Author Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Another Bachelorette fan! YAY! So what did you think of Jessie? I was pro-Jason all the way, until the very end. I totally understand her desire to be in love, above all else.
bones1 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Sorry, the stupid part was going to his home for a second "date" You didn't even know what he looks like, apparently. You thought he was immature. He didn't care enough to ask you out ahead of time. And there you go, bringing him food to be alone with him at his house. I know. I know. Now he is a pig, yuck, not interested etc etc. He just wanted sex, nothing else. I know it hurts. Does calling him names make you feel better? If you want to be treated like a lady, then command it. Don't go to mens homes who you barely know.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Sorry, the stupid part was going to his home for a second "date" You didn't even know what he looks like, apparently. You thought he was immature. He didn't care enough to ask you out ahead of time. And there you go, bringing him food to be alone with him at his house. I know. I know. Now he is a pig, yuck, not interested etc etc. He just wanted sex, nothing else. I know it hurts. Does calling him names make you feel better? If you want to be treated like a lady, then command it. Don't go to mens homes who you barely know. Typical. I knew you'd make it all my fault. :laugh:
bones1 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Well ask your Dad what he thinks.. Tell him you go to men's homes for second dates, and they want sex. Now my parents are old, and grew up in a different time. My dad is 76, and had me at a late age. But he always told me that him and my mother NEVER saw the inside of each others home until they were married. My mother said the same. And they dated 5 years. Shows how times change. So that is where I am coming from. Going to someones home is intimate. Just to go to a strangers home lowers your value. Accepting a last minute invite lowers your value. Having to bring and buy him food lowers your value. Sorry, but those are mistakes I feel you made. he might not be a "creep". You made yourself way to accessible. Lishy, look at your quote.. lol.. Fitting for the thread.
Lishy Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Bones ...... Star only updated this thread because I asked her to - She does not need advice or critisism, she was over it before it began! He was a jerk, end of!
Author Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Do you read? I didn't accept his last minute invite. He wanted to get together Sunday, and I told him I was not available. I suggested the next day instead. I'm the one who made the last-minute suggestion that he accepted. He then suggested the comedy show and dinner, which I AGAIN turned down, only to ultimately agree because it meant eating my favorite food and watching my favorite show. :laugh: And you have NO CLUE how this thing panned out. I was anything BUT accessible to this guy. Don't you remember him whining about me putting everything but my "relationship with him" first? :laugh: Pulllleeeezzzze.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Sorry, but the dude IS a creep. I tell him to stop kissing me, and instead he grabs my boob. I tell his friend - who communicated to him - that I'm no longer interested, and in response he follows me around the bar and stares at me. That's creepy, end of story.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Well ask your Dad what he thinks.. Tell him you go to men's homes for second dates, and they want sex. Now my parents are old, and grew up in a different time. My dad is 76, and had me at a late age. But he always told me that him and my mother NEVER saw the inside of each others home until they were married. My mother said the same. And they dated 5 years. Shows how times change. Come to think of it, you sound an awful lot like "Justin" ... is that you????
Krytie TV Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Wow Star. I don't know what you did, but apparently you seriously did something to piss off the Karma Gods. Sorry it was such crap. It just amazes me that with all of the relatively normal guys in the world you and many others here seem to always run into the weirdos. Maybe there really aren't as many relatively normal guys as I thought... can't say I ever dated one. Maybe you would have more fun with the dating thing if you went about it more as a quest to see how many weird people you can meet consecutively. At least that frame of mind would help you to stay entertained until someone decent rolls by.
bones1 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 If you feel it is wise to go to men's homes for a very early "date", then keep doing that. If you want, you are also perfectly free to wear a short mini skirt and walk around the inner city at 2am. Many "creeps" might come out of the woodwork. Is it wise? No. Theoretically should you be able to without being harassed ? yes Same with going to stranger's homes for a second date. Usually only women who are attracted to that man would go. He isn't one of your little girlfriends, he is a man. A man you don't know. So he tried and you said no. Atleast learn your lesson.
Touche Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Sorry, the stupid part was going to his home for a second "date" You didn't even know what he looks like, apparently. You thought he was immature. He didn't care enough to ask you out ahead of time. And there you go, bringing him food to be alone with him at his house. I know. I know. Now he is a pig, yuck, not interested etc etc. He just wanted sex, nothing else. I know it hurts. Does calling him names make you feel better? If you want to be treated like a lady, then command it. Don't go to mens homes who you barely know. What utter nonsense. There's a time and place for everything. And my H knew that and acted like the gentleman he is. When it was the right time and place though....uhm, yeah. All bets were off. The man proved himself to be a gentleman. Get it now? He never took my visiting his home as an open invitation to have sex with me or to grope me. Maybe back in your parents day that was the accepted norm but in my world it's not. And obviously it wasn't in my H's world. Get with the program! Yeah, SG. Wow, I'm agreeing with you on everything tonight. I was all for Jason too but who can argue with love and attraction right? He brought a real smile to her face. (By the way, are you smelling sostupid around here? Because I am.)
bones1 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Every thread seems the same... Woman makes poor choices. Man just wants sex from woman. All women group together and call the man names. Not sure what anyone learns just by saying "Creep" "PIG" "Yuck" "You are too good for him" etc etc. Perhaps men think logically, and are not so emotional. This would explain the arguing on most of these threads.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 (By the way, are you smelling sostupid around here? Because I am.) YES!!!! I totally caught a whiff!!!
Touche Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Every thread seems the same... Woman makes poor choices. Man just wants sex from woman. All women group together and call the man names. Not sure what anyone learns just by saying "Creep" "PIG" "Yuck" "You are too good for him" etc etc. Perhaps men think logically, and are not so emotional. This would explain the arguing on most of these threads. What are you talking about? How did I make a "poor" choice? You know nothing about me. I made a fantastic choice. I love my husband. I'm also a very logical woman. I don't think with my emotions. Where are you coming up with this nonsense?
Author Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Every thread seems the same... Woman makes poor choices. Man just wants sex from woman. All women group together and call the man names. Not sure what anyone learns just by saying "Creep" "PIG" "Yuck" "You are too good for him" etc etc. Perhaps men think logically, and are not so emotional. This would explain the arguing on most of these threads. I never said he only wanted sex. YOU are the one who jumped to that conclusion. In essence, YOU are the one calling him a pig, not I.
Touche Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 YES!!!! I totally caught a whiff!!! Stinks, doesn't it?
Author Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Wow Star. I don't know what you did, but apparently you seriously did something to piss off the Karma Gods. Sorry it was such crap. It just amazes me that with all of the relatively normal guys in the world you and many others here seem to always run into the weirdos. Maybe there really aren't as many relatively normal guys as I thought... can't say I ever dated one. Maybe you would have more fun with the dating thing if you went about it more as a quest to see how many weird people you can meet consecutively. At least that frame of mind would help you to stay entertained until someone decent rolls by. One thing's for certain, at least I'm not repeating a pattern, at least to the extent that they each have their own weird qualities. They're all uniquely weird, and it is quite entertaining!
bones1 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Touche, not you.. I think maybe women do not understand men at all.. If a man likes a woman he acts differently, than if he only sees her for sex. That does not make him a "creep". Thats just how he compartmentalizes. The way he was aggressive shows he wasn't interested in you for more than sex. Not to mention asking you out at the last minute, when he had nothing else to do the previous night. All men do it at certain times with different women. Going to his home and bringing him food makes it seem like you would definitely be up for some sex. OBVIOUSLY I can't be wrong, as that is what he was thinking, and his actions quickly proved that. just saying he is a "creep" doesn't disqualify the thought processes that took place.
Touche Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Touche, not you.. I think maybe women do not understand men at all.. If a man likes a woman he acts differently, than if he only sees her for sex. That does not make him a "creep". Thats just how he compartmentalizes. The way he was aggressive shows he wasn't interested in you for more than sex. Not to mention asking you out at the last minute, when he had nothing else to do the previous night. All men do it at certain times with different women. Going to his home and bringing him food makes it seem like you would definitely be up for some sex. OBVIOUSLY I can't be wrong, as that is what he was thinking, and his actions quickly proved that. just saying he is a "creep" doesn't disqualify the thought processes that took place. Actually I kind of see your point here. But you know what? It still makes him a creep because "good" guys don't really compartmentalize in this way. They just don't. They're either good or they're creeps. End of story.
bones1 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 All men compartmentalize. It would be nice if life were that simple. Just good and bad. Millions of men around the world actually pay for sex. That would be compartmentalizing. Obviously men don't have to be in love, or even want to date the woman to have sex. And if you want to be fair, these days just as many women do it as well. Believe it or not, many just want sex and no relationship. Does that make them "creepy". Or are you more sympathetic to them because they are of the same sex as you. I GUARANTEE if she posted saying "I really liked him, I tried to kiss him, and he pushed me a way and was offended", most of you women would be endlessly attacking him and calling him gay, game player, etc
Touche Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 All men compartmentalize. It would be nice if life were that simple. Just good and bad. Millions of men around the world actually pay for sex. That would be compartmentalizing. Obviously men don't have to be in love, or even want to date the woman to have sex. And if you want to be fair, these days just as many women do it as well. Believe it or not, many just want sex and no relationship. Does that make them "creepy". Or are you more sympathetic to them because they are of the same sex as you. I GUARANTEE if she posted saying "I really liked him, I tried to kiss him, and he pushed me a way and was offended", most of you women would be endlessly attacking him and calling him gay, game player, etc No way. Read an earlier post I wrote on not being interested in "most" men. No. I said I was always only interested in the creme de la creme and that's what I got. I don't lower myself to the lowest common denominator. Never have. And uhm. no. I wouldn't call a guy like you describe gay or any other name. Absolutely not. I never talked about this on here but I wanted sex before H did. He put me off. He said it would ruin things. He said he wanted us to be really good friends first. Now you're going to call me a slut right? I knew he was the one for me fairly early on. And so did he. He just didn't want to ruin it. So I held off and so did he. So no way. I would respect any man (or woman) who had legitimate reasons for putting off sex. Why are you jumping to conclusions and making so many generalizations?
bones1 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I said MOST of you women would be calling him names. MOST is not synonymous with ALL. Creme de la creme? What does that have to do with a persons sexuality? A young single male should have your exact same views on sex, (even though you are a female), or he is "the lowest common denominator"? Many around the world view Americans as sexually repressed. I am not sure who made you the morality police. Men like sex. Some have a stronger drive than others.
Touche Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I said MOST of you women would be calling him names. MOST is not synonymous with ALL. Creme de la creme? What does that have to do with a persons sexuality? A young single male should have your exact same views on sex, (even though you are a female), or he is "the lowest common denominator"? Many around the world view Americans as sexually repressed. I am not sure who made you the morality police. Men like sex. Some have a stronger drive than others. We're obviously not getting each other's messages. When I said "creme de la creme" I meant I never went for most men. I never went for those who can "compartmentalize" sex. As for "young single males" well...uhm, I never in my life went for a young single male, so I couldn't tell you. I was never attracted to young men. Even when I was young. I never purported to be the morality police, as you say. Where is that coming from? Oh and my husband is extremely high drive by the way. I don't know what you're trying to imply with that last comment.
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