sultry33 Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 Hi, Well after taking things slow with the new guy and i mean slow.. plus having the exclusive talk ..him more than me, but i stated im not into just fun. I think i have blown it.. he has not responded to my texts and his phone is going to voicemail plus his mums is off:mad: yea weird i know but he said to text hers as his is at freinds house.. Normally i dont text much maybe once every 4days but i wanted to know if he wanted meet up over the weekend as i have been offered to work dancing. so anyway after calling 2 times..3 texts on 3 sep days im actually fed up so i texted him to say get the feeling its over.. could of told me .. you know i dont chase. shame deleted his num plus his mums.. bottom line i do actually really like him buti dont want toget stalkerish or anything so its best i delete move on. I have a couple of dates lined up i have not actually confirmed yet as i said id be exclusive to above guy but do you think i should wait or go for it? my guard was up with him so im a bit upset as he didnt really see me.. extra info i was with my ex for 4 yrs he left me
lofi_tokyo Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 my guard was up with him so im a bit upset as he didnt really see me.. extra info i was with my ex for 4 yrs he left me I'm a bit confused - did ya like the guy or not? If you wern't that into him, it shouldn't matter if he saw the real you right? Hes interested in a relationship with you, you're not, that kinda ends things right there, regardless of if he saw the deeper side of you. If you WERE/ARE interested in him, but you pulled back because of the hurt from your last relationship... Well still feeling hurt is okay. What isnt healthy is bringing baggage from old relationships into new ones. Its not really fair to expect him to wait around forever, unsure of where things are going, in hopes on slowlyyyyy breaking that wall down. It isn't anyones job to repair you, so much as it is yours. That doesn't mean you need to lay off dating for a while, unless you feel that its nessasary, but maybe take this one as a lesson learned - don't bring hurt into new relationships, allow them to start fresh!! Easier said than done, I know, but you have to believe in both yourself, and the new person you're dating, to be happy and strong.
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