Author Star Gazer Posted July 4, 2008 Author Posted July 4, 2008 He texted you from a cell providers webpage.. manipulation...What a disrespectful guy.. No he didn't. It was from a phone number, I just didn't recognize it. Regardless if it's a friend or Justin himself, this is really weird. He's mid-thirties so I'm going to assume his friends are also within the same generation. These are seriously childish texts. Exactly. He's mid-30's, and his friends are all 29-36. He went out of town for the holiday with a group of friends, all of whom are single. One of those friends is rebounding from a divorce, and everywhere they go this friend always brings along a somewhat trampy 22-24 year old female. It could have easily been that girl, that's how lame the texts were.
bones1 Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 It really is hard to get a clue of what type of people are posting and seeking "help" without seeing a photo. One guy wants you to buy him a shirt after 1 date? Another guy's friends are sending these texts. What do you look like? They obviously have little respect for you, and seem to be playing games.
Art_Critic Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 It could have easily been that girl, that's how lame the texts were. Don't make excuses for what happened.. What happened was weird and not right and not normal in any circumstances.. Where are your boundaries ? I thought that when you said unknown number that you meant it did not show a number.. sorry..
johan Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 I don't see how holding the guy responsible for this is fair. No one knows who punched the keys and sent the messages, for what reason, or whether "Justin" had any idea about it or approved. I agree that his remarks were odd, and his friends aren't very impressive, but I haven't seen enough to write him off yet. I haven't seen enough the other way either. But sooner or later over-thinking the situation will sink it regardless.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 4, 2008 Author Posted July 4, 2008 It really is hard to get a clue of what type of people are posting and seeking "help" without seeing a photo. One guy wants you to buy him a shirt after 1 date? Another guy's friends are sending these texts. What do you look like? They obviously have little respect for you, and seem to be playing games. :lmao: Okaaaaaay, guy.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 4, 2008 Author Posted July 4, 2008 I don't see how holding the guy responsible for this is fair. No one knows who punched the keys and sent the messages, for what reason, or whether "Justin" had any idea about it or approved. I agree that his remarks were odd, and his friends aren't very impressive, but I haven't seen enough to write him off yet. I haven't seen enough the other way either. But sooner or later over-thinking the situation will sink it regardless. He WAS very apologetic once I forwarded him the messages, asked me to ignore them and asked if he could call me tomorrow (today). I'm open to an explanation.
Lishy Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 I think you should definately get an explanation I am deperate to find out what it is so you MUST share!!!!!!!!! If what he says does not add up Star, tell him you have decided to be a nun and live in Iraq and that you have to go as your flight leaves in 10 mins lol
amerikajin Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 I don't see how holding the guy responsible for this is fair. No one knows who punched the keys and sent the messages, for what reason, or whether "Justin" had any idea about it or approved. I agree that his remarks were odd, and his friends aren't very impressive, but I haven't seen enough to write him off yet. I haven't seen enough the other way either. But sooner or later over-thinking the situation will sink it regardless. I was thinking exactly the same thing. Granted, I can totally understand it if Star Gazer's more than a little spooked at this point, and I wouldn't blame her if she did just decide to cut her losses. But I'm wondering if he doesn't have some girl-friend (not to be confused with girlfriend) of his who is perhaps really wanting something more and is trying to sabotage this before it gets started. Maybe his girl friend is the psycho and not Justin, and maybe Justin needs to ditch this so called friend of his. Then again, he could well be immature and nutty enough to orchestrate something like this on his own. Stranger things have happened.
amerikajin Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 I didnt know that! And they do this without charging? I have verizon. I have to look into this, thanks! I think he's crazy. To all the naysayers about NOT throwing him away after the comments and revelations, and all those who jumped on SG and the rest of us who thought she should proceed with caution, here is the proof of why. There is a reason us "bitter and jaded" chicks the way we do. It's because we have a lot more life experience in this regard, and after a while, you recognize signs that predict behavior. This couldn't have been a better illustration of that. First of all, we don't know who sent the texts. Second of all, even if this guy turned out to be a quack, there's nothing that says some other guy wouldn't turn out to be decent. My theory on this is that age isn't the problem, the problem is the screening criteria in general that a particular person is using to find dates. Whether you're dating someone who's 20, 30 or 40, approaching people for superficial reasons probably has more to do with why someone ends up dating a weirdo than the fact that they're 35 and never had a serious relationship. Assessing someone's age and dating history isn't nearly as important as assessing their general character.
Touche Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 Well if what Amerika and Johan are saying is true, what's he doing around ex-g/f's or any other stupid person juvenile enough to send stuff like that. If he's that stupid to leave his phone lying around for any idiot to pick up and text you with that garbage, I'd ditch him. But that's me.
amerikajin Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 Well if what Amerika and Johan are saying is true, what's he doing around ex-g/f's or any other stupid person juvenile enough to send stuff like that. If he's that stupid to leave his phone lying around for any idiot to pick up and text you with that garbage, I'd ditch him. But that's me. I definitely agree with you that it demands a no-bullsh*t explanation, and like I said, SG probably couldn't be blamed for ditching him anyway. I'm sort of on the fence here, to be honest. If she thinks this guy is really cool and worth a shot, I would probably give it to him. If she's not all that into him, I would probably just find someone without all the potential for drama and let that be a lesson to him that he needs to figure out who his real friends are, assuming that it was in fact his friend who is responsible for this.
Trialbyfire Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 If for nothing else beyond entertainment Star, getting an explanation would be worthwhile!
Jilly Bean Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 . Assessing someone's age and dating history isn't nearly as important as assessing their general character. Well, he now has strikes in both categories, IMO...
sb129 Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 I don't see how holding the guy responsible for this is fair. No one knows who punched the keys and sent the messages, for what reason, or whether "Justin" had any idea about it or approved. I agree that his remarks were odd, and his friends aren't very impressive, but I haven't seen enough to write him off yet. I haven't seen enough the other way either. But sooner or later over-thinking the situation will sink it regardless. I would be concerned about how the mystery texter got SGs number. Either 1. justin gave it to someone or 2. the someone helped themselves to it and took it upon themselves to text (which is just plain weird) Neither way is very favourable...
Touche Posted July 4, 2008 Posted July 4, 2008 I would be concerned about how the mystery texter got SGs number. Either 1. justin gave it to someone or 2. the someone helped themselves to it and took it upon themselves to text (which is just plain weird) Neither way is very favourable... Exactly. That was kind of my point. Bad judgment all the way around on the part of Justin.
Mary3 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 This text was sent by a young female ( age 16-24 ) who has a vested interest in * Justin * in some way. It was not sent by a young teen guy. Why ? Because young teen guys don't give a crap about Justins feelings.
Art_Critic Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Should it matter who the texts were sent by ?? They had one date 4 days ago... I would think that the guy has a whole lot of drama in his life that is about to be unleashed into SG's life if she continues dating him... IMO... Who sent the texts wouldn't change my decision in this.. If I dated a girl who after one date had an exbf call me and bitch me out for dating her I would be gone in a flash.... I did date a girl once that after dating her for about 2 weeks her front windshield was busted out of her car in my driveway by her exbf.. I stopped dating her the next day.. I figured that my business windows or my car were next and who wants to wrapped up in someone else's drama that has nothing to do with you.. I say Buh Bye...
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 I did date a girl once that after dating her for about 2 weeks her front windshield was busted out of her car in my driveway by her exbf.. I stopped dating her the next day.. I figured that my business windows or my car were next and who wants to wrapped up in someone else's drama that has nothing to do with you.. I say Buh Bye... That wasn't her fault though that her exboyfriend did that and if you really dig someone in the first place, then they are worth the risk of material things such as business windows which can be replaced with this thing we have called insurance.
Mary3 Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 No Art. it should not matter. I was just trying to play detective and figure out who did it. Either way , you are right , drama ,drama. drama ! lol....
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Exactly. That was kind of my point. Bad judgment all the way around on the part of Justin. We've all misplaced our phones, though, or left them out. This in itself is not a dumpable offense.
Art_Critic Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 That wasn't her fault though that her exboyfriend did that and if you really dig someone in the first place, then they are worth the risk of material things such as business windows which can be replaced with this thing we have called insurance. It wasn't her fault.. but bringing the drama to me was.. When you date someone you are supposed to be dating them and any drama or outside interference that they have going on in their life just detracts away from having fun getting to know someone. and if you think that someone who I had only been dating for 2 weeks was worth bringing violence and vandalism to my business, home or my employees cars then you should think again.. It is my responsibility to keep that kinda crap away from them not bring it to them and have the drama then brought into their lives too.. It is also my responsibility to keep my life as drama free as possible, after going thru a drama driven marriage and divorce I can tell you that the drama brought on by others isn't worth the damage it does to your own life..
Touche Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 We've all misplaced our phones, though, or left them out. This in itself is not a dumpable offense. Well I haven't and it is for me. I guess some people have a higher tolerance for stupidity and bad judgment than others do. My threshold is obviously pretty low on that score and my standards are pretty high.
Art_Critic Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 No Art. it should not matter. I was just trying to play detective and figure out who did it. Either way , you are right , drama ,drama. drama ! lol.... Hi Mary.. I wasn't quoting you... You being a detective is great.. I think you are probably on the right track.. either that or he had some of these texts sent to her from a teen trying to get SG to just jump the guys bones
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 Her bringing the drama to you really wasn't her fault. She obviously left the guy for a reason. Have to disagree with you on that one, you could maturely discuss it. You must not have liked her that much in the first place.
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Posted July 5, 2008 So you never left something somewhere, such as your purse? I don't think that losing or misplacing something is a sign of stupidity. So if your SO left his cell phone at work or in the car accidentally, you'd consider divorce??? LOL Hate to think what would happen if he misplaced the car keys, all hell would break loose. Well I haven't and it is for me. I guess some people have a higher tolerance for stupidity and bad judgment than others do. My threshold is obviously pretty low on that score and my standards are pretty high.
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