Joyvke Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 I see from all of your **s in your post just how very happy you are. Ask my friends, I am a happy person. Just because some words got filtered out doesn't mean I'm unhappy or miserable at all. The only situation I'm not very happy with is that I'm in love with a friend and I got no clue what to do. Overal in life I'm happy. I got a lot of good friends. I'm doing well on school etc. So yeah assume what you want. Just tired of people like you who assume most fat people are being miserable cause that's the only thing you see with a shallow mind .
amaysngrace Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Switch to wheat bread or something that doesn't taste very good especially with peanut butter. Have him snack on banannas and tomatos instead. If he doesn't like it, require him to chew and swallow a small portion every day until he finally does. Good ideas. Thank you.
Trialbyfire Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Hey amaysn, my Mom used to always keep cut veggies in tupperware containers in the fridge. That and fresh fruit were primarily what we used to snack on, as kids. The chewing and digestion of celery, burns more calories than what you're intaking. It's one of the few, if not only, negative calorie foods.
norajane Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 The chewing and digestion of celery, burns more calories than what you're intaking. It's one of the few, if not only, negative calorie foods. Too bad it tastes like cardboard. Unless you slather it with all kinds of fatty stuff.
Trialbyfire Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Too bad it tastes like cardboard. Unless you slather it with all kinds of fatty stuff. Hey, I like plain celery and snack on it all the time. It's very good for indigestion, as an aside.
Nemo Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Fat people are sad people. I don't know where that expression fat and jolly came from but it's off. Well, wouldn't you like to bounce or roll from place to place? It sure beats walking, and it's a whole lot more fun.
Star Gazer Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Hey amaysn, my Mom used to always keep cut veggies in tupperware containers in the fridge. That and fresh fruit were primarily what we used to snack on, as kids. My grammy did that, with fruit as well. She also gave me salad AFTER our main meal - like the French do. I grew up thinking fruits and veggies were a treat. Worked wonders...
Trialbyfire Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 My grammy did that, with fruit as well. She also gave me salad AFTER our main meal - like the French do. I grew up thinking fruits and veggies were a treat. Worked wonders... We didn't do the salad after main course, although it makes perfect sense because fibre helps digestion.
Ross PK Posted December 15, 2008 Posted December 15, 2008 Actually when it comes to women, I even prefer ones with some curves way more over skinny ones.
Author nana yaw II Posted December 16, 2008 Author Posted December 16, 2008 I think your question is asking...would I seek to become friends with someone who is obese? The definition of a fat person varies as has been said. However, when I say obese, we all have a similar image in our minds. And no, I would not seek out a friendship with one who is obese. However, becoming friends with someone despite their obesity is a different thing. I have and have had friends who would be considered obese, but these friendships have developed due to a commonality such as work or a a hobby. The reverse is true. I would not end a friendship with someone because they have become obese. Then the question can be asked...do I think differently of someone who is obese versus someone who is in great shape when I see them in public? And the answer is yes. The point that can be taken though is....obese people are discriminated against in many ways. Many people will not bother getting to know the person under the fat because of preconceived notions and stereotypes....which unfortunately are many times true. obese people deserve it. i don't like obese people, and wouldn't befriend an obese person, but we all are entiteld to dislike anybody we choose.
allina Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I would be friends with a fat person, I actually have one fat friend that I love hanging out with. My only issue is that somethings I feel like I put my foot in my mouth, and like I have to always be aware of what I say. For example, I was out at the mall with her and I wanted to go to Forever 21 to get a few cheap tops. I notices she wasn't shopping so I was like "Oh, you don't like this store, I'll hurry up." I assumed she thought the store was lame because it's Forever 21 But she told me she wasn't shopping because she doesn't fit in to anything in the store. So I was like "Oh, I'm sorry" then I felt dumb for saying I was sorry, then it got awkward and quiet and i didn't know what to do. Then my bf and I invited her and her bf kayaking because we love kayaking. But they weren't fit enough to sea kayak or fit in a little kayak. So again, it was weird and I felt awkward. It's not like I think about if a person is too fat to do something with me, though I guess I should. It's kind of like walking on egg shells.
norajane Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 obese people deserve it. i don't like obese people, and wouldn't befriend an obese person, but we all are entiteld to dislike anybody we choose. You're a bit of a hypocrite, aren't you? In your first thread here, you stated that you believe European women to have shallow interests and are guilty of "not looking deeper into things". You said you were attracted to Indian and Asian women because you think their cultures aren't as superficial. Your second thread was about people who "detest some people they see on sight, even if they don't know them." And now in your third thread, you're the one who is hating on people before you even know them and for a superficial reason. As The Collector said in your hating people on sight thread: Hate and fear are often linked.
norajane Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I would be friends with a fat person, I actually have one fat friend that I love hanging out with. My only issue is that somethings I feel like I put my foot in my mouth, and like I have to always be aware of what I say. For example, I was out at the mall with her and I wanted to go to Forever 21 to get a few cheap tops. I notices she wasn't shopping so I was like "Oh, you don't like this store, I'll hurry up." I assumed she thought the store was lame because it's Forever 21 But she told me she wasn't shopping because she doesn't fit in to anything in the store. So I was like "Oh, I'm sorry" then I felt dumb for saying I was sorry, then it got awkward and quiet and i didn't know what to do. Then my bf and I invited her and her bf kayaking because we love kayaking. But they weren't fit enough to sea kayak or fit in a little kayak. So again, it was weird and I felt awkward. It's not like I think about if a person is too fat to do something with me, though I guess I should. It's kind of like walking on egg shells. It's no different than re-considering whether to invite an alcoholic friend out to a bar, or a friend who just got dumped to help you shop for your wedding dress. Instead of walking on eggshells, maybe you can look at is as being thoughtful.
Lizzie60 Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I have a few friends that are overweight.. are they 'good or best' friends.. no, not really.. they are 'just friends'... one of them is a 'walking buddy'... I just don't answer anymore when she talks about food or her weight.. I have no patience with all her weight issues.. I either change the subject or just remain silent... I hang out with her just 'for the walks' on our lunch hour.
JamesM Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 As The Collector said in your hating people on sight thread: Hate and fear are often linked. I think in this case, averse reactions are linked more to disgust.
Jilly Bean Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 No, I wouldn't. Fat people tend to harbor all this inner resentment against fit people, obsess over food, don't exercise, and generally, IMO, outwardly appear "jolly", but inside, they are a seething mass of self-loathing. No, thanks! I'll stick with my hot, shallow friends who nurse various drug and alcohol addictions and family mishigoss. FAR more relatable and enjoyable baggage.
sb129 Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I think your question is asking...would I seek to become friends with someone who is obese? The definition of a fat person varies as has been said. However, when I say obese, we all have a similar image in our minds. And no, I would not seek out a friendship with one who is obese. However, becoming friends with someone despite their obesity is a different thing. I have and have had friends who would be considered obese, but these friendships have developed due to a commonality such as work or a a hobby. The reverse is true. I would not end a friendship with someone because they have become obese. Then the question can be asked...do I think differently of someone who is obese versus someone who is in great shape when I see them in public? And the answer is yes. The point that can be taken though is....obese people are discriminated against in many ways. Many people will not bother getting to know the person under the fat because of preconceived notions and stereotypes....which unfortunately are many times true. Great post JamesM. obese people deserve it. i don't like obese people, and wouldn't befriend an obese person, but we all are entiteld to dislike anybody we choose. Well get you. Its now clear that the purpose of starting this thread was to belittle and hate on fat people, and I am sorry I devoted any time at all to it. It would appear you are incapable of rational discussion. As NJ said, what a hypocrite.
Storyrider Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I'm in complete agreement with Nora Jane. I'm amazed at how socially acceptable it is to diss on "fat people". Replace the word "fat" with any other tag and people would be up in arms. I do feel sad for the burden it places on someone to be obese and there are some situations that will be awkward. But a friend is a friend.
Trialbyfire Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 I'm in complete agreement with Nora Jane. I'm amazed at how socially acceptable it is to diss on "fat people". Replace the word "fat" with any other tag and people would be up in arms. I do feel sad for the burden it places on someone to be obese and there are some situations that will be awkward. But a friend is a friend. I'm with you ladies. Pretty rude stuff.
amaysngrace Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 Well, wouldn't you like to bounce or roll from place to place? It sure beats walking, and it's a whole lot more fun. I don't like to walk. If God wanted me to walk He wouldn't have made cars. Well that's incorrect. He wouldn't have made the men who made cars.
Author nana yaw II Posted December 16, 2008 Author Posted December 16, 2008 You're a bit of a hypocrite, aren't you? In your first thread here, you stated that you believe European women to have shallow interests and are guilty of "not looking deeper into things". You said you were attracted to Indian and Asian women because you think their cultures aren't as superficial. Your second thread was about people who "detest some people they see on sight, even if they don't know them." And now in your third thread, you're the one who is hating on people before you even know them and for a superficial reason. As The Collector said in your hating people on sight thread: Hate and fear are often linked. people aren't consistent, that's not anything new.
Ross PK Posted December 16, 2008 Posted December 16, 2008 What about geeks and losers, nana? You think they deserve abuse too?
Author nana yaw II Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 I wouldn't really know. i don't think they do, personally.
daisydufas22 Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 I am just going to be honest. I expect not too many people will appericate this 1. Yes, I would be friends with a 'fat' person. However, I would be cautious! 2. I have been friends with overweight/obese people and it's always been the same story..... they become jealous! The last person asked me to help her lose weight (NOTE: I did NOT bring up the topic) and I said yes. She claimed that she could not join a gym cause of the cost....I paid for a year membership for her and guess what? She does not want to go anymore. She gave up after weeks. I used to be obese....I am now 17% body fat, so I hold nothing against large people. However, (like I was) most THAT I HAVE COME ACROSS eat their feelings and are insecure. It can drain a friendship and then there's the whole jealously thing! I am NOT saying all obese people ...... I am saying those I have developed friendships with and how I USED to be! Hence, I would be friends with a overweight/obese person because NOT all overweight/obese people are like that.....I just have not meet the ones that aren't like that yet. 3. Strange but true..... I find overweight guys more attractive than normal weight guys!
FleshNBones Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 2. I have been friends with overweight/obese people and it's always been the same story..... they become jealous! The last person asked me to help her lose weight (NOTE: I did NOT bring up the topic) and I said yes. She claimed that she could not join a gym cause of the cost....I paid for a year membership for her and guess what? She does not want to go anymore. She gave up after weeks.For me, it was actually worse being friends with overweight/obese women. What a sleazy manipulative bunch. They tried to take advantage of me. I avoid the single, divorced, and disgruntled variey like the plague. I sincerely believe overweight/obese is a mental issue, and I try to avoid negative people when possible. I never had a problem with the happily married ones.
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