Is this a bad idea? Relationship with a girl who just came out of a 3 yr relationship

[UCLAMike]

It's been a month for her since her break up from her 3 yr relationship. It seems like she is taking it well and the breakup didn't happen overnight. It was mutual and he moved back to his home country. They were supposed to get married for visa reasons, but she said she felt like he wasn't the one for her after a while. She wanted to more time to think about it and I guess during that time he left. They still talk sometimes...

 

Anyway, I come from a similar background but I have healed and haven't dated for like 8 months now since my own break up. I know I am ready for a new relationship. She seems to be ready and she said she has never rebounded with anyone else. All her relationships were at least 1-2 yrs.

 

I am taking a huge risk right now, but do you guys think even for somebody mature and emotionally stable, 1 month is still too soon? She was very receptive towards me and she was very very honest answering all my questions. We know each other from like way back 5 yrs ago. We were attracted to each other but I never made moves on her.

 

Is this worth it really? Or should I be friends with her and just test the waters first? We hit it off really well through indirect communication - facebook, AIM - but we are going on a date this saturday. What should I look out for and what should I keep in mind? THank you in advance for all your help.

[SoulSearch_CO]

Hmm. It REALLY depends on when her actual feelings for her ex started to die. Because legally, I wasn't divorced from my XH until this past August. But we were divorced in my heart (and physically separated) back in May.

 

I'd say just don't fall in too fast, don't expect too much too soon. Take it a little casually. Pay attention to how she talks about her ex. Does she sound like she's at peace with it? Is she angry or hurt about it? It's a bad sign if a person can sit and pick their ex apart for hours to someone that didn't even know the ex - like they're trying to convince either themselves or you that they're over their ex.

[UCLAMike]

would it be annoying and rude to ask a lot of questions about her past? We're both 25