my body is a cage Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 just sayin' Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 I don't worry at all about it. It's too late for me. Two of my exes have found me and one knew I posted here. Link to post Share on other sites
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 oooohh, yeah, I feel I've given away a few telling clues about myself and my relationships....oh well... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 One little tip if you're concerned. Never post a picture of yourself unless you're certain the people who are going to see it, aren't people you know. That's how I got busted twice. I never, ever thought these guys would happen on LS since they're as far from the type to frequent a purse forum, as you could possibly think. Well, it turns out that both were googling things of interest to them which weren't relationship oriented, read my comments and thought they recognized the style, tracked more of my posts, then confirmed it was me when I posted the odd pic. If not for the pics, they wouldn't have been certain. Link to post Share on other sites
CandyGirlXO Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 Yes all the time! It sucks, I feel like I can't be completely honest. My EX knows of this site, and a few friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 I once thought my BF posted on one of my threads. The poster made a comment that sounded soo like him. God, I was so horrified. Turned out to be just a false alarm, but I have been paranoid ever since. Link to post Share on other sites
spookie Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 I am probably transparently recognizable, pic or no pic. Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 Yes, I worry that people will realize just how creepy I am and file restraining orders against me Link to post Share on other sites
Capricciosa Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 I always just figure that none of them are as obsessive about relationship issues as I am, but I sometimes find myself changing small details to protect the guilty. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 just sayin' No.. not at all.. Link to post Share on other sites
prettybaby Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 Not worried about it at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony Posted November 27, 2008 Senior Moderators Share Posted November 27, 2008 If members give even the slightest bit of thought to creating user names that nobody knows about and don't share them with anybody...and don't tell people they come to this site...and clear their Internet history (all precautions that even the most unsophisticated person would know to take to protect this identity and information here) none of this would be a problem. Unfortunately, there are many people who can't do anything without telling the world...including posting highly personal information on an Internet forum and telling people exactly how to get to it. DUH!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 No matter how many safeguards you put into place, it's possible by sheer coincidence that people can find you. If it's that big a deal, the best thing to do is not to post it at all. Sure, it was a little strange that I got stalked here. But...there nothing that I've posted on LS, that is detrimental to me as a person or at least what I consider detrimental. If anything on LS reduces me to my friends or anyone of romantic interest, then it's best that we part ways because what I express on LS, is what I express in real life. If they haven't figured out who I really am, that's not my problem. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 I don't know how anyone I know in real life could link me to "johan". If anyone did, I don't think I'd be bothered about what they would find. Other than the "hairpiece" thread, I haven't posted anything terribly personal. If someone did put in the time to figure it out, I'd have to question what their problem was. Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 I don't know how anyone I know in real life could link me to "johan" Tehehe.. Me too. Not exactly shy on the surface. I have never told a soul I'm posting on this site. Oh, well only my sister..lol Link to post Share on other sites
LittleDove Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 LOL so people post here, then tell the x in the hopes the x will read the things they said to strangers online and fall back in love or something???? good god. good luck. thats some crazy crap right there!! Im not worried now.....when I had the name cashley i realised it could be googled, by my x or his x wife...but i doubt either of them care, but i changed my name anyway;)....heck, i rekon if i gave my egox an email with a LINK to a thread, he wouldnt even bother to look. im safe as houses!!!! no one cares... Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 My BF posted as me before. And one time when we were broken up he sat up and read all my posts that had to do with him. He actually was flattered that I devoted so much of my time trying to sort out our relationship. My kids know my username. I'm on here a lot. But I think it's kind of cool in a way. When they are grown they can come here and read what I've written and it'll be like they are reading my diary. It'll also help them with anything they need help with if I'm not around cause I died. So if I die you Shackers be nice to my kids. Sometimes I think if my dad ever read it I would totally hate that. And sometimes I think my neighbor Nick from the FBI already has. He made a comment before that made me wonder. I'm sure he has access to my computer if he'd want it. He'd be the only one I would be suspicious of hacking into my mind. Still I don't care. I don't write anything on here that I wouldn't tell the people closest to me anyway if they asked. Sure I maybe wouldn't volunteer it so easily as I do here but I am not embarrassed by what I think. Link to post Share on other sites
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 My ex knows about it and I don't care on that count. But I have wondered about other people possibly finding me. But I haven't used my real name as far as I can remember and I won't be putting up a personal pic. I would wonder about finding people I know, too - I think that would be interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
blair08 Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 No, never worried about it really. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 One thing that people should keep in mind is that a secret is only powerful if it's kept a secret. The more people know, the less power it has to hurt you. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 OH good one, TbF! Now everybody knows!! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Sorry, didn't mean to spill the secret. I'll be more discreet next time. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 No, I have never been bothered by it. I do think though, if people are overly concerned or paranoid, then sometimes it might not be best to post in a public forum. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 The paranoid ones probably don't have much to worry about. It's the ones who don't give it much thought who end up getting surprised. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 The paranoid ones probably don't have much to worry about. It's the ones who don't give it much thought who end up getting surprised. Not if they have nothing to hide of fearful of being found out. It bothers me not if people who know me, know that I'm on here. I have even told a few people we know about this site. If the choose to join, cool, if not, cool. Link to post Share on other sites
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