Alan430 Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Where do you think its inappropriate/Appropriate places for a man to strike up a conversation with you? When i say inappropriate, say at a grociery story, walmart etc.. Places you are not there to met people, but to get a specific things done. Do you see this as more of a hassle? I know the last thing i would want to be is a nuisence to an attractive women.
Island Girl Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 The places you listed are not inappropriate. If a guy I find attractive talks to me - it is not inappropriate anywhere. I welcome the conversation unless he starts to get creepy. If a guy I find unattractive talks to me it is a "nuisance" no matter where it is - but I don't blame him for trying! I just mind if he can't take a hint and won't leave me alone...like following me out to my car - or following me further like to a gas station and offering to pump my gas, etc. THAT is annoying and kind of scary.
blondesmiler Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Where do you think its inappropriate/Appropriate places for a man to strike up a conversation with you? When i say inappropriate, say at a grociery story, walmart etc.. Places you are not there to met people, but to get a specific things done. Do you see this as more of a hassle? I know the last thing i would want to be is a nuisence to an attractive women. Probably would depend on if I was in a rush like hitting the supermarket on my way home from work, that (being honest about me) wouldn't probably be a good time to hit on me. That said I have a long commute so my day is long, by the end of it I am not in the best of moods so perhaps not a good sample but probably is other women similar to me. But if it was a weekend or day off and I was just ambling around, taking my time and a guy asked me something or made a comment, it wouldn't be a hassle. Also I guess if I was stressed or looked harrassed but then again if I looked like that cause something was up with my car and a guy came to ask if he could help I would be receptive and appreciative. I'd say avoid the womens aisle at Walgreens/Walmart, I wouldn't want to talk to a guy while milling over what tampons to but and which strength cystitys medicine to get.
Author Alan430 Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 I'd say avoid the womens aisle at Walgreens/Walmart, I wouldn't want to talk to a guy while milling over what tampons to but and which strength cystitys medicine to get. LOL Oh damn i guess i better quit trolling the Tampon Isle!!
Trialbyfire Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Alan, you're going to get differing answers per female member. I don't mind talking to strangers, as long as it's just friendly stuff. If someone's hitting on me, I'd rather not. Now if someone's volunteering to help me reach the item on the top shelf, that's another story. I think it's a matter of how someone approaches you. If they're being overly-familiar, overly-timid, overly-aggressive, or overly-anything, it's an instant turn-off. Overall, I don't think there are any rules or generalities you can apply. It's like making friends. No one way will work for you or every individual you come into contact with, regardless of gender.
Ronni_W Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 For me, the "where" isn't nearly as important as the "how". Some places may call for a bit more tact and discretion, but I really can't think of a location that would influence me to think something negative about the fact that he approached me. I can see how it may be best to avoid the tampon aisle but, for me, rather hit on me there than in the hair colouring aisle . What I mean is, sometimes you are going to get it totally "wrong" -- that's fine, really, normal and life. You're not a mind reader, and ought not to expect yourself to be able to pull things off perfectly every single time, as if you are one. EDIT: Afterthought...maybe just stay out of ALL drugstore-type aisles!!! <LOL>
prettybaby Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 inappropriate places: - hospitals - funeral homes inappropriate situations: - when I'm out with my parents - when I'm out with my boyfriend - when I'm busy with my phone - when I'm at the personal hygiene isle, picking up my tampons
Author Alan430 Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 For me, the "where" isn't nearly as important as the "how". What I mean is, sometimes you are going to get it totally "wrong" -- that's fine, really, normal and life. You're not a mind reader, and ought not to expect yourself to be able to pull things off perfectly every single time, as if you are one. EDIT: Afterthought...maybe just stay out of ALL drugstore-type aisles!!! <LOL> This brings up a good point, how do you signal a man you think hes attractive and wouldnt mind him starting up a conversation with you? As you can tell its been a long time since i have paid any attention to other women. Maybe i should study up on "women products" and make a recommendation!
kashmir Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 - when I'm busy with my phone I hardly ever see a girl who ISN'T fiddling with her phone, probably sending pointless generic texts to her girl friends. Now, I CAN understand approaching a girl who is talking on the phone mentioning things like "reports," "files," or "tampons." Though, I've learned that women/girls don't really want new guys talking to them, even if they're attractive. They only consider a guy if they know them through a mutual friend.
Trialbyfire Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 My apologies for going off-topic but the OP looks A LOT like Dave Matthews!
prettybaby Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I just think it's rude to interrupt someone who's busy with their phone. You don't know the circumstances; they could be texting or dialing a number because of something important they need to discuss. I just hate being interrupted, even if i'm only busy texting BS. It's rude. Plain and simple. Plus, I also often use my phone to look busy if I notice a weirdo /ugly guy making eye contact lol That being said, Kashmir, I'm sure even those phone girls you mentioned must take a break from it once in a while and look up for at least a few seconds a day
mr.dream merchant Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I just think it's rude to interrupt someone who's busy with their phone. You don't know the circumstances; they could be texting or dialing a number because of something important they need to discuss. I just hate being interrupted, even if i'm only busy texting BS. It's rude. Plain and simple. Plus, I also often use my phone to look busy if I notice a weirdo /ugly guy making eye contact lol That being said, Kashmir, I'm sure even those phone girls you mentioned must take a break from it once in a while and look up for at least a few seconds a day Lmaooooo wooooooooooooooooow. What do you do when its a sexy guy making eye contact? Try to look available?
Author Alan430 Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 I hardly ever see a girl who ISN'T fiddling with her phone, probably sending pointless generic texts to her girl friends. Though, I've learned that women/girls don't really want new guys talking to them, even if they're attractive. They only consider a guy if they know them through a mutual friend. Kashmir, i have always thought this also. "Lawd Jesus!" I hope i am better looking then Dave Matthews.
prettybaby Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Lmaooooo wooooooooooooooooow. What do you do when its a sexy guy making eye contact? Try to look available? Obviously, if it's a sexy guy, I don't pull out my phone like a b*tch
mr.dream merchant Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Obviously, if it's a sexy guy, I don't pull out my phone like a b*tch Are you single? Because if not what's the point in leading that attractive guy on?
prettybaby Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Are you single? Because if not what's the point in leading that attractive guy on? lol no I'm not single. And what are you talking about? Leading him on? How so? I was only saying if I see a creep who looks like he's about to approach me, I pull out my phone and act busy. That generally keeps them away.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 But if it were an attractive guy you'd appear single in hopes of catching some attention and conversation? Or what? I'm confused.
prettybaby Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 But if it were an attractive guy you'd appear single in hopes of catching some attention and conversation? Or what? I'm confused. Of course not. I was making a general statement in response to the this thread. That is indeed what I do when I'm single. Not when I'm in a relationship lol
mr.dream merchant Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Oh, lmao...I was ready to start a war in this muf***a.
Ronni_W Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 , how do you signal a man you think hes attractive and wouldnt mind him starting up a conversation with you? As you can tell its been a long time since i have paid any attention to other women. Well, you just helped me, help you! Why not take a few weeks or months to "study" how others seem to be doing it. I mean, don't go gawking and following as if you are some nutjob (not saying you're NOT one, though ), but keep an eye out and become more aware of what is going on at WalMart and WalGreens...and bars and restaurants, too. Maybe start with baby steps? A catch of the eye here, a little smile there. In the produce and meat sections, you can always ask, "Er...how do I know when an avocado is ripe? (Or, what's the difference between 'lean' and 'extra lean'?) One time, my (60-year old) mom asked the produce guy if he had any turnips in stock, and he said, "No but I have one at home." And she didn't get it until hours later...most offended, she was! True story. I can't help too much with that first question, though -- I've always been very bold and forthcoming with my desires, intentions and goals. Well, extremely subtle, actually. But guys didn't have to wonder and be traumatized about whether or not to approach me...that is, IF I didn't make the first move, of course
kashmir Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 So when a girl is checking out her phone around you that means she doesn't want anything to do with you and thinks you're a creep? I'm sure some girls do this with me, but could it be that other girls are just shy and nervous and want to appear like they're doing something instead of looking me in the eye?
Author Alan430 Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 So when a girl is checking out her phone around you that means she doesn't want anything to do with you and thinks you're a creep? I'm sure some girls do this with me, but could it be that other girls are just shy and nervous and want to appear like they're doing something instead of looking me in the eye? Lol then my Ex thought i was a creep from day one, cause that women should have a blue thooth headset surgically installed onto her face!
Lizzie60 Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Where do you think its inappropriate/Appropriate places for a man to strike up a conversation with you? When i say inappropriate, say at a grociery story, walmart etc.. Places you are not there to met people, but to get a specific things done. Do you see this as more of a hassle? I know the last thing i would want to be is a nuisence to an attractive women. No sweetie.. every places is a good place.. there is no 'rule' as for where, when, how.. go with your gut feeling.. and take chances.. it's all about timing and luck.. and chemistry of course.
allina Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 at the phone thing, so true! I commute to work on the train, and remain glued to my blackberry the entire way to work and back so that people don't talk to me. When it's early in the morning and I'm on my way to work I don't feel like having an awkward situation with some guy trying to hit on me, same with after I get off work and I'm no my way home. The other day I didn't have my phone in my hand because the train was crowded, I was just standing there spacing out. Right away this guy starts chatting me up. Don't get me wrong, he was attractive and polite and I was nice to him, there was no reason not to be. I was just not in the mood, and then I have to figure out a smooth way to tell him I have a bf, and then all these people on the train are listening to this guy hitting on me, it's awkward.
JerseyShortie Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I actually wish men would take the chance to approach women in public. Too often I see guys that will look at me but not approach or I will people watch and see other guys checking out other girls that seem interested in her but don't approach. I know it's tough but alot less people might not have to internet date! I think internet dating has effected the way people related with each other in the real world. We just don't have to take the risks we once had to anymore and I think that stinks. The only time I don't want to be approached is when I am at the gym physically working out. If you see me after my work out and want to say hi..great! Or at the supermarket, walmart, store...whatever...
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