WhiteKnight Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Hey everyone, ladies and gents, It has been awhile since I posted back on here and all, the title of the thread is about the phrase... I need space During a long/short term relationship and thinking about getting married in the near future. Things seem to be going well but all of a sudden, whatever the contributing factors would be. Out of the blue somewhere in between the phase of your current relationship and "...thinking to get married..." your partner, male/female says to you "...I need space..." I would like to see what your experiences and opinions are like about this and how you felt about the phrase "I need space." So I leave the floor to you, ladies and gents to tell us about it. For woman, how did you feel whenever men do say that? For men, how did you feel whenever woman do say that? Enjoy sharing your discussion
jenxbunnyx05 Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 for me...i dont think a relationship should "need space". its either all or nothing. to me it means you want to date other people and still have a backup just in case things dont work out. when a guy tells me that...i know its over...your relationship isnt strong and loving if you need space.
BCCA Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 for me...i dont think a relationship should "need space". its either all or nothing. to me it means you want to date other people and still have a backup just in case things dont work out. when a guy tells me that...i know its over...your relationship isnt strong and loving if you need space. Ditto from a guys POV. Space is fine, I wont see you for a week, do your thing. BUT when you need to be broken up for this space, what Jenxbunny said is spot on.
voldigicam Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 It's cool. My current SO had a month once. Needed space. Used to go on dog show dates for the weekends. If she wanted a week, I'd be fine. A month, well, I'd need help! In your context, I'd wonder, though.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 i agree with everyone else i dont believe in the i need space bs its an excuse to go date and mess around i think....when your in a relationship with someone you dont really want to be apart you enjoy each others company so when your not working or doing your laundry cleaning etc the little time you have you would want to spend it with your s/o and if not something is seriously wrong.
Author WhiteKnight Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 Well for me, it depends on the situation. For a guy like me to understand, "I need space..." Well its a 50/50 situation, we all are made to think it could mean the end of the relationship. That would be someone's first assumption to fear for the worst. In the past, I had been through situations where I was told the "I need space" line and they broke up with me a month later. However, I have not been in a situation where I would say to my partner, "I need space." So I decided to seek your opinion my friends about it. For example a friend of mine has recently, informed me where they had a fight where the female insulted him badly for something generous that he wanted to do for her. I could discuss it, if you are interested, I can share it with you all.
sumdude Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 "I need space" usually means "I want the opportunity to pursue other options."
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