FeedingOnFever Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Hey everyone, I recently posted a reply to one of my threads regarding a guy I was seeing for under a month who became incredibly clingy very fast... to make a long story short, he said that I was a girl who he had seen in his dreams years and years ago (a la Destiny brought us together), that I was one of the best things that ever happened to him, and even dropped the "L" word on me, although he later claimed that was a mistake. In addition, he wanted to hang out every single day and while that's okay for a new relationship, he would ask multiple times a day if I was busy even when I clearly said I was busy all day... that was more annoying than anything, but what he did during our "we need to talk" talk was what really drove me away. He followed this up by saying that, even if I broke up with him, he would refuse to date anyone else for about 3 years. When I said "but we've only been together for 3 WEEKS, what do you mean by that?" he said that he didn't want anyone else and he'd wait. Then he proceeded to shower me with compliments, showing me very clearly that he'd transformed me into something not even human in his head. Well, I broke up with him, and he proceeded to post a very strangely over-emotional entry on his myspace about the darkness and cold void now that I'm gone. Here's the thing: this guy is 25. I'm 20. He's been with loads of girls, and has had 4 serious, 2-4 year relationships. He's experienced. ... Where does he get off doing this? I communicated so clearly that I needed space and to take it slow but he just didn't hear me. My friend had a theory that when people reach a certain age, around the 25-year mark, the start to really really crave a steady relationship (if they're not in one) and tend to rush things a lot more than they normally would. I'm not sure how much this theory holds true, but all I know is I want to avoid this like mad next time. He seemed REALLY level-headed, laid-back and normal when we first started hanging out. I have no clue what happened. Any advice, thoughts or similar stories?
sand26 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 You are a wise twenty year old. He might be a really normal and cool guy who is going through some mid mid-life crises, who knows. But he definitely is unstable right now, he needs to get a grip.
redant Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Yes you are wise for your age. You may even meet people who act like this in there 40s so it's good you are aware now. He's wrapped up in himself and feelings I think.
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