Pyro Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I've got my hands in alot of things... and if there is one thing I know its how to spot a person making a decision out of fear which is exactly what she is doing. You need to go back and re-read the original post in this thread. You also need to read all of her threads that deal with her marriage to this guy. I highly doubt that you are an artist but thats just MO.
Green Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 You need to go back and re-read the original post in this thread. You also need to read all of her threads that deal with her marriage to this guy. I highly doubt that you are an artist but thats just MO. and I highly doubt your a pyro
CommitmentPhobe Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 what freedome she has no money, no future, just a dream that I hope works out for her of making a living in the recording industry that I don't think would have to end if she goes to law school. I mean when an actor works 40 hours a week as a waiter while going to auditions is that really better then being say a lawyer who goes out on auditions? That's not an actor, that's a waiter. Similarly you're not an artist, you're a lawyer.
Green Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 That's not an actor, that's a waiter. Similarly you're not an artist, you're a lawyer. Sorry I see life as more then a list of labels
cutegirl Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Just out of curiosity RecordProducer, how did you study for the LSAT's? Did you do practice tests at home or did you take courses and was it difficult for you? I know you aren't going to law school but I am always curious about how people from other countries come over to the U.S and are able to get into the swing of things.... Out of curiosity, I leafed through one of those LSAT book ones just for fun and some of those questions gave me a headache. Did you ever deal with those analytical logical reasoning problems in your own country before or was it your first time dealing with them here? I'm talking about stuff lie : An amusement park roller coaster includes five cars, numbered 1 through 5 from front to back. Each car accommodates up to two riders, seated side by side. Six people—Tom, Gwen, Laurie, Mark, Paul and Jack—are riding the coaster at the same time. * Laurie is sharing a car. * Mark is not sharing a car and is seated immediately behind an empty car. * Tom is not sharing a car with either Gwen or Paul. * Gwen is riding in either the third or fourth car. those type of questions My philosophy teacher used to make us solve those type of questions and they made me want to stab myself.
lovestruck818 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 (This thread is for those who know my case; if you don't know me from before, you'd be probably wasting your time reading this. ) If you recall, I wrote in one of my threads about law school "because they questioned my worth, I made it" (or something like that). Because they questioned my worth, I decided to go for something that was never me. Because my husband told me that I had no marketable skills, because he made me feel worthless (cuz I am not wealthy), because he was using my situation against me, because he threatened and blackmailed me - I decided to add worth to my worthless self and become a lawyer. Only recently did I realize that I was playing the role he assigned me; I believed that I was just a poor girl from a second-world country with no value. Just the statement "you have no marketable skills" is so insulting that the person spilling it doesn't deserve to be trusted. A young, intelligent (enough to get into law school) woman with a college degree in business, who speaks several languages, with professional skills in music production has no marketable skills? What about the millions of people who work in administration; do they have some special skills? Or are they worthless too and yet somebody is writing their paychecks every month? He said his ex-wife had marketable skills (she's a masseuse), but not me. The context was me telling him that I won't put up with his threats for divorce, that I can leave and get a job and support myself. It was said to put me down, to make me feel bad, to make me think that without him I can't survive, so I'd better put up with his crap and do what he wants. Just a month later, I decided to get a degree in psychology. He said there's no money in it, so I felt I would still be worthless if I became a psychologist. So I went for the law, not because of the money, but because I wanted to be "somebody," to have some worth. The fact is: I do have skills that are very marketable and have had success in the music business in the past. I didn't do anything about my music because he told me before we got married that he didn't want his wife to be a singer (he recently told me that he never said that, that I was lying - yeah, right!). In any case, I am not going to become a lawyer, I am going to be what I already am - a record producer, RP. I worked with some prominent people back in my country; I will find work here in the US, too. Moreover, I am better now than before and my music is more suitable for this market. Why would I disown my skills and be something that I don't want to be? Why would I spend $100,000 on tuition and three years of suffering in law school when I don't even want to be a lawyer? I just wanted to have a "real job" so I can be accepted by him and financially independent. But that independence would cost me three years of dependence on him, lots of money and - most importantly - decades of a career that's not for me. I am glad I got accepted to some good schools and I am glad I had an experience with the US educational system, though. He's been kicking me out of his house/life for a long time. Sooner or later, I will have to move out. The marriage is sexless, loveless, painful, and apparently he doesn't love me. I tried my best to fix it and work on it, but it takes two to tango. I joined a cover band and I will sing on weddings about twice a month to get some cash (about $250 per gig). Well, the chief of the band thinks my skills are quite marketable. He said he was looking for an exceptional singer (and said he found her in me) - and my husband said "but they found YOU instead?" (that was obviously a joke, but what was more obvious to me was that he forgot to say "Congratulations! That's great and I am happy for you!" ) Do what your heart tells you & what you make you happy. You can't worry about what others will think of you. The people who care about you will love you regardless and the ones that don't, you don't need. My boyfriend did end up spending the money on law school and spent 2 years being miserable to the pt where he now takes meds for depression. It's not really worth doing if it doesn't make you happy. If music is where your heart is, I say go for it! Good luck to you!
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