Nebo74 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I met a women online about two weeks ago or so. We started to txt each other often and have talked on the phone about 4 or 5 times in a row in excess of 1 hour up to about 3 hours. So the click is there conversation wise. While we haven't met yet, I'm starting to feel wierd because I'm hoping we didn't jinx something and build up in our own heads "the perfect mate syndrom" and then be dissapointed when the time comes that we are face to face. Does anyone else have any stories or thoughts on this?
Zorie Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 When you haven't met someone in person it can be a little tricky because to some extent you put yourself into a "fantasy" situation with the other person. I recently became involved with someone I met online after daily texting and numerous hours on the telephone for weeks, I cold have sworn he was my soulmate, he was perfect for me in so many ways and everything I was looking for in a mate. Unfortunately after we finally met there was no physical attraction. It wasn't even that he was unattractive because I think he is, but what we created in our prior communications was not there when we met in person. Don't worry about jinxing anything. Enjoy getting to know one another and if there is a genuine connection there, things will flourish!
saddy Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Indeed, that's a big risk now... I think it's better to meet the person after only a few emails and a phone conversation. That way, you can only be pleasantly surprised and if it doesn't click, you won't be too disappointed. Anyway, if you two have been able to talk for hours on the phone, you obviously have a lot in common! So just ask her out for a drink and relax. There's no reason it goes wrong except if you are too nervous...
yeex Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Yeah, try to meet them within a week or so. So it won't be as much a let down if they end up not being your cup of tea. I had an experience where we talked fine over a few emails and messages. I was starting to think that she could be "the one"...haha. We met up and I knew immediately I was not attracted to her as a girlfriend. Friend perhaps, but not girlfriend material, even though we did have a pleasant date and talked non stop for 2 hours. Actually out of the two girls I met online, they both ended up being friend material and not girlfriend. I prefer to meet people in person. But the possibilities are out there.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 I agree that it's hard to not idealize the other person when the only interaction you've had with each other is through technology. Just make sure to keep an open mind when you go to see them in person. Don't put too many expectations on it.
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