Gunny376 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Its not just a matter of "providing" but of "surviing". The Corps has taught and trained me to survie" in the jungle the desert, the mountains, but they didn't teach me how to survie out here in the urban jungle. Zilch, nothing, nadda! So for most men? Their jobs are they're idenity! And to the OP, I understand where your coming from ~ NOW! But it cost me a marriage and a family to comprehend and understand.! But frankly at my age? I no longer give a damn!
dead-dyke Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Well you are not alone. Many women feel this way. My wife felt this way for a very long time. Thank god, after she left I came to my everloving senses. It took that. It took the world turning upside down to realize that I needed to learn how to be married. This is the truest statement, right here. It took my ex to split before I realized that I was a LARGE part of the problem. Whomever I wind-up with, I will be sure, if I love them, that they need to make me understand that there are issues. Sometimes, you just can't see the wood for the trees. This doesn't mean he has to become a doormat, but rather you need the proper consideration. TIY, it sounds like you are on a very good level right now, and you should be proud of yourself. To the OP, if he believes you are gone, that will show you what is important to him. So be gone. And make him believe he doesn't have a chance in hell. If he loves you, he'll show you over time. Don't take the quick fix of 'I'll change'. He'll need to simmer for a while.
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