taintedlove Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I was having a chat with my best friend the other night and we were talking about my boyfriend. She asked me if it was his looks that made me like so much and I said no it was actually his personality because hes nice and caring. She suddenly confessed "I find him hot". I was complimented that she found my boyfriend good looking but I was really worried after hearing that. She always avoided the question when I asked her if she found him okay before our relationship. My best friend is gorgeous and she attracts male attention everywhere she goes. I trust my boyfriend but I feel that he acts really uncomfortable around her. Visually, my best friend and boyfriend suit much more. I don't want to ask him outright if he finds my friend attractive because I kind of already know. I don't know why I'm being so insecure. She doesn't purposely seduce guys but she does like the attention she gets. I think she's a great friend who happens to be gorgeous so it's not her fault but I can sense my boyfriend finds her hot by how weird he acts around her. What should I do???
Enema Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 You should get over it. Your boyfriend probably finds hundreds of women attractive every day. Unless he's given you some indication that he can't be trusted. Shut up.
I'm Joe Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I find it odd that you said he acts uncomfortable around her. this could mean one of two things. Either her being attractive makes him uncomfortable because he is trying not to lead himself into temptation, or (and this is the bad senario) he is thinking about a future relationship with her should something happen between you two. The crappy thing is there is not a whole lot you can do. I would do your best to withhold all your heart for him until you come to a place where you fully and completely trust him. that way if something does turn awry you can make a cleaner break. without being 6 feet deep in heart break.
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 UH-OH!!! soon your gonna hear "maybe he's just not that into you" keep an eye on the situation. Doesnt your friend have a boyfriend of her own, why is she eyeing your man like that?
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Hrm. I agree - just keep an eye on it. No need to get all paranoid unless either one has given you reason to doubt. Separately, I hope you choose people in your life that are trustworthy. I'd say there could be a third option for the feeling uncomfortable - he does find her attractive and feels like he's already being unfaithful to you and doesn't like that feeling. Doesn't mean he'd necessarily act on it, but may feel guilty about it just the same. CB - Where have you been, man?!
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Hrm. I agree - just keep an eye on it. No need to get all paranoid unless either one has given you reason to doubt. Separately, I hope you choose people in your life that are trustworthy. I'd say there could be a third option for the feeling uncomfortable - he does find her attractive and feels like he's already being unfaithful to you and doesn't like that feeling. Doesn't mean he'd necessarily act on it, but may feel guilty about it just the same. CB - Where have you been, man?! LOL the mod knows... but i digress.
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