BeautifulMan Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I met this girl a while ago and we communicate on and off via text message (lol). I had every intention to call her from the start but things just ended up coming through as texts. I haven't seen her for years by the way. I'm going to be dead honest, I always initiate the conversation, I can tell she is a bit of a shy person too. We haven't talked in a few months because she stopped texting me (maybe she got tired of it) but I just got reminded of her today and had a strong desire to talk to her. This time calling and arranging a date. She always responded positively, says I make her smile and directly says things that implies she expects us to hang out but I'm so confused. Should I initiate one more time, this time making sure we physically see eachother? Or is she just being nice? Honest advice.
loveslife Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I met this girl a while ago and we communicate on and off via text message (lol). I had every intention to call her from the start but things just ended up coming through as texts. I haven't seen her for years by the way. I'm going to be dead honest, I always initiate the conversation, I can tell she is a bit of a shy person too. We haven't talked in a few months because she stopped texting me (maybe she got tired of it) but I just got reminded of her today and had a strong desire to talk to her. This time calling and arranging a date. She always responded positively, says I make her smile and directly says things that implies she expects us to hang out but I'm so confused. Should I initiate one more time, this time making sure we physically see eachother? Or is she just being nice? Honest advice. I think you're just confused because you're feeling insecure. Call her. Ask her out.
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I met this girl a while ago and we communicate on and off via text message (lol). I had every intention to call her from the start but things just ended up coming through as texts. I haven't seen her for years by the way. I'm going to be dead honest, I always initiate the conversation, I can tell she is a bit of a shy person too. We haven't talked in a few months because she stopped texting me (maybe she got tired of it) but I just got reminded of her today and had a strong desire to talk to her. This time calling and arranging a date. She always responded positively, says I make her smile and directly says things that implies she expects us to hang out but I'm so confused. Should I initiate one more time, this time making sure we physically see eachother? Or is she just being nice? Honest advice. You could keep trying, but I personally never depend on implications. Her vagueness is suspect. I only work off of this: you - "Jim Norton will be at Carolines friday night, how bout you join me?" her - "Yes, That will be fun, What time r u picking me up?" Anything short of yes is a dodge IMO Also if you dont text her and she doesnt come looking for you, shes not interested. I dont care how shy she is, shes a women, and when she wants something, she will go for it.
WhyYesThankYou Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 but I just got reminded of her today I thought this was very nice and sweet and was going to say, "Yes, of course, call her and ask her out," but that one line... Did you really not think of her for months? If not, then why are you thinking of her and wanting to ask her out now? Are you just bored? What (or who) was keeping you occupied in the meantime? If you just stopped talking to her because she ends conversations first and never initiated, and you really want to pursue things with her, then yes, call her and godspeed to you. But if you just want to phone her now because you're bored, then on behalf of all women everywhere, please don't bother. That is, don't waste her time.
Author BeautifulMan Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 I think you're just confused because you're feeling insecure. Call her. Ask her out. It's weird because I am almost never insecure and treat women like pals, and I don't mean to put her on a pedestal but I am just so interested. You could keep trying, but I personally never depend on implications. Her vagueness is suspect. I only work off of this: you - "Jim Norton will be at Carolines friday night, how bout you join me?" her - "Yes, That will be fun, What time r u picking me up?" Anything short of yes is a dodge IMO Also if you dont text her and she doesnt come looking for you, shes not interested. I dont care how shy she is, shes a women, and when she wants something, she will go for it. Exactly what I was thinking, which caused me this unsureness. We actually had plans one day but things never went through. I thought this was very nice and sweet and was going to say, "Yes, of course, call her and ask her out," but that one line... Did you really not think of her for months? If not, then why are you thinking of her and wanting to ask her out now? Are you just bored? What (or who) was keeping you occupied in the meantime? If you just stopped talking to her because she ends conversations first and never initiated, and you really want to pursue things with her, then yes, call her and godspeed to you. But if you just want to phone her now because you're bored, then on behalf of all women everywhere, please don't bother. That is, don't waste her time. Truth be told, I have been thinking of her on and off but just trying to push her out of my mind. Probably sounds ridiculous seeing that I barely know her but damn I need to find out. The question is whether it's appropriate without looking like a crazy fool (haha). Damn my pride.
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 If shes not interested, everything you do will be crazy. You can try one more time to make a date, but if she cancels, take the hint. She wont tell you straight up that shes not interested, shes a coward.
Author BeautifulMan Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Anyone else have opinions? If not, I shall commence.
paddington bear Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I recently had a date with a guy that it took something like 3 attempts to finally meet him. I was busy or he was, things were cancelled at the last minute and so on. It finally got to the point where I thought, right, this is getting ridiculous and luckily we both finally met - if we hadn't, that would have been the end of it for me. My point is, don't take the first time you arranged something and it fell through to heart, sometimes that's just life and not a dodge. However, I do think you should ask her out directly, but if you get some wishy-washy response then I would abandon further plans to see her in person.
WhyYesThankYou Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Truth be told, I have been thinking of her on and off but just trying to push her out of my mind. Probably sounds ridiculous seeing that I barely know her but damn I need to find out. The question is whether it's appropriate without looking like a crazy fool (haha). Awwww~ No, that's cool. That's exactly the type of thing that should lead to a guy asking a girl out, if you can't get her out of her mind. I hope you do ask her out and that she accepts and that you both have a lovely time.
Author BeautifulMan Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 Just thought I'd update you guys on the situation. I made a feeble attempt which was quickly dismissed with silence after a couple of texts. I was going to do a build up with a couple of text and then call, instead of calling her out of the blue but ll. I have to say I'm not too surprised, I missed my chance a while back. So in the end I guess I am crazy. On to the next.
BCCA Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Just thought I'd update you guys on the situation. I made a feeble attempt which was quickly dismissed with silence after a couple of texts. I was going to do a build up with a couple of text and then call, instead of calling her out of the blue but ll. I have to say I'm not too surprised, I missed my chance a while back. So in the end I guess I am crazy. On to the next. You probably should have just called her. She already kind of was over the texting before, no? Either way, yeah...let this one go.
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