Author Die Hard Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Are you the youngest in your family? Don't like any responsibility put on you? Problem is, when the love of your life walks in, you STILL may have committment fears, so dealing with this now could be better than ignoring it..No, I'm not the youngest, but yes, everyone knows I don't like responsibility. It's a running joke I suppose.
Author Die Hard Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Okay I'm going to go back and read the responses, and respond, but you guys have to let me read them first.
Author Die Hard Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 So why are you so worried when you obviously are not planning to stay with this girl? I should add that I have no problem with what you are doing in bed. My problem is the attitude towards your girlfriend.I have no plans. Not staying or leaving. I CAN say that I'm not PLANNING on leaving, but up to this point in my life, it's what I do. Only one woman did I not do this with and she was married, but I think it was the chase that kept me interested with her. And yes, I'm well aware of what a bad choice that was and it will not happen again. I've grown up that much, anyway. Anyway, I'm not looking to leave this girl. I can't promise anything either though. It's not like we're married here or anything. I never promised anything.
Author Die Hard Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 I' I'm probably much older than you, but about twenty years ago I met this fine, fine piece of hot chocolate (Yes, I dig the black girls) and we used to get together and pitch and catch quite a lot, we lived down south and used to work together. Long story, but her family wasn't into white folk, the neighborhood she lived in was tragic, and if I were ever caught there with here...well...let's say I would likely vanish off the planet. Anyhow, when the time came that the bloom came off the rose and I needed a little assistance down there, she put together a wad of spit and blew it out of her mouth in the most unappealing manner. I actually got p*ssed and told her to refrain from spitting on me, it stayed in my head for a long time afterwards, didn't like it at all. It looks hot on screen, when watching porn, eh sometimes, depends on the chick, but in real-life, coming from a girl your sweet on, yeah, I can see why you don't dig it. I would tell her about it and be upfront, don't let it fester. I think you'll find that she just did it that one time, probably because she saw it in some porn, or saw that it turned you on and just kept doing it to please you. It's kind of funny, but don't mention how you could get turned off "down the road" cuz' down the road, you might find it harder and harder to get her to do that for you....unless of course, you treat her right, or she's naturally into it (as some women are...aren't women great ~sigh~). Good luck pal, don't be afraid to talk openly about sex with your partner, you may find she's not too thrilled with something your doing and has been waiting for an opportunity to tell you about it as well, communication works...for me, it's stay away from my man nipples eww!!Thanks for the post, the experience helps here. In my case though, the spitting was way better in real life than it was in the porn. But I get your points.
Isolde Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I think this falls under the category of "things you don't need to worry about." Some couples, when they get older, lose their desire for these things mutually. Others on the other hand become less inhibited. I'd say if you keep on having images of this girl repulsing you in the future, that could be a sign you shouldn't be together, because if you were even close to being in love with her you'd be way too blinded to think about that.
Author Die Hard Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 Thanks all for the posts. At least I don't feel like a perv so that's something. SG and TBF, I saw your posts but it was hard to respond with all the posts coming. I don't think it's madonna/whore thing but anything is possible I suppose. If you have any input feel free ...even if you think I don't want to hear it. All I know is that I've got to get with her because all this talking about spitting has got me worked up. Thanks all!
johan Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Anyway, I'm not looking to leave this girl. I can't promise anything either though. It's not like we're married here or anything. I never promised anything. But on the other hand you are concerned about her spitting on you when her mouth is old and dirty. Have you really put any thought into any of this? Are you just kind of shooting from the hip all the time with your emotions? You're not expressing the point of view of a man. Your attitude is more similar to a boy's.
Author Die Hard Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 But on the other hand you are concerned about her spitting on you when her mouth is old and dirty. Have you really put any thought into any of this? Are you just kind of shooting from the hip all the time with your emotions? You're not expressing the point of view of a man. Your attitude is more similar to a boy's.Well dude I'm not going to start giving out my age but, yes, I'm in my twenties so it could go either way as far as being a man or boy still. I didn't notice any age limit for posting in this area. I can't help it. One minute I'm with her and everything is fine, the next minute strange thoughts pop in my head. Are you telling me you've never been with a woman and sat and wondered what you were doing? Why you were there? Am I in love? Am I not? Can I see myself with her forever? Yeah, I wonder what her spitting would be like if we marry. I wonder other things too but this is the one that right now that I'm wondering about. When those thoughts come I picture her spitting on me at age 50, and yes it disgusts me. I guess that's the shallow ass part of me. These things pop in my mind and I have no control.
anne1707 Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 When those thoughts come I picture her spitting on me at age 50, and yes it disgusts me. . So let me think about a typical 50 year old man.... Probably overweight, balding/grey hair. Teeth not as good as they used to be. Hairy ears, hairy nose. Such a turn on for us women...
Author Die Hard Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 So let me think about a typical 50 year old man.... Probably overweight, balding/grey hair. Teeth not as good as they used to be. Hairy ears, hairy nose. Such a turn on for us women...I know, I know. See, this is the reaction I get when trying to talk to most women about this. It comes down to a man vs. woman thing, when it's human nature thing, IMO. Yes, I may very well turn out looking like crap at age 50, and I have no right picturing her at age 50 and thinking those things, BUT I DO ANYWAY. I think I may be very selfish inside, IMO. I don't know for sure, but I think I may be. Either that, or I'm just not ready yet for a full on relationship. I do not know.
johan Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Well, I'm not here to judge. I'm just telling you what I see. It's not a crime to be immature. But it's not respectable to embrace it like it's your "get out of jail" card. Each time someone here accuses you of being immature or shallow, you agree and express no real remorse about it. That strikes me as flaky. Maybe you're under the impression that as long as you admit that you're shallow and immature, then no one will expect anything from you. Then every time you get all wound around the axle over something simple, you can just say "I can't control my shallow, immature self" and people will be sympathetic.
Author Die Hard Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 Well, I'm not here to judge. I'm just telling you what I see. It's not a crime to be immature. But it's not respectable to embrace it like it's your "get out of jail" card. Each time someone here accuses you of being immature or shallow, you agree and express no real remorse about it. That strikes me as flaky. Maybe you're under the impression that as long as you admit that you're shallow and immature, then no one will expect anything from you. Then every time you get all wound around the axle over something simple, you can just say "I can't control my shallow, immature self" and people will be sympathetic.Well johan, I'm not looking for your sympathy. Never asked for it. I can't help it that some posters hit on something and I admitted it. Get out of jail free card? I don't even know what you mean. I'm not in trouble and do not need one. So, you want me to blow smoke up your ass and express fake remorse? I can't have remorse for something I don't even understand myself. I'm not SURE I'm selfish and immature. It's possible I'm just having normal reservations and I just do not express them correctly. However, based on what people in my life say, I tend to agree with those here who have suggested that I'm selfish but I'm not going to start apologizing and showing remorse to strangers about it. What would be the point? I haven't done anything to anyone here. If you want remorse, go watch OJ's sentencing or something. If my girlfriend deserves remorse at some point from me she'll get it. I doubt it will be enough, but she'll get it. Hell, who's to say she's not thinking the same kinds of things! I'm just not ready for a "talk" yet to find out.
Author Die Hard Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I just want folks to know too that I have no ill will towards this girl. I'm already starting to feel guilty for having even posted this and talked about her this way. When I see her later it's going to hurt. When I see her eyes and know I posted this it will hurt. I posted to get some help with this. I realize there is no one that can help me but me, but I still had the urge to try. I will try and not look at my selfishness as a badge of honor and I will try and come to grips with it and not hurt her. That's all I can do right now. Maybe I'll get lucky, fall in love and live happily ever after with her. I'd be thrilled if that happened. I've got work to do to get there, I know, but I'm trying. I know trying doesn't always count but I think it does in this situation. Edit: oops I almost forgot to thank Tomcat too. You're right I should just be thankful I've found a girl as kinky as me. I think I might be looking a gift horse in the mouth so to say. Thansk for the posts!
Author Die Hard Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 Oops, I almost forgot to thank Tomcat too. You're right I should just be thankful I've found a girl as kinky as me. I think I might be looking a gift horse in the mouth so to say. Thansk for the posts! I'm gonna go try and be a good boyfriend tonight and try and quit thinking and just be happy. She probably deserves better than I. I shouldn't have been on here talking about her and the guilt is going to bug the crap out of me. I gotta try and make it up to her. If I can get passed this crap maybe that would make it up to her. I'll tell you though, she does exactly as I ask and makes me happy and all I can do is think about her getting old. I really am an *******. There you go johan ...you wanted remorse.
Author Die Hard Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I fart in bed somtimes.... is this bad?Well that all depends on how bad your farts smell.
OpenBook Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I fart in bed somtimes.... is this bad? Do you flap the sheets after you do it?
Author Die Hard Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 Do you flap the sheets after you do it?Well he/she better because otherwise it just wafts up slowly. Like slow death.
zenith Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Well that all depends on how bad your farts smell. always smell nice to me Do you flap the sheets after you do it? yes, of course
Author Die Hard Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 always smell nice to me yes, of courseSee that's funny because I even hate my own.
OpenBook Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 Well he/she better because otherwise it just wafts up slowly. Like slow death. I always thought you guys did that in order to prevent the methane gas from building up. To where, when you light up the ol' after-sex cigarette,... WHHHHUMMMFFF.
Author Die Hard Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 I always thought you guys did that in order to prevent the methane gas from building up. To where, when you light up the ol' after-sex cigarette,... WHHHHUMMMFFF.Never thought of that but I suppose it could be an issue. Frankly, I flap because a fresh fart is one thing, but a stale one that's been hiding under the covers is entirely another!
zenith Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 See that's funny because I even hate my own. it's your diet, dude
BubblyPopcorn Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 You people are gross with the pooting thing. Is this more of a men issue? I wonder because my father is in his 60's and he still gets a kick out of his own flatulance. I don't get it.
Author Die Hard Posted January 3, 2009 Author Posted January 3, 2009 You people are gross with the pooting thing. Is this more of a men issue? I wonder because my father is in his 60's and he still gets a kick out of his own flatulance. I don't get it. i don't know I didn't start it, I just joined in. I hope I'm not the only male. I think openbook might be female, don't know about zenith. I'd know more, but they'd have to spit on me first. Seriously, I guess it wouldn't surprise me if we're all male.
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