ruggy Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Before this past disaster, I had another woman I dated twice. It did not go further than that cause she never returned my phone call after the second date. Its been like six or eight months now. Would it be bad if I just e-mailed her and said hi? Possibly, if she responds, see what I did to upset her where she stopped the dating. Perhaps I could learn from what I did wrong on that one. Or, better yet, see if she was available to chat. The break did not really bother me, since it ended in the second date. But I would like to see if there is a possibility of a second chance. Bad idea or not?
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 I'm going to vote bad idea just because I see this ending up being something that could hurt you and you seem like a nice enough guy. I don't see things turning out well if she rejected you just after the second date. She may have just decided that she had no chemistry with you. If that's the case, then a phone call now isn't going to change anything.
collegekid491 Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Generally people like the closure for getting over the relationship, so if you get a answer within that time your feeling depressed over it then it can be a good thing. However, your over her now (or should if your dating other people) so why dive into the past and go through it all again? Not to mention, she probably won't give you any... good reasons, just that you weren't her type. I mean, if a girl asked me why I went on only 1 date with her... 6 months later... I wouldn't feel I even owed her a answer, just that I didn't want to. Its borderline creeper move actually
Author ruggy Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 Well, I did try to get an answer out of her in November, but she never responded. Did not think much about it cause I meet this next disaster, which I am attempting to get over. She originally said we have so much in common and we were chatting every day. Then, all of a sudden, silence. Maybe she had a death in the family or something. Who knows. I'll shoot her an e-mail instead and leave it open. See what happens. I am batting a million now, cannot get much worse. It was two dates, not one. Just for the record. Knowing my luck, which has been really really bad in general lately, she won't respond. I hear that, but maybe I'll get a second chance. Maybe I am grasping at straws. Maybe I am drinking too much Capt. Jack. Donno.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Why do people bother asking a group of people if something is a good or bad idea if they're going to go ahead and do it anyway? I see this all the time on this board. I just don't get it. Well, ok, Ruggy - hope you don't come back wounded. And I agree with College Kid about the borderline creepy thing.
northstar1 Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Well, I did try to get an answer out of her in November, but she never responded. Did not think much about it cause I meet this next disaster, which I am attempting to get over. She originally said we have so much in common and we were chatting every day. Then, all of a sudden, silence. Maybe she had a death in the family or something. Who knows. I'll shoot her an e-mail instead and leave it open. See what happens. I am batting a million now, cannot get much worse. It was two dates, not one. Just for the record. Knowing my luck, which has been really really bad in general lately, she won't respond. I hear that, but maybe I'll get a second chance. Maybe I am grasping at straws. Maybe I am drinking too much Capt. Jack. Donno. Have you ever seen "High Fidelity" with John Cusack? After his girlfriend breaks up with him, be begins to contact all the other girls he dated in his past, even ones he's not had contact with in a long time. It doesn't go very well. He was grasping at straws. I'd avoid it man, you don't need anymore blows to your ego if she doesn't reply.
Author ruggy Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 I don't have an ego, so that is not an issue to me. Anyways, she replied and said was going through some personal emotional issues with her family during that period of her life. It is pleasant to know it was not me who screwed that relationship up too. She also is in a relationship now, so rekindling it again is not possible. Oh well, always seem I am a dollar short and a day late in these things. Does not bother me much, as I was really just curious. Just rolling with the punches. So much for matches at match.com. I do not think match.com is all that is was built up to be. What a waste of money. I would have better luck at a bar than with match.com it seems. Then again, perhaps some people were not meant for relationships. Who knows. As I always say, it is what it is.
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