Question for MEN only about hookers, really better than "civilian" women?

[cutegirl]

I am just curious about this.... For men that have been with a lot of hookers/call girls/prostitutes, are hookers really that much better in bed than a normal "civilian" woman? I already know about the variety factor, of course men want variety. And I also know about the thrill of the chase, the thrill the guys get from reading reviews online from hooker message boards and the possibility of getting caught all add an exciting element but OTHER than that... what makes sex with a hooker so much better?? And if so, how? Are they better just because they know how to move better or what is it exactly?

 

See, I watch porn all the time and pretty much nothing shocks me. There are only so many things you can do in bed... No fetishes shock me either; the only things I would consider off limits are scat (golden showers are ok, poop is not), beastiality and fisting (sorry, I'm small, it's not going to fit inside of me).

 

So what is it exactly are the hookers doing that is so "thrilling" and so "forbidden" that normal women don't? Normal women do things like swallow, take facials, anal, deepthroat, are enthusiastic in bed (can moan, talk dirty) etc... Normal women can indulge in fetishes too like whip you if you like it, or torture you, or suck on your toes.... What is it that these hookers do that is so special that regular women don't compare?

[Vertex]

I have yet to meet too many "civilian women," as you put it, who are that sexually open

 

I have never been with a hooker or anything, but I can see why one may prefer it. No need for any sort of interpersonal maintenance... just sex, and however you want it, whenever you want it -- in exchange for compensation. *shrug*

[Woggle]

A hooker is sex for money which is the most drama free and honest sex a man can have. If a man is single and just wants some quick satisfaction a prostitute is the best way to go.

[RecordProducer]

I don't think hookers can be classified as better for the taste of the average man. I think the crowd that visits hookers could be:

• men who are not attracted to their wives and can't easily get a mistress or are afraid of getting caught;
  
• men who don't have the time and opportunity to find sex quickly, e.g. virgins;
  
• men who are unattractive and the best they can get (look-wise) is someone whom they can pay;
  
• old men who want a young, good-looking girl;
  
• men with ED etc.
  

So this group is the one that would probably want sex with a real partner, but for some reason settle for a prostitute.

 

Another group is men who like the idea of paying a woman to have sex, because it gives them the thrill of power and control.

 

Finally, there are many perverts in this world who can only get what they want with a specialized hooker. It's not true what you say that any woman can do SM or a golden shower or suck in one's toes. Many women (including myself) are repulsed by such preferences. It's not that I can't tie and whip somebody - the idea turns me off. And why would I fake that I love something that I hate? Well, a hooker can fake its very well.

[cutegirl]

I have yet to meet too many "civilian women," as you put it, who are that sexually open

 

I have never been with a hooker or anything, but I can see why one may prefer it. No need for any sort of interpersonal maintenance... just sex, and however you want it, whenever you want it -- in exchange for compensation. *shrug*

 

Well a lot of young women today are pretty open-minded... watch porn... etc Is there anything else I forgot to mention that hookers do that normal women don't? What could it be?? There are only so many fetishes out there, and only so many things you can do sexually... what is it about hookers?

 

I know some guys get off on the fact that a hooker is "dirty" and has been with 10 guys before him... I know that's ONE thing a real gf or wife can't duplicate... I was watching a documentary on hbo called "hookers at the point" and one of the guys wanted the hooker to tell him how many other guys she was with that night, it was turning him on. I guess stuff like that only a prostitute can duplicate because a "normal" woman is not going to have that many partners in a night...

 

I know some guys like group fun and will hire a prostitute with their buddies to all share and that's another thing I can think of where a prostitute would be better because his real gf/wife might not want to do such a thing (or she might like it as well, who knows)... but talking about basic sex just between two people, what is it about prostitutes that make them so much better?

[cutegirl]

I don't think hookers can be classified as better for the taste of the average man. I think the crowd that visits hookers could be:

• men who are not attracted to their wives and can't easily get a mistress or are afraid of getting caught;
  
• men who don't have the time and opportunity to find sex quickly, e.g. virgins;
  
• men who are unattractive and the best they can get (look-wise) is someone whom they can pay;
  
• old men who want a young, good-looking girl;
  
• men with ED etc.
  

So this group is the one that would probably want sex with a real partner, but for some reason settle for a prostitute.

 

Another group is men who like the idea of paying a woman to have sex, because it gives them the thrill of power and control.

 

Finally, there are many perverts in this world who can only get what they want with a specialized hooker. It's not true what you say that any woman can do SM or a golden shower or suck in one's toes. Many women (including myself) are repulsed by such preferences. It's not that I can't tie and whip somebody - the idea turns me off. And why would I fake that I love something that I hate? Well, a hooker can fake its very well.

 

But I read on forums sometimes guys saying "prostitutes are better in bed", so it just makes me wonder what this mystical power it is that prostitutes have..

and what kind of advantage they have over normal women.

 

I agree with the power thing... Some guys who are good looking and can get any woman they want might still prefer a professional for whatever reason...

 

I don't think sucking toes or S&M is so far out there... Maybe I am too perverted or whatever but it seems harmless to me... If I like a guy enough I think I would be able to do almost anything...

[cutegirl]

I have yet to meet too many "civilian women," as you put it, who are that sexually open

 

I have never been with a hooker or anything, but I can see why one may prefer it. No need for any sort of interpersonal maintenance... just sex, and however you want it, whenever you want it -- in exchange for compensation. *shrug*

 

When I'm reading prostitute message boards, I see some guys asking for GFE (girlfriend experience). They want a prostitute that will treat him like he is their bf, they actually want to french kiss the prostitute (which I think is disgusting)... Some guys do want that interpersonal maintenance... It's even worse when the guy falls in love with the prostitute and wants to "save" her and bring her over to America...

[lady_door]

Sorry to butt in.... but may I ask why you even care? And why are you reading prostitute message boards?

[RecordProducer]

they actually want to french kiss the prostitute (which I think is disgusting)...

Why is that disgusting as opposed to having sex with her? STD's practically can't be transmitted through kissing and it's certainly less personal than sex, although hookers in the movies present it as very personal. Yeah, right! I've probably kissed as three times as many guys as I've slept with.

[PrincessPeach]

Not to also butt in or anything...

 

but with a hooker there is almost no emotional attachment to the sex and you also don't have to spend any time making them comfortable with the idea of sex together or getting to know one another. "Civillian" women aren't exactly going to offer that.

[RecordProducer]

Not to also butt in or anything...

 

but with a hooker there is almost no emotional attachment to the sex and you also don't have to spend any time making them comfortable with the idea of sex together or getting to know one another. "Civillian" women aren't exactly going to offer that.

 

After various life experiences, I am completely repulsed by men who want sex with no emotional attachment.

 

If I went on a date with a guy who told me he used to have casual sex frequently, but now wants to settle down, I'd walk away before they brought the salad. It speaks of emotional "cripple-hood-ness."

[cutegirl]

Sorry to butt in.... but may I ask why you even care? And why are you reading prostitute message boards?

 

Well I care because most guys enjoy hookers and if I were to ever date again, it would be something I would have to look out for and be aware of.

 

My ex used to have sex with hookers all the time... I found numbers and I am such an internet sleuth that I was able to pinpoint the numbers to the exact listings on Craigslist... It has a search engine and I would type in the number and I was able to find out exactly which prostitutes he responded to....

 

I think a lot of guys are into prostitutes, especially guys who TRAVEL a lot, its a big red flag, especially if they like to go to Brazil, Thailand etc... I think it's something women need to be more aware of. A lot of women probably have no clue their husbands/bf's are out there having sex on the side... It's important to know how it all works so I have a clue when it happens again...

 

A lot of men are into these things nowadays, it's one more thing to be aware of if you are even considering dating or having any relations with a man.

[cutegirl]

After various life experiences, I am completely repulsed by men who want sex with no emotional attachment.

 

If I went on a date with a guy who told me he used to have casual sex frequently, but now wants to settle down, I'd walk away before they brought the salad. It speaks of emotional "cripple-hood-ness."

 

Wouldn't it be near impossible to find a guy who hasn't indulged in casual sex? I would venture to say that pretty much all guys have had a one night stand at one point or another... I don't think there are such guys who don't have casual sex...

[cutegirl]

Sorry to butt in.... but may I ask why you even care? And why are you reading prostitute message boards?

 

and another reason why I would care is because at one point I had a fear of not being as "good" as the prostitute... My ex was with a bunch of them before me and it made me feel insecure, I wanted to know what these prostitutes had that I didn't... He also had sex with hookers while he was with me but he vehemently denied it even though I found proof as in numbers etc. He always said that it was for his cousin and not for him...

 

In a way I felt intimidated by prostitutes... Like I could never live up to them. I just wanted to know what made them so "incredible" for a lack of a better word, or so desirable...

[Woggle]

What makes them so incredible is the complete lack of drama. It is what casual sex should be which is strictly business. I pay her and she does the job then we both go about our days.

[RecordProducer]

Well I care because most guys enjoy hookers and if I were to ever date again, it would be something I would have to look out for and be aware of.

Don't bother. Once you've learned a lesson in life, you'll never need to apply the knowledge again. So we end up learning lessons we don't need.

 

Wouldn't it be near impossible to find a guy who hasn't indulged in casual sex? I would venture to say that pretty much all guys have had a one night stand at one point or another... I don't think there are such guys who don't have casual sex...

I said "frequently." Many people have had ONS here and there, but not everyone sleeps around.

[ipetree]

I think many men who get hookers are also rich, famous, and can get any woman they want. Charlie Sheen, Hugh Grant come to mind. Not to forget politicians.

 

I think another huge market would be successful traveling business men. They do not exactly have much time to date the locals if they are in town for a few weeks.

 

And lastly, men do not pay women for sex, they are paying them to leave.

[Vertex]

Call me crazy, then... I've never had a ONS.

[cutegirl]

Sorry to butt in.... but may I ask why you even care? And why are you reading prostitute message boards?

 

Also, another reason I like to read those boards is to find out the true nature of men. Plenty of women are oblivious and don't even KNOW those boards exist...

It's a dirty side of men that many women might not be aware of...

 

I'm sure some men might be nosy and read some female oriented boards to see what we talk about. Most if it is harmless "Which Chanel bag should I buy?", "What is better, Diorshow mascara or YSL Faux Cils?" or "What was Lindsay wearing her, ID this dress!"

 

On the hookers boards its : "Tips to hide your mongering ways from your wife" or "What country has the best hookers"... It's just very interesting... And a very high percentage of men are into hookers, any woman dating needs to know how prevalent it is and that chances are high that whomever she is dating might be indulging in his "hobby" on the side to.

[Woggle]

The female boards are even worse. There is a board about women's infidelity that can turn even the most feminist man into a misogynist.

[cutegirl]

The female boards are even worse. There is a board about women's infidelity that can turn even the most feminist man into a misogynist.

 

Ok, to be fair I will google around now and look for those boards and see what those women are writing...

 

The boards I am talking about are "normal" boards, it's all fashion/looks/celeb oriented... and people post pics of what new top they bought or what new bag or ID what brand a certain celebs dress is etc I never read one of those boards for female cheaters.... Are you sure they exist? What kind of things do they discuss there? Like how to get away with cheating on your man??

[Woggle]

Type in the words women and infidelity and take a look at that board. I don't even look at it anymore becuase when I do I feel like throwing my wife out on the street.

[ipetree]

I think most men find the idea of prostitution interesting as well, if they indulge or not.

 

In the USA people are just less open about it, obviously. When I was in Brazil, they do not have strip joints. They do not see the point. The men go to brothels.

 

I had a friend for years that never told me he goes to those Asian massage parlors weekly, here in the states. For about $150 he has sex with a beautiful Asian woman once a week.

 

Most women are about equal in bed. Some look better than others, and some are kinkier. Men pay because it is much more simple than involving feelings, they like variety, and often times it is cheaper than dating anyway.

[cutegirl]

I think most men find the idea of prostitution interesting as well, if they indulge or not.

 

In the USA people are just less open about it, obviously. When I was in Brazil, they do not have strip joints. They do not see the point. The men go to brothels.

 

I had a friend for years that never told me he goes to those Asian massage parlors weekly, here in the states. For about $150 he has sex with a beautiful Asian woman once a week.

 

Most women are about equal in bed. Some look better than others, and some are kinkier. Men pay because it is much more simple than involving feelings, they like variety, and often times it is cheaper than dating anyway.

 

I read in brazil the hookers are all in discos just dancing like normal women but they are all actual prostitutes...

 

I know about all the asian massage places, I think even my friend's dad goes there. I heard the women there are not very attractive though, that's what my ex told me. He said they are "fobby" and not great looking. He is very picky though.

 

Are you sure a prostitute would be equal to a regular woman? I think she must be better because she is doing it so much...Its her job and livelihood. She's a professional. It makes me think there must be something about a prostitute that is better...

[ipetree]

Are you sure a prostitute would be equal to a regular woman? I think she must be better because she is doing it so much...Its her job and livelihood. She's a professional. It makes me think there must be something about a prostitute that is better...

 

I think in the past, their used to be a thicker line between prostitutes and "civilian" girls.

 

Women used to wait for marriage to have sex, used to date a man for months or years before sex, or would have less than 3 partners their entire lives. Now it is pretty much a first, second, or their date guarantee.

 

Now, women have dozens and dozens of past sex partners. They have perfected just about everything a prostitute would. Also, women know their friends do all sorts of kinky things, so this makes it acceptable for them to try it as well.

 

And yes, in Brazil certain discos are geared towards tourists, and since prostitution is legal in designated spots, all the women at certain discos are prostitutes.

 

They feel many women go home and have sex for free, then are dumped. At least they get paid. And ironically, since the man is paying, they are actually treated better than the women who go home for free. Many rich foreigners marry these women they meet at the discos.

 

Once again, what is better is that they leave afterward. No awkward feelings, hurting her feelings, what to do next, etc. After a man climaxes,often times he cannot wait for the woman to leave, and paying is worth it.