jenxbunnyx05 Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 okay so ive wrote about this guy before... here is what i want to say to him..good or bad...what do you think? (ive been seeing him since oct 08. sometimes if im lucky once a week)... "i really like you alot and i dont think that you feel the same way about me as i do for you... youre a really busy guy and your either working at the station or working on the house and when you do have free time your with your friends partying and stuff and thats fine...i have no problem with that at all... its just that when you really like someone and is truly interested in that person, no matter how busy you may be, you will find time to see that person...i see you like every two weeks and if im lucky once a week..you dont even call every night like you used to... i almost feel as if when you have nothing to do and your not with your friends thats when you have time for me...i like you alot and would love to be alittle more than just friends...it just sucks...like when im with you you make me so happy and i absolutely enjoy every second...i kinda backed off because i felt like when i would txt you and say i miss you or that i wanted to see you...i kinda felt like i was pushing it...your sister doesnt like me and niether do your friends...its hard to see you...its not like youll have me come over if your friends are all there cuz you know none of them want you talking to me...it really sucks...i wish i could see you more...like i feel like somethings there...i have that physical attraction and sexual attraction with you...youre a sweetheart...probably the perfect guy in my mind...and im trying not to get my feelings hurt because honestly i like you so much more than you think..." not sure how he will take this...but im kinda interested in someone else...who i started talking to just recently...maybe i should let this guy go? and see how it goes with the other guy who ACTUALLY seems interested? thanks.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Guys never respond too well to being pressure to spend more time with a girl. Especially when it looks like he's kinda lukewarm about you like this guy. Just ignore it. Make time for him the same way he does for you. Go out with the other guy. Go have fun.
BCCA Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Guys never respond too well to being pressure to spend more time with a girl. Especially when it looks like he's kinda lukewarm about you like this guy. Just ignore it. Make time for him the same way he does for you. Go out with the other guy. Go have fun. I agree, but from experience, women arent too keen on it, either. Generally, when someone cant make time for you, they dont want to. There are exceptions, and people do get busy, but for the most part they're just making excuses not to see you out of selfishness. The decent thing to do is let you go find someone else, but he's just keeping you in his back pocket. Thats just lame. If you are convinced it will make you feel better to send it, than by all means do. Just dont expect much in the way of a response from him. As I guy, I read this and I feel guilty, almost like I'm being accused of something. I can read in your words as a third party that youre hurting and just want to express yourself, but I know how most people are when they feel theyre being accused. They get defensive, they start blaming things on you, they get angry...it almost always gets ugly. Guy/girl, doesnt matter, if you like the way things are and someone else says they need to change, it upsets you. Probably for selfish reasons, but still. Maybe he'll be one of the few that understands, but still, if you get more than a 1-2 line email, I'd be shocked. I honestly think he missed out on someone great, and too bad for him. Anyone who cant make time for you isnt worth your time. probably the perfect guy in my mind Take this part out, please I dont think the perfect guy would only see you when he had nothing else to do, once a week - MAYBE, and be so distant. Also, his friends dont like you? Why not? Did he tell you this? Point being, he doesnt deserve to hear that. He's hurting you, knowingly or otherwise, and a perfect guy wouldnt do that.
Author jenxbunnyx05 Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 im still very hesitant on sending it...i have no idea what his reaction is gonna be...if he takes it the wrong way...but maybe i shouldnt care? if he doesnt take it well then simply just move on... soulsearch- i kind of somewhat have done that where i ignored it and didnt wait on him to wanna see me and just made plans and hung out with friends. Im def. gonna go out and have fun since he obviously doesnt seem to be too "into me". BCCA- youre right on the whole being accused thing. i would probably feel as if he was telling me how wrong i am and im not treating him good if he sent something like that me. but how else could i let him know? or should i just let it go and not even try? if i do send it i wont leave the perfect part in, because you are right. he's not perfect if hes not making the time for me. and to kinda fill you in with his friends not liking me...there was plenty of un-needed drama with the girls...one being his sister...this was all before i had even met him...his guy friends are great but the girls especially his sister...absolutely hate me and say bad things about me yet they dont know me well enough to say such harsh things.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I don't know why you'd bother even sending him that. He doesn't deserve it, IMO. He's a dumbass for not making time for you - but that's his own stupid choice. Move on - find somebody actually worthy of your attention.
Author jenxbunnyx05 Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 You got me to make my decision, I'm not sending it to him. I'm moving on, it sucks. But things never got serious anyway. I feel I deserve more because I tend to care too much and want that in return. Thanks!
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 You got me to make my decision, I'm not sending it to him. I'm moving on, it sucks. But things never got serious anyway. I feel I deserve more because I tend to care too much and want that in return. Thanks! But there ARE guys out there that would be willing to give that to you! You can't MAKE somebody do that - they just WOULD if they were really into that kind of thing. Don't settle, Jen - you totally deserve better than having to beg a guy to hang out with you. If he can't make the time, then he's the stupid one. It shouldn't take convincing. Someday you'll meet one with brains that knows what he's got in front of him and he'll automatically make you a priority.
yongyong Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 there are very few people who will appreciate that kind of honesty. please don't. you just need to show him you are willing to leave him if he don't spend more time with you. you can lose him by trying either ways, but you will get hurt a lot more if you showed your true feeling but he didn't give a shxt about it,
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