tojaz Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 i understand, t. i really do. i think the same thing. however, i will be keeping my nose clean through all of it. i have what i want so far, and that's my little girl. i have a pretty forceful family, and they have all hit their breaking points with the wife, so it very well could get nasty. if that'd been my sister last night, she would've brought home a handful of my wife's hair with her. the main reason all of my family and friends are upset, are what's been pointed out here. she left, basing everything on a steaming pile of bull****. she hasn't lived up to one single thing she said. she's proven herself to be a liar and a cheat. let the chips fall where they may. i'm going to have to go for the ride whether i want to or not. i just hope it doesn't get nasty in court. I hope so too. Court was what I was talking about. For somereason they have a way of changing gears st the blink of an eye. Mine didn't want anything from me, until I got served, after we had an agreement, the final decree had changed again. Wound up getting burned out of my health ins. and 15 grand cash.I didn't even ask her to cover bills while she was "taking space" Read everything and don't take anything for granted. TOJAZ
Author MrMayI Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 I hope so too. Court was what I was talking about. For somereason they have a way of changing gears st the blink of an eye. Mine didn't want anything from me, until I got served, after we had an agreement, the final decree had changed again. Wound up getting burned out of my health ins. and 15 grand cash.I didn't even ask her to cover bills while she was "taking space" Read everything and don't take anything for granted. TOJAZ oh, i was talking in the streets. the upside to court is, she walked, and is having an affair. couple that with her working a lot of nights, and having no family in our area, and i have a pretty good case. plus, she will not be able to afford a lengthy court battle with me, and that's exactly what she'll get if she tries to get physical custody of our daughter.
tojaz Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 oh, i was talking in the streets. the upside to court is, she walked, and is having an affair. couple that with her working a lot of nights, and having no family in our area, and i have a pretty good case. plus, she will not be able to afford a lengthy court battle with me, and that's exactly what she'll get if she tries to get physical custody of our daughter. The streets are out of your hands, she made her bed!
LisaUk Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 MayI, your little girl! She is reason enough for your family to stay cool! Remind them of that, your daughter will grow and your w will always be her mom no matter what she has done, remind your family of that, b/c things from the past have a way of coming out in the future!
Author MrMayI Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 MayI, your little girl! She is reason enough for your family to stay cool! Remind them of that, your daughter will grow and your w will always be her mom no matter what she has done, remind your family of that, b/c things from the past have a way of coming out in the future! you're right, and they all know that. however, i can't control the actions of my brother or his friends, or my friends. my nose is clean. if i was going to do something myself, believe me, i'd have already done it. i'm okay. this is more or less the exposure that's been in the making. she and he now know that everyone is not blind, and it's time to take it back underground or end it. my little girl is the greatest thing in this world. there's no one i'm ever gonna love more than her. for some reason i was singing this song in my head during lunch. i love to play this one, and listen to my buddy sing it: to the bottom dear i had to fall but you really caught me you really caught me, dear at the bottom where i fall. and slowly dear, ask that you dance with me here's the shades down; lights off when i didn't know you and everything i do done badly now i'll love you always even when i say, "distract me." and sit out tonight in some strange place if we have no friends here well i have you to begin with to wake next to you in the morning and good morning to you. how do you do? hey, good morning to you! more covers for you. sleep soundly dear cause i have to go. and i'll love you always. when we leave this place and drive back to carolina and down to savannah and stay,
tojaz Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 MayI, your little girl! She is reason enough for your family to stay cool! Remind them of that, your daughter will grow and your w will always be her mom no matter what she has done, remind your family of that, b/c things from the past have a way of coming out in the future! This is very true. My parents divorced when I was young and you would be amazed at the similarities between theirs and mine. As I got older, the memory and the stories family tells bring all the pieces together. I discovered much later that I at the age of maybe 8 or 9 was in the car when my Dad discovered my moms affair!! He played it cool for my benefit and the divorce went smoothly for the family. It wasn't until much later that the truth was known to me and i had a new found respect for what my Dad had done to protect me and my sister from the BS! Your daughter is going to learn a lot from this MayI some now, much more later!!! Your doing her a great service just being the man you are and someday she's going to thank you for it. TOJAZ
Author MrMayI Posted September 1, 2009 Author Posted September 1, 2009 Your daughter is going to learn a lot from this MayI some now, much more later!!! Your doing her a great service just being the man you are and someday she's going to thank you for it. TOJAZ don't i know it. i, admittedly though, do have a little tendency to ask my daughter questions about when she's at mommy's. i mainly just tap the surface to make sure she is not being exposed to OM. far as i can tell, he hasn't been there when my daughter is, at all. i hate this. i really do. i hate that there's not a remote chance in hell we'll ever be able to piece this mess back together, and be a family with our little girl. she's just taken it entirely too far to ever turn back. the thin line between love and hate is very real to me now. i honestly don't know which side of the line i'm on most of the time.
tojaz Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Your straddling the line MAYI. It's her actions that are making you switch sides. Time will tell. Things will be different when she gets served, when it starts to become real! I can't tell you what different means, but shes going to have a decision to make, what kind of wife she wants to be, what kind of mother she wanys to be, and what kind of person she wants to be. Shes been living comfortably in the fog, but the suns gonna come out real quick, and I don't think anyone is going to like what they see. TOJAZ
Author MrMayI Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 well, i had a call last night from a very dear friend who lives in ohio. she told me that she has gotten word of what's happening in my life, and that she believes it's time for action to be taken. she watched one of her friends go through this about a year ago, and the guy is still married, and still just as miserable as the day his wife left. i assured her that i am not in that position. sure, i tear up, and a few even fall here and there, but anger and disgust are my most dominant emotions. the wife is yet again doing everything she can to not have to spend a lot of time with our daughter. she uses her work as an excuse every time, but i get her schedule as well, and the times i think she should be available, she never is. ****!!!!
tojaz Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 well, i had a call last night from a very dear friend who lives in ohio. she told me that she has gotten word of what's happening in my life, and that she believes it's time for action to be taken. she watched one of her friends go through this about a year ago, and the guy is still married, and still just as miserable as the day his wife left. i assured her that i am not in that position. sure, i tear up, and a few even fall here and there, but anger and disgust are my most dominant emotions. the wife is yet again doing everything she can to not have to spend a lot of time with our daughter. she uses her work as an excuse every time, but i get her schedule as well, and the times i think she should be available, she never is. ****!!!! So thank her for the wonderful gift shes giving you and keep marking that calendar! TOJAZ
Author MrMayI Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 So thank her for the wonderful gift shes giving you and keep marking that calendar! TOJAZ 82 days in. i've had her 51 nights, and she's had her 30. my mother and father had her 1. every night she's had her, either myself or my mother have had her during those days.
Author MrMayI Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 That speaks volumes right there dosen't it! it really does. i actually thought i've had her more than that, but i guess not. sure, she'll try to pawn it off that it's due to her work schedule, but that just isn't true. i'm off every weekend, and she has had the nights of just about every weekend off since this started. she never, ever volunteers to have her on the weekend. i'm expecting to get some **** slung my way because i am leaving her no choice in regards to this saturday. as much as i love my little girl, college football starts, and i have to drink beer and curse with my buddies for opening day
tojaz Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 it really does. i actually thought i've had her more than that, but i guess not. sure, she'll try to pawn it off that it's due to her work schedule, but that just isn't true. i'm off every weekend, and she has had the nights of just about every weekend off since this started. she never, ever volunteers to have her on the weekend. i'm expecting to get some **** slung my way because i am leaving her no choice in regards to this saturday. as much as i love my little girl, college football starts, and i have to drink beer and curse with my buddies for opening day Guess everyone needs a break, besides you earned it.
Auroracoladybug Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Mr...have a great day on Saturday for yourself...Tojaz pointed out to me that there is no divorce from parenthood...just others don't see the blessings and importance as much as those of us who really take our children no matter what. I know that if things fell thru that you would take your daughter and find an appropriate venue for her while you celebrate college football . J has been so selfish that he needs to take care of his stuff before his son (sounds familiar huh?)...the other Saturday where I made J pick up the baby at 7:30 in the morning regardless of how tired he was gave me mixed emotions because I needed that time for just me but J probably did noting with the baby...what I came to realize later was that whatever J did or didn't do did not matter as long as the baby was safe...and my boy will realize who is truly interested in him and doing for him just like your daughter....hey by the way I want to see pictures too!!
tojaz Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Mr...have a great day on Saturday for yourself...Tojaz pointed out to me that there is no divorce from parenthood...just others don't see the blessings and importance as much as those of us who really take our children no matter what. I know that if things fell thru that you would take your daughter and find an appropriate venue for her while you celebrate college football . J has been so selfish that he needs to take care of his stuff before his son (sounds familiar huh?)...the other Saturday where I made J pick up the baby at 7:30 in the morning regardless of how tired he was gave me mixed emotions because I needed that time for just me but J probably did noting with the baby...what I came to realize later was that whatever J did or didn't do did not matter as long as the baby was safe...and my boy will realize who is truly interested in him and doing for him just like your daughter....hey by the way I want to see pictures too!! Nice post Ladybug, you've come a long way! TOJAZ
Auroracoladybug Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 Thanks Tojaz mostly because of you! ((hugs)) MMI is just a mirror (opposite with being a man with a little girl) of me...
tojaz Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 You give me too much credit darlin, I'm just a guy that spends too much time on the laptop. TOJAZ
Author MrMayI Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 hey by the way I want to see pictures too!! done and done. You give me too much credit darlin, I'm just a guy that spends too much time on the laptop. TOJAZ you're a good guy, t. experience is what we're all gaining here. it's keeping us together, and seriously keeping me sane. with experience, comes advice we all can share. i now have an insider on the facebook and all for the OM. i've already obtained pics of him drunk, the homewrecker comment i mentioned a week or so ago, and a couple of comments where people told him to come back to jesus. i'm certain the pastor of the church he works for will be none too happy when he receives this information.
2.50 a gallon Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 MrMayI Go for it expose! Hypocrites should not be preaching the gospel and must be held accountable. Have you got it clear in your head what you are going to do when the fog clears and she wants to come back? It does happen more often than not.
Author MrMayI Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 MrMayI Go for it expose! Hypocrites should not be preaching the gospel and must be held accountable. Have you got it clear in your head what you are going to do when the fog clears and she wants to come back? It does happen more often than not. thanks for asking. i'll be telling her she's not able to move into my new home i got for my daughter and myself. that i want to have someone i can trust in my life, and she has proven she is not that person. i would like to be civil for our child's sake, but she has chosen a path that caused me to have to completely rebuild my existence, while hers essentially remained the same, and for that, i will be moving on a different path that does not cross hers again.
tojaz Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 done and done. you're a good guy, t. experience is what we're all gaining here. it's keeping us together, and seriously keeping me sane. with experience, comes advice we all can share. i now have an insider on the facebook and all for the OM. i've already obtained pics of him drunk, the homewrecker comment i mentioned a week or so ago, and a couple of comments where people told him to come back to jesus. i'm certain the pastor of the church he works for will be none too happy when he receives this information. You all are too kind! I guess thats why i keep coming back! MrMayI Go for it expose! Hypocrites should not be preaching the gospel and must be held accountable. Have you got it clear in your head what you are going to do when the fog clears and she wants to come back? It does happen more often than not. I agree one hundred percent expose, expose, expose! Let her live with her decisions out in the world! TOJAZ
Author MrMayI Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 I agree one hundred percent expose, expose, expose! Let her live with her decisions out in the world! TOJAZ it is well on the way, and in my opinion, a long time coming.
tojaz Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 it is well on the way, and in my opinion, a long time coming. I think your life is about to get very interesting MayI. As if it wasn't enough. Stay strong and keep us posted. TOJAZ
Author MrMayI Posted September 2, 2009 Author Posted September 2, 2009 I think your life is about to get very interesting MayI. As if it wasn't enough. Stay strong and keep us posted. TOJAZ i think you're absolutely right. i may just dodge it all until after the weekend. opening day of college football means way more to me right now than the stbx
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