backspacectrl Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 alright kind of a short rant so i'm not going to worry about spelling and punctuation... Dated a guy almost a whole year ago. he was not a nice person (he didn't understand the word no fully). now hes been in almost all of my bad dreams. Its a year ago on v-day, i just wish i could forget him.Its really hard to know that he live one street away from me, and because things didn't end up on the best of terms, i came out clean but i'm some how afraid of him still. Its always in the back of my mind that hes going to turn in crazy killing person. Sounds really childish but he truly was not the best kind of guy. After i have one of these crazy dreams, i fear that im going to run in to him or see his car. It is how i feel so it cant be wrong or right, but how can i set these feeling aside? I have moved on but not as far as i would have liked. i want to heal completely...arrrg
addidas Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 when you say "killing" do you mean metaphorically speaking, or do you mean, literally?
Ronni_W Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 how can i set these feeling aside? It's not clear from your post -- has he contacted you AT ALL since you broke up? Made a nuisance of himself? Acted like a stalker? Threatened you in any way? If none of the above, then all the drama is going on strictly inside your own head and spilling over into your dreams. You are letting YOUR OWN DREAMS and thoughts generate your own feelings of fear. Your feelings are coming from your inaccurate thoughts and perceptions of what is really going on. Cognitive Therapy could be helpful in better managing your thoughts and self-talk, and gaining a more realistic view. If he IS making unwanted contact, and actually acting in creepy, scary or threatening ways, then document all of it and call the police.
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