LisaUk Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 [/b] Good for you MayI. If you really want to get her attention, see if you can arrange to have her served at OM's house!!! I've heard of people doing that. Shows them both you know whats going on, without getting your hands dirty. TOJAZ Oh yes, brilliant idea Tojaz, that would give you quiet satisfaction MMI! Oh, like that idea a lot!
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 damn good idea, bro. my attorney has a private process server too, so i think i could set that up to happen. [/b] Good for you MayI. If you really want to get her attention, see if you can arrange to have her served at OM's house!!! I've heard of people doing that. Shows them both you know whats going on, without getting your hands dirty. TOJAZ
tojaz Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 damn good idea, bro. my attorney has a private process server too, so i think i could set that up to happen. Do it man!! You will be an LS god!! LOL TOJAZ
Auroracoladybug Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Mr I even forwarded the last energy bill from our house when he shut it off to J's new address...have any bills for her you could forward for her to take care of? LOL you all keep me smiling
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 Mr I even forwarded the last energy bill from our house when he shut it off to J's new address...have any bills for her you could forward for her to take care of? LOL you all keep me smiling unfortunately, no. she did stiff me with several bills, but all in my name. things we got "together", but in the end it becomes just mine. i'm paying for all of my sweet electronics that were christmas presents. now, they're a bill i pay. nice gifts, huh? i talked to the wife tonight. asked her if she was able to go to my attorney's office tomorrow and sign. she said "sure". i couldn't help myself. i said "i just can't ****ing believe you. so nonchalant". she didn't reply. i said i have to go, and hung up. hopefully she'll go, and wrap this up tomorrow.
Auroracoladybug Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 You deserve some stabs! as far as the gifts...definitly make her responsible for half the debt...if you can...atleast you have an attorney...I am still on the hunt and my H thinks he is not responsible for anything
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 the office i work for has our attorney to represent us. he took on my case for nothing. i'm lucky. as long as she signs the agreement without a fight, it only costs the filing fee.
Auroracoladybug Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 I work for a city government...I am lucky for the support I got when a coworker (years ago) accused me of sexual harrasment for asking him if he wanted to get a beer after work (And I was engaged at the time!)
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 I work for a city government...I am lucky for the support I got when a coworker (years ago) accused me of sexual harrasment for asking him if he wanted to get a beer after work (And I was engaged at the time!) wow! dude was trying to make some money. glad you had that help. sleep good tonight. think of how great you can feel. it all gets better. i promise.
Auroracoladybug Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 it will get better because I will make it better! lol goodnight Mr thanks for the smile before bed... now I get to torture my 2yr old...pink eye drops...oh the fun of children
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 i'm hoping to god that this will be the day that she goes and actually signs. i can't help but keep calling her a piece of **** in my mind. a disgusting display of humanity if you ask me.
Auroracoladybug Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Mr that is what has gotten me to where I am...I know J is not the man I married and when he signs I will be glad too...we don't deserve this crap when we are the ones who care
LisaUk Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 i'm hoping to god that this will be the day that she goes and actually signs. i can't help but keep calling her a piece of **** in my mind. a disgusting display of humanity if you ask me. Small comfort I know, but read over your early posts, with her being so disgustingly noncolent last night, you are no longer in the torture of limbo and although at first this is h**l, it soon will pass. You wil get through this and you will start to feel better, much better.
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 Small comfort I know, but read over your early posts, with her being so disgustingly noncolent last night, you are no longer in the torture of limbo and although at first this is h**l, it soon will pass. You wil get through this and you will start to feel better, much better. i believe every word of that. i have gotten better, and i will continue to do so. i just want closure. in no way, shape, or form do i want her back in my life. she can be there for our daughter, but as far as i'm concerned she's now a ghost.
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 i just found a text i drunkenly typed out to OM, but didn't send it. i'm glad i didn't. it could've landed me in court. "have you ever been hit with a baseball bat? it feels a lot like someone ****ing around with your wife. hopefully, one day soon, i'll come over and demonstrate, so you know first hand".
lupa Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 i just found a text i drunkenly typed out to OM, but didn't send it. i'm glad i didn't. it could've landed me in court. "have you ever been hit with a baseball bat? it feels a lot like someone ****ing around with your wife. hopefully, one day soon, i'll come over and demonstrate, so you know first hand". Settle down there, psycho! Glad you didn't send it, that would be really bad, and would have ramifications on custody, etc. Please don't do something like that, I'm pulling for you and your kid. Every time I think I'm going to act while emotional right now, instead I'm going to take a breath and think of the advice I'm giving you. You're probably helping me and you don't know it.
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 Settle down there, psycho! Glad you didn't send it, that would be really bad, and would have ramifications on custody, etc. Please don't do something like that, I'm pulling for you and your kid. Every time I think I'm going to act while emotional right now, instead I'm going to take a breath and think of the advice I'm giving you. You're probably helping me and you don't know it. that's what i do. i'm glad i consciously thought not to send that text. that wouldn't happen anyway. honestly, if i answered with my emotions and violence, it would have to be bare handed. i digress, however, breathe and move on. right now, i'm just wondering if she's gone to sign. i'm going to call my attorney in the next hour or so, i guess.
phineas Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 I gotta laugh. The way she is purposefully not signing papers yet goes through the effort to hide her car from you behind OM's house. I wonder if OM knows where you live. I'll bet OM doesn't know what's going on either. not that it matters.
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 I gotta laugh. The way she is purposefully not signing papers yet goes through the effort to hide her car from you behind OM's house. I wonder if OM knows where you live. I'll bet OM doesn't know what's going on either. not that it matters. i'm laughing right along with you, dude. he knows exactly what's going on. exactly. they're snakes, and they're hiding as much as they can. i'll win in the end. i just know it. now, he may not know where i live, but he knows who i am. he knows my brother well, and upon the phone call to my brother with a go ahead, that guy's world could come crashing down.
phineas Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 i'm laughing right along with you, dude. he knows exactly what's going on. exactly. they're snakes, and they're hiding as much as they can. i'll win in the end. i just know it. now, he may not know where i live, but he knows who i am. he knows my brother well, and upon the phone call to my brother with a go ahead, that guy's world could come crashing down. I laugh because my wife was acting like she wanted to get caught. She didn't, but she was in plain freaking site. Making him a friend on facebook. Bringing him to my house during the day where the retired neighbors could see. Meeting him in her work parking lot at night. Really? I honestly thought I had a smart beutiful woman. Boy, was I wrong. I married a dummy.
LisaUk Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 i'm laughing right along with you, dude. he knows exactly what's going on. exactly. they're snakes, and they're hiding as much as they can. i'll win in the end. i just know it. now, he may not know where i live, but he knows who i am. he knows my brother well, and upon the phone call to my brother with a go ahead, that guy's world could come crashing down. MMI, you are very angry, but believe me when I say two wrongs do not make a right. Revenge on this guy would make you feel good for 5 mins, but in the long term what would it achieve? Accept make your w think that she had made the right decision by leaving a violent man. I know that sounds harsh, if my ex had done this to me I would have felt the same about the OW, but I would not have acted on it, that would just be bringing me down to their level and I'm better than that. And so are you! Violence in anger never solves anything. In this case in particular it would make your life much much worse. You could end up on assault charges, even jail and NEVER get access to your daughter again. Think about that! Please do not act out in anger, go punch a bag at the gym or get a voodoo doll or something LOL. They'll get theirs eventually without you doing anything. What makes your w think he wouldn't cheat on her and vice versa, never occurs to them that they have no moral compass!
lupa Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Yeah, but that doesn't make hitting them with a truck any less rewarding...
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 i solemnly swear there will be no violent acts committed by me. none. you're right lisa, i'm angry. very angry, but as i said a couple of weeks ago, it's easier for me to let anger go a little down the road than the hurt, shock, confusion, and utter misery i was going through a couple of months ago.
Author MrMayI Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 oh, sweet jesus!!! yet again, she did not go to the attorney's office and sign. i'm really losing my patience. i just talked to the attorney, and he asked me do i think she's setting me up for a custody battle. god, i hope not, but you never know.
lupa Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 oh, sweet jesus!!! yet again, she did not go to the attorney's office and sign. i'm really losing my patience. i just talked to the attorney, and he asked me do i think she's setting me up for a custody battle. god, i hope not, but you never know. I hope not, for your sake. Your kid has been the shining light in all of your posts from day one, I'd hate to see all that become a source of pain. I'm sorry if it goes that way, keep the faith that it won't!
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