atlantic Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 We’ve been working together for about a month part time. We always joke around and talk and it seems like everything is going well. She doesn't really flirt per se because we're at work but she definitely gives me attention and has recently broken the "touch" barrier. And by that I mean fake punches, fixing my name tag, high fives ect ect. About a week ago we were talking and the subject of where we lived came up and I asked who she lived with. She told me... "Just two other people, but I’m moving soon” I was like okay cool no boyfriend mentioned. I than found out from another source (another co worker) today that she just broke up with her boyfriend yesterday and had been living with him. Why do you think she never told me about him when she said who she was living with? But told someone else? Does this mean she’s interested? I’ve gotten burnt so many times that I just don’t feel like entertaining the possibility of rejection right now. I'm a really nice guy and I’m just tired of having girls pass through me because I'm terrible at this kind of stuff. I think I’ve hinted pretty obviously that I like her, by body language and subtle remarks. Today she was a big help and I said that I owed her one and would buy her a drink and then give her a ride home jokingly. She replied with "I’m going to take you up on that but not tonight cause I’m going out with friends (its St. Patrick’s Day) and she had mentioned this earlier, so she wasn’t lying. What should I do? Is she interested? Ps. I’m 20 and she’s 19. We are both students working as servers.
jerbear Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 This sounds like short term relationship from the moving soon part. She sounds like she is interested but you'll find out when you follow up on asking her out on a date later. Not the next day or 3 days or the first 5 minutes of seeing her. If she brings it up, great, otherwise later.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 My XH was one of my roommates after my divorce was finalized. So I can understand where she's coming from. Yeah, she probably felt nervous telling you about living with her BF still because then you'd automatically assume they're getting back together just because they're still in the same house (I'm sorry, but this assumption is stupid). She does sound interested in you, though.
Author atlantic Posted March 18, 2009 Author Posted March 18, 2009 Yeah I'm prety sure it wasn't a long term relationship because she just moved into the city from a small town to go to school. So I can't see her having dated him any earlier than October .
BobSacamento Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 She seems interested. I've been pretty much going through the same thing. It's the unnecessary touching that makes me believe there is interest. Women only do that with people they are comfortable with. At least that's what I think. Also, coming in to see you for no reason. I think that's a good sign.
alphamale Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Does this mean she’s interested? no, no it doesn't I'm a really nice guy ... you need to offer more than just that
Author atlantic Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 you need to offer more than just that I'm not really sure what else to tell you. I am a nice guy. im not a player I've been in one long term (2 and a bit year) relationship. I prefer not to objectify women and all i really want is a relationship cause I'm not really into the whole dating thing. im not a party animal but I like to have fun. and it general my life goal is to just help people (in school, becoming a biochemist) Is that offering more? And if you mean offer more to her than just being nice, well than. I'm athletic. Im going to be fully educated I know how to treat a girl and make her feel special. and from what I've herd im relatively good looking.
alphamale Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Is that offering more? if you're good looking & athletic, yea, thats offereing more
Author atlantic Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 if you're good looking & athletic, yea, that's offering more Okay well I'm glad that's all cleared up.. Lol anyone else have any though?
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