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six months after......now what am I doing wrong


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I'm not quite sure where to post this but here it goes.

 

its been six months since i broke up with my ex fiance and since then i have only been with one other women. I now spend my weekends at clubs, bars or house paries looking, but to no prevale. I even tried the internet dating scene but its not really my taste, I just made some chatting buddies. I'm not ugly or fat, infact I'm a good looking guy and get hit on a lot from both sexes (Unfortunately) and at the clubs i get a olot of girls to dance with, but no further , and most of the girls are never what i'm looking for. I'm a good talker and most girls talk with me, but like i said no further. I'm starting to feel a bit lonely, I guess I'm used the closeness. As far as dating I really havent and I dont know why. I asked a few girls out and they said yes, only for me to find out last minute that they cant make it (like i believed them). Am I trying to hard, am i being to picky. and to make matters worse just when i though i got over my ex i saw her walking to the train this morning as i was driving to work. she saw me, but ignored me. and to make things even worse my last ex the other girl i was with is in another realtionship, not like i really care about it, but it just makes me realize how quickly things happen for others and not me. now i feel even more lonely and dont know what to do.

 

i know im rambiling on, but this is whats going on in my head lol

 

I'm an only child and was picked on alot as a kid so I'm used to being alone, but not anymore, I guess i got a taste of something good, and now I want it again (a relationship), but at the same time enjoy the "freedom" sorta

 

I dont know where to begin or what im doing wrong that i cant get a girl

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I know this is a cliche, but I've always found that I tend to get into relationships when I'm NOT focusing on getting into a relationship - does that make sense?

 

Maybe this is the universe's way of telling you that you should just concentrate on YOU for now, and a relationship will happen when you are ready for one.

 

IME when you are actively looking you can sort of send out a vibe that is off-putting to the opposite sex.

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