SouthernCharm Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 So i am taking this girl out on Thrusday night. It just recently came to my attention that this girl has never been wined and dined. I am from SC and she is from NY and she is shocked that I am willing to open doors and pay. We have been hanging out for a while and I want to make this date good. I have a GREAT idea but I think it might be a little over the top so I need some opinions. First off I am a hopeless romantic at heart. I have kept it in the closet for a long time but I want to make someone feel special. A little background: 1: This girl has never been on a real date, never had a real first date. 2: She says that I make her life seem boring because I have a story for everything and she never has one so I want to give her her own story to tell. My date: I pick her up and take her to a very small and intimate italian restaraunt. No biggy, the norm. Then we walk down the street for some ice cream. Again no biggy, nothing special. This is where it gets interesting. I couldnt think of anything to really do with this girl afterwards. We are in a college town and I DO NOT want to go to the bars and clubs after the date. There is this building on campus that sits on a hill, it has one of the best viewpoints around the city. So i will take her to the roof where there will be a bottle of wine and wine glasses set up and a little music playing from the ipod. I once told her about my favorite place in my home town where you have to walk for miles down the rr tracks until you get to a truss. From there you climb atop the truss and you can see all the lights from the surround towns and cities in the distance...BEAUTIFUL! I make the connection with her about my favorite place and the lights to what she is getting to see at that point. I forgot to mention that I will ask her to dance on the rooftop as well, i figured it would be the cherry on the icing so to speak I figure this would be a really good date, good food and a great secluded spot for some one on one time. At the same point and time I give her a true first date and her own story or atleast our story. I didnt know if this would be too over the top and thought about putting some flowers into play somewhere through out the nite. OPINIONS?????
moman Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Too over to the top. Why not just plan the dinner and then take it from there. if things are going well, then you can go to the rooftop and look at the starts, sans wine and the music. You might want to change plans and just sit at a coffee shop and talk for a few hours. I know that for me to pull this off would be stressful and I'd probably be thinking more about the next step than just enjoying myself on the date. Flowers are out too.
MN randomguy Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Yeah, makes it too high stress for her. She's going to feel a bit unsure if she's never been on a real "date" too. Can I ask your ages? But, when I was late teens me and my friends (from Iowa) met some SOCAL girls. They were impressed with how gentlemenly we were. And we were trying to hustle them:laugh: Doesn't say much for the dudes from socal. I guess they're better looking though.
collegekid491 Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 My date: I pick her up and take her to a very small and intimate italian restaraunt. No biggy, the norm. Then we walk down the street for some ice cream. Again no biggy, nothing special. This is where it gets interesting. I couldnt think of anything to really do with this girl afterwards. We are in a college town and I DO NOT want to go to the bars and clubs after the date. There is this building on campus that sits on a hill, it has one of the best viewpoints around the city. So i will take her to the roof where there will be a bottle of wine and wine glasses set up and a little music playing from the ipod. I once told her about my favorite place in my home town where you have to walk for miles down the rr tracks until you get to a truss. From there you climb atop the truss and you can see all the lights from the surround towns and cities in the distance...BEAUTIFUL! I make the connection with her about my favorite place and the lights to what she is getting to see at that point. I forgot to mention that I will ask her to dance on the rooftop as well, i figured it would be the cherry on the icing so to speak You have combined like 4 dates here, all good ideas, but your blowing all your ideas. You throw to much in a date and its gonna get rushed time wise, meaning its gonna be stressful, its not gonna be as romantic, and there's no real time to connect. A big date would be the restaurant idea (why go for ice cream right after you eat?) and find a nice spot where you can talk, ditch the music and wine, save if for another time or make it seem spontaneous. Like bringing your ipod and headphones and if the conversation stalls then ask her if she wants to dance to a song and you each get a bud ear phone, this makes it seem less planned and forced. Also, just a suggestion, on a first date girl's generally feel more comfortable in public locations cause they don't know you yet.
prettybaby Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Holy crap, that's way too much. Just a nice restaurant is enough for a first date. I mean, honestly, my man took me to a nice little italian restaurant for our first date. We spent a few hours there talking and laughing, and that time was basically spent getting to know each other better and getting more comfortable around each other. You really don't want to over-do it for a first date. Keep that for your first anniversary or something LOL If she's never been on a date before, the cozy little restaurant will be plenty enough as a starter. Keep surprises for later on in your relationship, when you two already know each other too well and need to spice things up; that's when you can bring that kind of surprises into the picture.
Author SouthernCharm Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 thanks for the advice everyone. i have talking to several of my girlfriends and they all said the same thing, way too much. I am just gonna do dinner with a lil ice cream afterwards and a nice stroll down the street. I am saving the rooftop for a later date
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