spookie Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Well, "could" does not mean that he is like bound by that and it must never be exceeded. We just sort of meant that we both want to make our family a priority. Of course. But right now, you don't have kids to worry about, so let him have fun with his friends. Don't let him start missing being single.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 I think he's looking at it the right way. What happened to your friends? I think you'd have a healthier relationship if you made more friends in your area to hang out with, or an interest you were actually interested in devoting time to. My group of friends have all kind of moved on. My best friend just moved to California because her husband is in the air force (which is the hardest because we are very close). My other friend is in the peace corps in Africa, and my othe friend had a baby and is busy being a mom. And I mentioned the freind who likes to party until 5 am.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Of course. But right now, you don't have kids to worry about, so let him have fun with his friends. Don't let him start missing being single. I am REALLY trying not to. I didn't bug him about it or anything, I was very supportive. I think he understands that I'm a little sad and left out so he was trying to make me feel better.
Trialbyfire Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Well we were talking more in terms of there being children there. We didn't really discuss if it was just us. I guess 1 night a month is pretty minimal if we don't have any children. Even with kids, two nights a month isn't asking too much. This includes your free nights. As for being kidless, whether marriage, relationship or living together, one night a week or more, isn't unreasonable. Maybe it's time to start opening up your own social circle. You might be relying on him a little too much.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Even with kids, two nights a month isn't asking too much. This includes your free nights. As for being kidless, whether marriage, relationship or living together, one night a week or more, isn't unreasonable. Maybe it's time to start opening up your own social circle. You might be relying on him a little too much. Yeah, I think you are right. It may be more that the weekends are when our "quality time" is, during the week we are busy with work so usually only get to spend an hour or two with each other. So when he leaves for the entire weekend it is kind of hard. But you are right that I need to make some more friends. I'm just not sure how to do that, I'm not a real outgoing person.
Trialbyfire Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Yeah, I think you are right. It may be more that the weekends are when our "quality time" is, during the week we are busy with work so usually only get to spend an hour or two with each other. So when he leaves for the entire weekend it is kind of hard. But you are right that I need to make some more friends. I'm just not sure how to do that, I'm not a real outgoing person. If you're kind of shy, why not increase your interests, like taking a drawing, writing, cooking course or joining some form of team sports, dance, etc. You might meet more people with similar interests.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 If you're kind of shy, why not increase your interests, like taking a drawing, writing, cooking course or joining some form of team sports, dance, etc. You might meet more people with similar interests. Yeah thats a good idea. I actually started taking this Zumba class (its like a dance/salsa/aerobics type thing. It's really fun and there are a lot of girls there. I have trouble being outgoing and talking to them though.
Trialbyfire Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Yeah thats a good idea. I actually started taking this Zumba class (its like a dance/salsa/aerobics type thing. It's really fun and there are a lot of girls there. I have trouble being outgoing and talking to them though. That's awesome that you're taking this class. It might take a few classes to get to know people a little more, especially if they're also progressing at the same rate as you are, through the class. If you're having some difficulty in one kind of step or move, why not ask another one of the girls if she wouldn't mind helping you. The more you approach people, the easier it gets! Pretty soon, people will start approaching you because you're making friendly eye-contact and smiling.
imbewildered Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 This is to piggy back off my other thread regarding the 7 guys my bf is inviting into our apt for a guy's weekend. As many of you know we did work out a good compromise regarding the situation. I am intending on spending some time in our apartment..Friday night and Saturday afternoon until I go to my cousin's grad party and then go to spend the night at my parents and go out with my sister. (this is going to be the crazy night when they are wasted). The most disturbing thing about this thread is the realization that modern young men have abandoned their tradition masculine rites and traditions of testing themselves and each other in endurance,and hunting and such in favor of drinking booze to get "wasted" . They gather now to smoke dope and talk crap for hours like a sorry collection of giggling middle school chicks . How effing tragic. that it has come to this.
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