Inarut84 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Original post is here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t164789/?highlight=friend+zoned So basically I went into work the next day and we have a pre shift meeting. I tried to avoid talking to her and looking at her and she immediately called me out on it saying that I was acting weird. I then proceeded to try to not talk to her and she kept asking what was wrong until she got mad and then it was just silent. About another hour went by and then we started talking again and she said "It's probably in your best interest to tell me what is on your mind." She knows whats on my mind. She asked me what I wanted, asked if I Wanted to bang her or what. I Told her that was the last thing I wanted. She said we could talk on break but she just ended up going on break without even telling me or trying to find me (I.e she doesn't care what I had to say?) Then she trapped me into the cooler and made some jokes about being alone in the cooler. She made some comment about how we should go on a date and I told her that the date would mean nothing to her but it would to me. She said I didn't know what it would mean to her. When I was leaving she stopped me, gave me a hug, tried to kiss me (i think, she was coming forward but I Stopped her and said don't.) and told me to call her the next day, which was yesterday. I think she ran out of minutes yesterday because her phone wasn't working. So now it has been two days and I haven't talked to her until I texted her earlier. I said "hey just wanted to say sorry for acting like a little bitch, everything is ok" She keeps giving me mixed signals. She has said before she doesn't want to be treated like a piece of meet and then asks if I wanted to have sex with her (I don't know if it was a joke, but she said it 3 times, things like "You already said you don't want to have sex with me, what do you want from me?" and "we should just have sex, we do everything else together." What the hell is this girls deal!?
Author Inarut84 Posted September 24, 2008 Author Posted September 24, 2008 So tonight we went to the MLB game with her 2 daughters. She asked me to come over and we hung out. She wanted a massage so I gave her one. She talked a little bit about the guy from working saying she felt "so stupid for getting involved with him." She then asked why I was afraid to touch her. I said I wasn't afraid and basically put my whole body on her. She fell asleep quick. She came out and told me that she slept with him, without me even asking. She asked me to stay the night but her mom was there and she doesn't like it when I stay so I declined. I waited for her to go to bed, gave her a kiss on the forehead, and left. I asked her about the whole deal and she said just don't pressure me. Am I in, am I getting close enough where I have some room to work with, or am I getting used?
Davey McG Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 You're being used. It's a game to her. RUN!
Author Inarut84 Posted September 24, 2008 Author Posted September 24, 2008 I've been completely honest with her and asked her if she was using me. She said no. I've asked this a few times and it is always the same response. She just needs to get over that other guy I guess. There is no way for me to run. I work right along side of her. If I try to avoid her she gets upset and yells at me. This is so frustrating. I didn't want to meet anyone from work.
Author Inarut84 Posted September 25, 2008 Author Posted September 25, 2008 More opinions would be appreciated.
Geishawhelk Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 You've been completely honest with her? and you asked her if she ws using you? She said no?? well, she would, wouldn't she - ?! I second the advice. Cut ties, cut losses, and get the heck out of it.
Author Inarut84 Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 I called her out on using me, because that is what I thought, and she got mad at me. Then we didn't talk for a bit. Then we went to the baseball game, she invited me back to her house, we layed together, and she asked me why I was afraid to touch her. If she was just using me, and had no desire to be with me, or even attracted to me for that matter, why would she want me to touch her? I'm not being defensive either, I'm trying to understand the matter.I would not let anyone I didn't like or wasn't attracted to, touch me like that. That and when she got into her room, I Went out side to my car. When I came back in she was in these little pink shorts and her legs were spread, she said something was in her foot. I think she did it on purpose, it looks liked she did. I am so totally lost. One minute I'll think "I'll just be her friend and see where it takes me." Another minute I just want to run away. I would not let anyone I didn't like or wasn't attracted to, touch me like that. And then I don't understand why she flirts with me and touches me. She always pinches my ass and pokes my stomach. I can not run away from this girl, I work with her. I can not quit, I make to much money there. Why couldn't I have became a self centered ******* like most guys. I would have no problems then.
Author Inarut84 Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 Follow up: Well after I've had time to think I finally ended it. I sent her a text saying "It was great 2 get 2 know u but i am moving on, I feel used and i get your hints, no hard feelings here please dont have any, i tried to talk but you didn't care, Good luck with everything, I mean that." Work will be weird though. I'll just have to try my best to avoid her.
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