FIREMAN Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 How do I get her to open up to me? -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- She's at it again!! In Jan., we "took a break", but kept in contact. Since then, things have gotten back on track and were getting better. We've been seeing eachother a lot, and dating\communicating better, calling\txtin several times a day. Last weekend, we had a great night, went to dinner, she invited me back to her place. We watched a movie and had sex. I didn't expect the sex and was caught off-guard, as I'd asked her a week earlier if she was ready to move further in the rel. She was tired, so it was good, but quick. LESS THAN 12 Hours after, it's like it was months ago...She takes forever to return a text or call to me, if at all and has withdrawn. I got her to go out w\me for ice cream the other night and brought this up and she said nothing's wrong, she's just busy at home... I know something's bothering her, as this is a pattern for the past 4 years!! How do I get her to open up? She told a friend once that she sees me in her future as her husband...How can she expect this to happen if she won't reveal what's bothering her? At tx she's said she didn't feel "connected during sex"...but when she keeps me off-guard, HOW can I feel into it??? How can I get her to open up? Also... -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- She seems to "run" or withdraw EVERY time we get this close or intimate, though she denies it and we wind up arguing about it, but the facts are the facts and this happens EVERY SINGLE TIME we get back on track and then have sex... I want to avoid a fight this time. What to do?
lizzy_09 Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Did she agree to be your girlfriend already? I think it's just the timing. I'd usually get the chance to have a heart to heart talk with my former BF when were sitting in the porch or taking a stroll in the park cause I know he's in a thoughtful mood. He would then open up to me. Try doing this approach. You can open up by saying along this lines......I want to work this out between us but you'd have to open up to me on how you feel about certain stuff. I'm not SUPERMAN, so I am at a disadvantage to not be able to read your mind and get to understand you better. If you keep this up we'll end up having an argument over even the most petty stuff.
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