl live, the middle of no where too? Laughing my f*ckin' a$s off... :laugh:
boogieboy Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Now that I think about it, I live in NJ, very close to NYC. Me and a date went to a jazz club, at night. On the way to the jazz club, the alternator crapped out on my car. That means I only have a few starts left with it, and a short drive with the ignition system. We went to the jazz club, and when I left, I notice my headlights dimming. Had to turn them off and turn on the hazzards. I made it to about a half a mile to where my dates car was. you should have seen my engine surging to the hazzard lights, it was embarrassing, but I turned it around to make it funny. When the car couldnt go anymore, I parked it and we walked back to my place. (she was in heels) We had fun with it. I had to explain to her that this was a problem that cant be prevented unless it was a late model car. So she was cool with it.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Well, hypothetically, if the car broke down, why wouldn't the guy ask the girl to wait with him until the towing truck arrives? Or made the effort to walk the girl home? I would think that if it had been a dinner date the girl would've worn heels and it would have scored the guy points if he even mentioned giving her a piggy back ride so she doesn't have to walk.
Author Hkizzle Posted August 23, 2009 Author Posted August 23, 2009 Maybe I'm just an oddball (which I am - I am not your average woman), but if that happened and I really liked the guy (and he really liked me, of course) we'd find a way to make a crazy adventure out of it and have fun with it. Most other women though? Hard to say. Depends on how they feel about the guy I would imagine. Damn, I forgot to add the car is a piece of crap. Yes it's shallow, but considering we got two threads written by OP who can't stand certain shoes.......... Boogieboy got it best. What's invested emotionally is different.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Huh. If the guy walked me home...I wouldn't care. No, I wouldn't look down on him. We've all had unfortunate situations in life and I think one of the sexiest traits I have ever come across is being able to laugh when life deals you a **** pile.
westernxer Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 These hypotheticals are driving me nuts, considering that the girl can use her cell phone to get a lift home. LOL
EddieN Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Both guys and girls agreed that the girl that it was such a bad experience and so embarassing the girl would probably lose interest in the guy. Wow, what stuck up people. **** happens. Anyone that doesn't understand that is stupid. Like people before me said, a bad situation like that could turn into a great time if both people have good attitudes.
Citizen Erased Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 My opinion on this depends on if he offered to walk the girl home or go by herself.
Author Hkizzle Posted August 23, 2009 Author Posted August 23, 2009 Wow, what stuck up people. **** happens. Anyone that doesn't understand that is stupid. Like people before me said, a bad situation like that could turn into a great time if both people have good attitudes. They did say that it depends on the girl. It also doesn't mean it's their personal choice. See, the art of understanding people isn't about what your personal view is, it's understanding what other people's views may be.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Huh. If the guy walked me home...I wouldn't care. No, I wouldn't look down on him. We've all had unfortunate situations in life and I think one of the sexiest traits I have ever come across is being able to laugh when life deals you a **** pile.
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