Peaceandlove Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 There's this really cute but shy/weedy guy that I've kind of fancied from a distance for a while- we go to college together but were not really close friends I was in a relationship so wasn't available until quite recently, after that he tried to ask me out really casually as in 'would you like to hang out sometime' but unfortunately I didn't realise that's what he was trying to do and didn't set a date or anything Some friend's of his approached me and told me that he really fancies me but I should make the first step because he's not so confident to do it himself. My friends all agree that they see why that is so; I appear quite self-assured and could be slightly intimidating So what do I do to help this guy? I just wish he would ask me out cause I'm a bit weedy myself ps. I reeeeally like this shy guy/ and shy guys in general
BCCA Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Well, he may have felt like he already tried to ask you out, and you blew him off. Even if that wasnt your intention, we as men know that anything short of 'yes' is no. With that said, why not just trying to start up a conversation with the guy, ask him what hes up to this weekend, etc...make it REAL easy to ask you out, and Im sure he will!
Author Peaceandlove Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 I tried that already and on a night out with a group of friends but he didn't seem up for conversation and was giving one word answers. Before we left he kinda asked me out again and i gave a "i'm not sure answer" cause i was a bit confused with him not being very engaging in our conversation- he was probably just being shy.... how do i fix this?
clv0116 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 .... how do i fix this? Stop doing this: Before we left he kinda asked me out again and i gave a "i'm not sure answer" ... If he asked you to coffee for example, why not make sure you bump into him within a week and ask when he's scheduled that cup of coffee he was talking about? I guess you forgot the details? (WINK) It leaves a shred of his manhood intact to pretend he already did the asking and at the same time you are doing some of the heavy lifting.
Author Peaceandlove Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 I guess you forgot the details? (WINK) he asked me out to the same think he did ages ago- really casual which now that i realise is something he knows i really enjoy doing shy guys are so sweet!
clv0116 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 he asked me out to the same think he did ages ago- really casual which now that i realise is something he knows i really enjoy doing shy guys are so sweet! NO, I mean you can coach the conversation in terms of silly you forgetting the time and date and other details of the date. Maybe. "When did you say we were going skydiving?"
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