More "guy weekend" b.s.

[Lauriebell82]

One night out doesn't mean that you suddenly got your own life.

 

From never going out with my friends, it's certainly a start. My point was that I am trying to go out with friends more, and "one night" is better than nothing.

[sb129]

WHAT? He wants me to get my own freaking life. So I got one. What I'm supposed to stay at home in my room while they play poker and not go out because they couldn't get a cab??? YEAH RIGHT.

 

I say good for you for having a few drinks and coming home a little tipsy. Why should they have all the fun?

 

They are hardly in a position to judge you for going out to a bar to drink, especially since you weren't able to drink at home because they already were.

 

Glad everything worked out LB.

[Ariadne]

WHAT? He wants me to get my own freaking life. So I got one. What I'm supposed to stay at home in my room while they play poker and not go out because they couldn't get a cab??? YEAH RIGHT.

 

If you want this relationship to be a serious relationship.

 

You have to act like you are in one. Be serious, mature, and respect him.

 

I'm sure he is not very proud about that, and neither a good impression on his friends.

[Star Gazer]

One night out doesn't mean that you suddenly got your own life.

 

Also, keep in mind that they've only been living together 2 months, and one incident caused four threads on the subject.

[Lauriebell82]

If you want this relationship to be a serious relationship.

 

You have to act like you are in one. Be serious, mature, and respect him.

 

I'm sure he is not very proud about that, and neither a good impression on his friends.

 

I don't see how going out with my friends while he hung out with his is disrespectful.

 

What the heck, I'm getting criticized for going out with my friends now and not sitting home while he has all the fun.

[anecdote]

From never going out with my friends, it's certainly a start. My point was that I am trying to go out with friends more, and "one night" is better than nothing.

 

Keep it up. Arrange another night out with your friends.

 

I do find it worrying that you stopped going out with friends when you got with your current boyfriend. That's not healthy.

 

Your whole attitude throughout the saga (from what I read) isn't satisfactory. It's also worrying that you seem to portray a night out with friends as a 'chor'.

[sb129]

You have to act like you are in one. Be serious, mature, and respect him.

 

I'm sure he is not very proud about that, and neither a good impression on his friends.

 

Given that his friends are none of the above, and are into getting drunk and kidding around themselves, I would say that they thought completely the opposite.

 

What kind of double standard are you suggesting Ariadne? That its OK for LBs BF and his buddies to booze it up, but she not only has to respect that and be cool with it, but she can't do it either?

 

Crazy talk.

[Star Gazer]

Ariadne, what are you smokin', woman? Coming home from a bar a little tipsy...there is NOTHING wrong with that.

 

LB, your defensiveness is still WAY too strong. Tone it down a little.

[Lauriebell82]

Ariadne, what are you smokin', woman? Coming home from a bar a little tipsy...there is NOTHING wrong with that.

 

LB, your defensiveness is still WAY too strong. Tone it down a little.

 

Yeah, I'm trying. I got a little upset by the comments, because that is not the situation at all.

[Star Gazer]

Keep it up. Arrange another night out with your friends.

 

I do find it worrying that you stopped going out with friends when you got with your current boyfriend. That's not healthy.

 

Your whole attitude throughout the saga (from what I read) isn't satisfactory. It's also worrying that you seem to portray a night out with friends as a 'chore'.

 

I agree. LB seems to characterize this weekend as an anomoly - that they each had the opportunity to spend time with their friends. They should be able to spend time with their friends without the analysis and drama that came from this particular instance.

[carhill]

Glad the weekend went great

 

There will be other ones and they'll go great too.... I'll bet you learned a lot this weekend. Good on ya for that...

[sb129]

I think that seeing as there was a resolution and an end to the weekend, AND that she and her BF are on good terms, that this thread should be closed.

 

No offense LB, but really, what else is there to say. Already you are having to defend your actions again, do you really want to carry that on now that things are OK?

[Star Gazer]

Yeah, I'm trying. I got a little upset by the comments, because that is not the situation at all.

 

You get WAY too heated WAY too easily. Seriously, you need to chill out, about a LOT of things. Don't sweat the small stuff, ya know?

[Lauriebell82]

Keep it up. Arrange another night out with your friends.

 

I do find it worrying that you stopped going out with friends when you got with your current boyfriend. That's not healthy.

 

Your whole attitude throughout the saga (from what I read) isn't satisfactory. It's also worrying that you seem to portray a night out with friends as a 'chor'.

 

Yeah, that's my plan. It's not that I stopped going out with them, actually a bunch of them moved away. My best friend just moved to California about a month ago, so I've been struggling with that a little bit. This friend that I went out with last night is kind of too much of a partier for me, but going out with her every so often isn't going to be to bad. Actually I had a blast.

[Star Gazer]

I think that seeing as there was a resolution and an end to the weekend, AND that she and her BF are on good terms, that this thread should be closed.

 

No offense LB, but really, what else is there to say. Already you are having to defend your actions again, do you really want to carry that on now that things are OK?

 

Are you suggesting she has nothing left to learn from this situation?

[Lauriebell82]

I think that seeing as there was a resolution and an end to the weekend, AND that she and her BF are on good terms, that this thread should be closed.

 

No offense LB, but really, what else is there to say. Already you are having to defend your actions again, do you really want to carry that on now that things are OK?

 

No I really dont. So I'm going to stop because I'm really happy right now.

[Ariadne]

What kind of double standard are you suggesting Ariadne? That its OK for LBs BF and his buddies to booze it up, but she not only has to respect that and be cool with it, but she can't do it either?

 

Crazy talk.

 

Hmm.. no.

 

He and the friends spent the night at home playing poker.

[anecdote]

I agree. LB seems to characterize this weekend as an anomoly - that they each had the opportunity to spend time with their friends. They should be able to spend time with their friends without the analysis and drama that came from this particular instance.

 

I'm no expert with relationships. But I reckon I would feel trapped, if I had spent every moment of my day with the same person, be that a friend or girlfriend. It would drive me insane with boredom and make me resent the person.

 

I've never understood why some people feel the need to spend their entire day, week, month, year with the same person. It's unhealthy and not something I would tolerate.

 

From what I read, both parties acted like spoilt children who threw their toys out of the pram when they couldn't execute their authority over one another. You don't need to be an expert in relationships to realize that this is unacceptable behaviour; self destructive & relationship destructive behaviour.

 

A simple weekend turned into a stand off from a Country Western.

[Lauriebell82]

I'm no expert with relationships. But I reckon I would feel trapped, if I had spent every moment of my day with the same person, be that a friend or girlfriend. It would drive me insane with boredom and make me resent the person.

 

I've never understood why some people feel the need to spend their entire day, week, month, year with the same person. It's unhealthy and not something I would tolerate.

 

From what I read, both parties acted like spoilt children who threw their toys out of the pram when they couldn't execute their authority over one another. You don't need to be an expert in relationships to realize that this is unacceptable behaviour; self destructive & relationship destructive behaviour.

 

A simple weekend turned into a stand off from a Country Western.

 

I agree that it turned into way more than it needed to be. We will both remember that next time and work through it without all the drama and overanalyzing.

[anecdote]

Yeah, that's my plan. It's not that I stopped going out with them, actually a bunch of them moved away. My best friend just moved to California about a month ago, so I've been struggling with that a little bit. This friend that I went out with last night is kind of too much of a partier for me, but going out with her every so often isn't going to be to bad. Actually I had a blast.

 

You don't even have to go out on weekends and you don't have to go clubbing. If partying in night clubs until 4am isn't your scene, then why not go for long walks, go to the beach, join a club, meet new people.

 

You can have an air of independence in a relationship. It doesn't have to all or nothing.

[anecdote]

I agree that it turned into way more than it needed to be. We will both remember that next time and work through it without all the drama and overanalyzing.

 

Good. I hope you two can work things out and come to a resolution without acting like spoilt children.

 

He needs to grow up and mature and so do you. You need to learn to keep your word and not go back on your word. Once you get a reputation of being a person who can't keep their word, you end up not being taken seriously by anyone. Take it from someone who knows from experience.

 

I wish you the best.

[Lishy]

I am glad you sorted it out again LB

[Lauriebell82]

You don't even have to go out on weekends and you don't have to go clubbing. If partying in night clubs until 4am isn't your scene, then why not go for long walks, go to the beach, join a club, meet new people.

 

You can have an air of independence in a relationship. It doesn't have to all or nothing.

 

I wish we lived near the beach!!!! LOL, anyway I am taking a new areobics class called Zumba at my gym, so I am trying to branch out and have some of my own things to do. I'm also trying to give us both some "me time" when we are at home.

[Walking away]

I don't know your situation, but a word of advice, which has been stated in this thread earlier.....

 

Have your own life. Your man will find you oh so much more intriguing if you have a life of your own, and better yet: YOU will be enriched for it.

 

Never let your life revolve around another. It is emotional suicide and unhealthy.

[anecdote]

I wish we lived near the beach!!!! LOL, anyway I am taking a new areobics class called Zumba at my gym, so I am trying to branch out and have some of my own things to do. I'm also trying to give us both some "me time" when we are at home.

 

Do you not have transportation where you live?