Art_Critic Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Her bringing the drama to you really wasn't her fault. She obviously left the guy for a reason. Have to disagree with you on that one, you could maturely discuss it. You must not have liked her that much in the first place. So you never left something somewhere, such as your purse? I don't think that losing or misplacing something is a sign of stupidity. So if your SO left his cell phone at work or in the car accidentally, you'd consider divorce??? LOL Hate to think what would happen if he misplaced the car keys, all hell would break loose. We will have to agree to disagree then...
Touche Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 So you never left something somewhere, such as your purse? I don't think that losing or misplacing something is a sign of stupidity. So if your SO left his cell phone at work or in the car accidentally, you'd consider divorce??? LOL Hate to think what would happen if he misplaced the car keys, all hell would break loose. You got it honey. Knock on wood though, nothing like that has happened yet. Yes, I'd divorce my wonderful H if he had stupid friends that would text me stupid juvenile messages like that if he was stupid enough to leave his phone behind. Yep. That's right. (HINT: Go for the higher ones up on the food chain.) Sorry, SG for allowing myself to be led off-topic.
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Yes but forgetting something or leaving something behind isn't in itself a dumpable offense. I left my phone at my brother's when I was visiting him a couple months ago (he lives 3 hours away.) this doesn't make me stupid.
Art_Critic Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Yes but forgetting something or leaving something behind isn't in itself a dumpable offense. I left my phone at my brother's when I was visiting him a couple months ago (he lives 3 hours away.) this doesn't make me stupid. They were never together.. they went on ONE date... a couple of hours Is it now a red flag ???
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 They were never together.. they went on ONE date... a couple of hours Is it now a red flag ??? That actually is better because she didn't stay with that loser after one date. So it's not a red flag. It would be a red flag if she had dated him a month or more.
Touche Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 That actually is better because she didn't stay with that loser after one date. So it's not a red flag. It would be a red flag if she had dated him a month or more. Uhm, no. It's a red flag. It tells her not to go out again with a dummy who leaves his phone for any idiot friend/acquaintance of his to pick up.
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 So you're saying that everyone who loses or forgets something on rare occasions is an idiot? Oh and Art was talking about another situation.
Touche Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 So you're saying that everyone who loses or forgets something on rare occasions is an idiot? Oh and Art was talking about another situation. Uhm. No. I only repeated myself a few times. Go back and re-read the part about who it is that is picking up his phone and texting. With retarded friends like he has, then YES he's a fool for leaving his phone around. I don't get what part of this is so hard to understand. Others understood it. Anyway, SG. Tell us what his "excuse" is.
bones1 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 If you are a real man, people would know better than to even touch your phone, much less text women from it. Never in my life would any of my friends touch my phone and text women.
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 If you are a real man, people would know better than to even touch your phone, much less text women from it. Never in my life would any of my friends touch my phone and text women. Yes that is true.
Touche Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 If you are a real man, people would know better than to even touch your phone, much less text women from it. Never in my life would any of my friends touch my phone and text women. And real men never lose their phones either do they?
Lishy Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Oh come on Star, stop all the speculation and detective work (fun as it is) What was his excuse?????????????? My 'guess' is that he denies knowing that these texts were sent, blames a young friend and says he does not know how he/she (I guess a she) got your number and that he must have left his phone unattended. Oh the suspense!!!!!!!!
sb129 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Uhm, no. It's a red flag. It tells her not to go out again with a dummy who leaves his phone for any idiot friend/acquaintance of his to pick up. Exactly. As Art said, regardless of WHO sent the texts- the fact that they were sent AT ALL (after just one date!?!!) is the huge big flapping red flag. The content of them is utterly ridiculous, and has created drama that was entirely unnecessary. Justin should be mad if it is his "friend", because his "friend" has just lost him a second date. If you are a real man, people would know better than to even touch your phone, much less text women from it. Never in my life would any of my friends touch my phone and text women. Precisely.
Lishy Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Well????????? Don't keep us in suspenders ............. !
Author Star Gazer Posted July 6, 2008 Author Posted July 6, 2008 He called yesterday, but one of us had a really bad connection - probably him, knowing where he is. I could only understand every third word. His tone sounded apologetic though. Anyway, I texted him and told him I couldn't understand him and to call me when he gets back and/or has a better connection. Don't worry, Lishy... I'll give ya the deets.
Lishy Posted July 6, 2008 Posted July 6, 2008 Oooooooooooo this is like a really tense and exciting soap opera where they end it just as the exciting bit hehhehe
Lishy Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Oh he must have called by now!!!!!!!!!!!! Fess upppppppppp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
JP77 Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Oh he must have called by now!!!!!!!!!!!! Fess upppppppppp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Gossip. Gibbons.Usually.Take.Unhealthy Interest. In.Other's.Problems. I.Hope.You.Aren't.British.Because.You.Give.Us. A. Bad.Name.
Pencup Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Dont stress. Up until my last relationship i was the same as your date.
SugarKiss Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 They were never together.. they went on ONE date... a couple of hours Is it now a red flag ??? It's a red flag regardless of how long they went out and I don't blame you one bit for wanting nothing to do with that scene. but even moreso if they went out only once that's insane!! as per the idea that a guy never fell in love before is that a red flag? at least two of my ex boyfriends said they had never been in love until they fell in love with me. so I think it is more common for guys to not find love as often. I wouldn't see it as a red flag I see it as them just not knowing what to look out for. let me tell you they most definitely knew how to show their love so when they do find it watch out!
Lishy Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Gossip. Gibbons.Usually.Take.Unhealthy Interest. In.Other's.Problems. I.Hope.You.Aren't.British.Because.You.Give.Us. A. Bad.Name. And I hope you are not British with that typing!!!!!!
JP77 Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 And I hope you are not British with that typing!!!!!! British.Women.Are.Great.At.Standing.Up.To.Men. God. Bless. British. Women.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Not sure where to start, so I'll just ramble. I think I was calling this guy "Justin," right? Well, if not, lets... After receiving Justin's apologetic texts re: his friends' asinine text messages, I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and "another chance," so to speak. He asked me out last minute last Sunday, but I didn't think that was appropriate so I told him I was amenable to seeing him the following day. He agreed. At first he suggested dinner and a comedy show, which I was excited about. However, after a silly conversation regarding The Bachelorette and how obsessed I was with the show, he suggested we get take out and watch it instead. I thought that would be okay too, despite the fact that it involved me going to his house (I don't go to houses on second dates, but we have a mutual friend in common so I felt safe). Anyway...he has me pick up the food on my way home from work. I didn't mind, until I realized the total for the food was $2 shy of $50. (My fault, I picked fancy take out, damn that tasty Persian food!) So I get there, we start eating and watching the show. I'm very focused on the show, mind you. I'm a little obsessed with it. Anyway, randomly, he brushes the hair off my neck and starts literally kissing my neck. I pull away, acting coy and telling him we needed to watch the show. He relents, but tries a few minutes later. This escapade repeats itself 5 times at least. Each time, he kisses me and as he's coming at me to kiss me all I see is tongue. He's lilterally leading with his tongue each time. He doesn't like ease into the kiss, he just comes at me with that damn tongue! I'm getting irritated and really grossed out, so the last time he does this I literally DOGDE his advance. He sighs this big dramatic sigh and leans back on the couch. I tell him, quite bluntly, "Look, I think I move a little less quickly than you do, and I really prefer to ease into things than just BAM! have a tongue shoved down my throat." He rolls his eyes, but then says, "Just kidding, just kidding. Okay, I hear what you're saying." Oh, tangential comment, during our dinner-TV-watching, I ask him what was up with his friends' text messages (we hadn't really talked about it yet). He doesn't really explain, or apologize. Just says they were drunk and trying to help out. Somehow I brought up his apologies, and he says that the apologies weren't from him, they were from one of his FRIENDS! HE didn't even apologize!!! Anyway. We finish eating, and somehow I find myself sitting on his couch with his arm around me. Whatever. He's to my left. He starts kinda "caressing" my right arm with his hand, and after a few seconds I start feeling his thumb rubbing my right boob, like literally almost rubbing my nipple. I look down and stare at that damn thumb for a minute, and then say, "Is there a reason you're rubbing my boob with your thumb?" Instead of retracting his hand and apologizing, he acts like I'm being a prude. Deep sigh again, and then reaches with his other hand and full on GRABS my left boob and gives it a squeeze and says, "There, now we've got that over with." I literally pick his hand up and remove it, and move two feet over on the couch. The show ends, I promptly stand up to leave. He walks me out, gives me a simple peck on the lips, tells me he had a lovely time, thanks me for dinner, and we part. I don't hear from him until Friday, when he sends me a text saying he's been BUSY WITH WORK. Not that I ever cared to hear from him again, but oh, the irony! Assuming I'd even be interested at that point, he now expects me to tolerate NC for FOUR DAYS because of HIS work, but it's absolutely unacceptable for me to postpone a date two days because of MY work. Anyway, our mutual friend (I'll call him Scott - he was actually the one "apologizing" via text!) calls me Friday afternoon to talk about a party at this club I was going to on Friday night. Scott had heard from another friend of ours (Joe) that I was going with my group of girlfriends to celebrate a girlfriend's birthday. It also happened to be Scott's birthday, and he was going to the same place and wanted to make sure we ran into one another. Scott says to me, "Um, yeah so our buddy Justin is going to be there, what's going on with you two?" I tell him I really don't know what's going on with him, but that the double standard was ridiculous, but that for other reasons I just didn't think it would work out. Scott tries to defend Justin's work schedule, saying, "Well, I've been calling him all week and he just called me back this morning." I repeat to Scott, "Well, I just don't think we're compatible. I really hope tonight isn't awkward, I'm hoping to have a good time, without any guy drama." He assures me there won't be any problems as far as Justin is concerned. Fast forward to that night. I get to this club (I haven't been to a "club" in literally 6 months, it's just not my thing), which is a three-in-one party...three clubs all attached to one another with linked doors for this particular huge event. It's a big place. No matter where I go, Justin is a few feet away. He comes up to me while I'm at the bar with girlfriends, and literally presses himself into me. I turn around and say hi, but then return to my conversation. But he's always there, within 10 feet. I can feel his eyes on me all night. In fact, there are mirrors above the bar and in other places, and I can even see him watching me through the mirrors. My girlfriends are creeped out by this. If I wasn't within 10 feet of him, he was texting me asking me where I am. I was short in my responses to him. But none of that really matters for one very big, important reason: I'm just not attracted to the guy. I tried to be (don't know why), but I'm just not. During our second date I came to terms with what was really feeling "off," and it's that he's just really, really physically not my type. To be perfectly honest, he's tall, but at least 50-60 pounds overweight...probably more. It's just not attractive to me. I know I don't have the perfect body so I probably don't have room to talk, but while I may have 10-15 pounds to lose to be a hard body, he's literally obese (I figured out his BMI based on how much he voluntarily told me he weighed, and he's well into the obese range). I feel kinda bad, because I don't think he really knows what went wrong.
CaliGuy Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 All I have to say is YUCK! (And change your phone number!)
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