Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I never tell my hubby that I have a headache because I would never want to deny him the most pleasant thing in life. . It think that is ridiculous, you are human being not a blow job machine. I will never support any woman who feels the need to dehumanize herself in the name of marriage, religion or men. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I agree 100% with Norajane. The things people do in the name of religion! Actually, Caroline you should take this over on the religious thread if you ask me. Last I checked, BJs aren't allowed by true Christians. Isn't that porneia, sinful, perverted love? Tsk, tsk. I think they're allowed.. but you need to be married in front of God.. otherwise she's living in sin.. BJ's are only for religious married people.. others will all go to hell.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 I'm happy that you've finally seen the Light... because with one BJ a day.. you will surely keep him happy enough that if he cheats.. at least he will not have any reasons to leave. My thoughts exactly. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I don't think that I mentioned anywhere that I am Christian. That is personal. I don't want to make this a religious conversaton. I just want to say that men and women don't know what their roles are anymore. In the 1950's, where supposedly men and women knew their roles. Did wives give their husbands a blowjob a day to keep them happy? If not, were all the men unhappy since they didn't get their needs me by something as important as this? Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Temptation is everywhere. Denying temptation is a silly thing. Whether I was tempted or not is irrelevant. We all are tempted at one point or another. But I succeed where over half of the Americans fail. I have a strong marriage where we both know what are roles are. No it's not irrelevant there are many many married women who don't entertain that thought. I for one in all the relationships I have been in the longest being 6yrs NEVER EVER even considered the thought of cheating. Don't give me that, that's nonsense and I didn't need god to keep me in check my heart spoke for my head. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 It think that is ridiculous, you are human being not a blow job machine. I will never support any woman who feels the need to dehumanize herself in the name of marriage, religion or men. Sorry. You're putting images in my head.. I'm seeing a vacuum now.. Link to post Share on other sites
kchiapet95 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Not in my former religion it wasn't, Lizzie. You could get kicked out for giving a BJ, definitely. Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 It think that is ridiculous, you are human being not a blow job machine. I will never support any woman who feels the need to dehumanize herself in the name of marriage, religion or men. Sorry. I am glad you've worded your thoughts this way. Why is it that giving regular blowjobs = to dehumanize yourself? How is it that doing the one thing that men enjoy the most = to dehumanize yourself? I rather think that not doing it for silly reasons like "I am tired" and "I don't feel like it" are very selfish reactions. While I can be tired at times, it doesn't justify my denying the most pleasurable thing in my husband's day. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 You're putting images in my head.. I'm seeing a vacuum now.. http://www.flowbee.com/ Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Not in my former religion it wasn't, Lizzie. You could get kicked out for giving a BJ, definitely. Huh? even if you were married (religious)... ???? I never heard of that.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 I for one in all the relationships I have been in the longest being 6yrs NEVER EVER even considered the thought of cheating. Sorry but I think that you are in complete denial. We are by nature attracted to many people. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I am glad you've worded your thoughts this way. Why is it that giving regular blowjobs = to dehumanize yourself? How is it that doing the one thing that men enjoy the most = to dehumanize yourself? I rather think that not doing it for silly reasons like "I am tired" and "I don't feel like it" are very selfish reactions. While I can be tired at times, it doesn't justify my denying the most pleasurable thing in my husband's day. What is he doing for you.. tired or not???? Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I am glad you've worded your thoughts this way. Why is it that giving regular blowjobs = to dehumanize yourself? How is it that doing the one thing that men enjoy the most = to dehumanize yourself? I rather think that not doing it for silly reasons like "I am tired" and "I don't feel like it" are very selfish reactions. While I can be tired at times, it doesn't justify my denying the most pleasurable thing in my husband's day. NO you clearly missed the point, it's not giving blow jobs every day I love sex and I am all for sex as much as I can have it, it's the way in which you speak of denying your H the fact that one night you have a headache. That's what is disconcerning and in essence what makes you machine like. Link to post Share on other sites
kchiapet95 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Even if you're married. Someone I knew confided to a higher up in my former congregation that she and her husband engaged in oral sex and he said to her, "That is a sin. Why would you do something to your husband that another man could do? And why would you do something to your wife another woman could do?" But my former religion was quite strict. Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 What is he doing for you.. tired or not???? Well my sex drive isn't as high as his. But whether he is tired or not, he drives me to the office everyday, takes out the trash, takes care of the bills - and he actually listens to me. It's not all a matter of sex. I give sex because that's what he wants. And he gives me love and security because that is what I want. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Sorry but I think that you are in complete denial. We are by nature attracted to many people. Listen I am attracted to men on a daily baisis relationship or no relationship but to want to have an affair on a partner on MANY occasions is just not something I have EVER felt while being committed to someone EVEN at the worst of times. I am not in any denial at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Even if you're married. Someone I knew confided to a higher up in my former congregation that she and her husband engaged in oral sex and he said to her, "That is a sin. Why would you do something to your husband that another man could do? And why would you do something to your wife another woman could do?" But my former religion was quite strict. I'm sure it's not Catholic.. or maybe it is... Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 NO you clearly missed the point, it's not giving blow jobs every day I love sex and I am all for sex as much as I can have it, it's the way in which you speak of denying your H the fact that one night you have a headache. That's what is disconcerning and in essence what makes you machine like. Ok so let's suppose I have a headache. So what? I'm not puking or about to die. If I'm in decent shape, I will want to please my man. Nothing wrong with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 Listen I am attracted to men on a daily baisis relationship or no relationship but to want to have an affair on a partner on MANY occasions is just not something I have EVER felt while being committed to someone EVEN at the worst of times. I am not in any denial at all. The seven year itch will hit you harder than you can imagine. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Well my sex drive isn't as high as his. But whether he is tired or not, he drives me to the office everyday, takes out the trash, takes care of the bills - and he actually listens to me. It's not all a matter of sex. I give sex because that's what he wants. And he gives me love and security because that is what I want. Oh well.. if that works for you.. then fine.. good for you.. you're happy.. he's happy... life is beautiful! Link to post Share on other sites
kchiapet95 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Not Catholic...I was one of those who knocks on your door on Saturday morning talking to you about the Bible when you're in your pajamas. LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Ok so let's suppose I have a headache. So what? I'm not puking or about to die. If I'm in decent shape, I will want to please my man. Nothing wrong with that. What are you afraid of that if you tell him one night, honey my head is going to split into two, he is going to leave you for another woman? What are you fraid of, you said yourself you don't need to have sex ever night you don't even have the same sex drive you are acting like a machine. C'mon! I can totally understand if someone says I keep my man happy we have sex as many times as we can and our sex life is great, but there is a difference between that and performing so mechanical blow job every night for a man that you and prob he doesn't even enjoy when it is so mehtodical as that, and so much so that you can't even bring yourself to say "no tonight my head is going to burst so let's just take it easy" Listen hun if it works for you, the more power to you. But you have yet to answer WHY in the world have you been entertaining so many times having an affair on your H. Something in your is not sitting right and you know it otherwise you would not be on here preaching the opposite. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 The seven year itch will hit you harder than you can imagine. Well yeah if I become a blow job machine I don't doubt that, I say one year itch. I mean I love to give head and all but c'mon! Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Not Catholic...I was one of those who knocks on your door on Saturday morning talking to you about the Bible when you're in your pajamas. LOL. aahhhhh non!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Oh well.. if that works for you.. then fine.. good for you.. you're happy.. he's happy... life is beautiful! Cheers to Saiveca! () Now if we could only figure out what forum is the trolls are coming from. Link to post Share on other sites
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