nickelinadime Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Some of you may already know my story, if not: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t162974/ Well, after a week of no contact, she caved. She said she wanted me back, but didn't want to be in a relationship. Now that's fine and all, and she told me she wanted to take it slow. Fine also. But I can't help but feel I'm being used. Now I did jump the gun and started to get attatched to her quickly, and quite frankly, I don't give a **** right now becuase I've decided to just let her do her own thing and live my own life until she's ready for whatever she needs. Things are going so slowly, I feel like not much is happening at all. Anyone ever been in a situation like this, or have any ideas about how to handle it?
Author nickelinadime Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 Can anyone please help?
SuaveWazoo Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 Perhaps you can see this opportunity as a way to scope out the relationship from a different angle. I understand that what you may want is a more committed relationship with her (hence the reason why it may seem like no progress is being made), but you have to understand the the main reason why SHE wants to take it slow is because she wants to scope it out for herself too. If she is a bit doubtful of being in a serious relationship right now but still opts to take things slow with you, then that means that she is willing to take small steps toward rebuilding her trust of a serious relationship with you. You could try to take the same mentality and take it slow too for the purposes of maybe even working on some basic things that caused the relationship to sour in the first place. For example, if you two broke up because of issues with communication then use this opportunity to rebuild communication with her and make it more stronger in the future. Best of luck.
Milkflavor123 Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 You don't want to get into a relationship where the reason you guys aren't together is because of the lable and the lable meaning its okay for her to say she doesn't have a boyfriend. Meaning- she is holding onto you making you wait around because of the way she is going about it. How long have you guys been together? Also another go around, if this continues it will always continue with the relationship. Ask anyone you know, if the relationship has one breakup, then followed by another shortly after, it will probably become a pattern. So watch out for things like that because once your hooked in a relationship like that, its very hard to break the pattern and ever actually end the relationship even with it being unhealthy. But I also think, when you meet someone if its going to work out- you don't need to act a certain way to make her more attracted to you. Like giving her "space" She wouldn't want space if you guys were to work out. there is a fine line though between liking someone and acting crazy, so don't take what I said out of context haha. Basically, you do need to tell her if this goes on too long. Don't let it continuefor more than a month or so. Be honest with her, if you tell her that you want more or you want nothing- then she will have to deside. sorry if that doesnt help.
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