Bananna3 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 This guy and I were friends for about a year and we always got along, we flirted on and off with eachother, but nothing ever really came about. As time went on, I noticed that he started doing little things that seemed like he liked me--but he never made a move. I KNOW that I could have made a move but it just seemd like we both never got to the point, we would just flirt with each other and wait and it did suck. He started saving little things I would give him, or things that we would get when we were together, he would always be trying to take photos of us together, always willing to help me out with anything, and would talk to other guys, especially when we would be together and he would tell them I was "too much for them", and stuff like that and they should just leave me alone. It seems like we were just fine being friends and if sometihng was going to happen in teh future it would, but about a month ago--we actually somewhat, "argued"; if you will put it that way. It was not so much an arguement, but more a diffrence of opinions. He stated his opinion on sometihng and i dis-agreed. Now, Note, this opinion he had was on something rather personal to me and I just wanted to set him straight about how I felt. Since while we were "talking", he wouldn't let me get a word in, I e-mailed him how I felt about the whole situation and ever since then, he has not talked to me, gotten back to my message, nothing. I hate to admit..but I guess it could be a pride thing, but I dont know if I should talk to him first. I feel like I put the ball in his court and he just isnt doing anything..so I shouldnt have to talk to him and try to make "ammends" with him. He should try to talk to me, right? Could it just be that he isnt really that intrested in me? This whole thing, really isnt that big of a deal and it happened so fast, I didnt think that he would not want to be friends over this. It seems like he just cut me out of his life (Iam assuming this, but I mean, he has not tried to get in contact), I am sure the next time we see each-other will be akward. What do I say to him? Do I say anything to him? I dont know what to do. I am sorry this situation may sound stupid..but Iam just looking for some real advice..the truth is, I cant get him off my mind--no matter how much I try to DISTRACT myself. If him not responding to my message, means he doesn't want to talk anymore, I dont know how to forget him. The thing is, I am a sweet/Fun, girl and guys talk to me all the time, but I will be hanging out with them, but thinking of him and I HATE THAT! ADVICE/HELP PLEASE.
Geishawhelk Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Honey, you're just being dumb. Move on. He's not taking the bait, and he doesn't want to know. If he's never made a serious move on you up to now, and he's also had the audacity to try to scare guys off you, he sounds like a possessive control freak who won't commit - but won't let you find a relationship anywhere else either.... Ditch the thought of him, and find someone better. There are plenty. Why go for the sabotage expert?
jadelil25 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 You need to move on it is the best thing to do. He was a part of your life for a long time so it may take you time to completly get over him but you have to do it. He has clearly moved on and he his not interested. Just carry on what you are doing. Mixing with other people and friends. Go to thy gym, get a hobby etc and you will move on and meet someone else when you least expect it. You will be fine and can do it. This is a thing which most people go through and you have to just deal with it. Also stop any communication you have with him. Delete any contact details you have and if you are friends with him on any sites delete him as your friend. This will also help you move on.
Mahatma Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 *tip toes in...* It depends what was argued about what what was said. You made the comment that you had to "set him strait." How did you go about doing this? You may have seriously offended him. What was the argument about? The decisions above were made without all the facts. It sounded like he wanted you, and it could very well be an ego issue with him. He could have wanted you all to himself, but not willing to make you his girlfriend. However, you ought to think about if you said anything that could have seriously offended him.
Author Bananna3 Posted April 1, 2009 Author Posted April 1, 2009 Well...I was out at lunch and I actually ran into this guy. We talked alittle about the situation. I was walking in to the place and he was walking out and we kind of just ran right into eachother and it was akward..but he was like, Hey..Its nice to see you ( we had not seen eachother...almost 2 months now)...and He just kept saying, he didnt want to fight with me, that was why he never replied to my E-mail or anything..and he figured I would understand. He was like when it comes to our diffrences--were really not that diffrent, and he stated..its all just water under a bridge. I mean, I guess we are Ok now..but part of me still feels like things are not totally in the clear again..Is that normal to feel?? Should I tell him I feel this way still? I never wanted to mess up our friendship--and I mean it seems like he is willing to just forget about the whole mis-understanding...and I am too, I am not the type to hold a grudge. Sadly though...It just seems like we will never have things back to normal. I dont know..maybe we just need time??
Mahatma Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 It just seems like we will never have things back to normal. I dont know..maybe we just need time?? The former is what it will be. The latter is what we all would like. You guys are on separate paths now, time to move on. You may run into each other, or even initiate contact, but it will always be that "yeah that happened between us" feel.
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