Andy11 Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 (edited) :eek:Ok...here is the short of it. Met this gr8 girl....we went out on Saturday. Had gr8 date and had very good conversation. Afterwards, i made the terrible mistake of texting her too much and calling her more than i should. I really spooked her. I know...i made a bad mistake. She calls me up telling me how it might not work and tells me how i rushed everything and really scared her. She is rather conservative...forgot to mention. I apologized sincerely....knew i had made a mistake. Several days later she calls and asks to go out tomorrow. I say fine. I need some input please. Why would she call me back? Do girls get spooked from too much contact? What can i do to get her back? Thanks in advance. Edited March 5, 2008 by Andy11
carhill Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 You learned something. You recognized her boundary, apologized and made no further contact. Go out tomorrow... What did you learn? I want to hear it....
Author Andy11 Posted March 5, 2008 Author Posted March 5, 2008 I learned that i am a moron and still dont understand women.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 I learned that i am a moron and still dont understand women. Let me give you some insight regarding your situation. She might be creeped out by your constant texting, but she's willing to give you a chance, because she can't believe that someone is interested in her.... that's the kind of vibe I'm getting from her. Somebody else prove me wrong.
Jilly Bean Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 She could have pushed you away because she prefers to control the pace, and she prefers to do the pursuing. Just another thought...
carhill Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 I learned that i am a moron and still dont understand women. I don't know how old you are but I have a news flash for you. You'll never understand women It's just not possible
NuTuDating Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 That is one thing I've learned. Play it cool. Be interested. If you feel like calling the next day call.... ONCE. If she initiates a text message session, feel free. I know, I've met a great girl, too. It kills me. I want to call her as soon as I get off work every day. I don't. Give her some space. Make her wonder about you. Let her know you're interested and nothing more at first unless she wants to talk every day. The girl I'm dating (4 dates now) likes to talk every night, but I know if I started calling her during the day or texting her several times, I'd push her away. So I resist the urge. You must, too.
xaneurysmx Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Well, you should have told her you can't tomorrow but maybe this weekend and made her wait. Honestly, just be yourself. It's cliche, but it's true. If you can't be yourself around her, it isn't going to work out anyway. So maybe you were a bit overzealous and it threw her off. She obviously liked you enough to give you a second chance. That doesn't mean to mad-rush her with texts and phone calls after the second date, but if you really have the urge, there's no harm in sending her a next-day or post-date text saying something like "I'm glad we met up. Have a good night." (no further text no matter what unless she asks you a question!!) Then let a day or two or even three go by, and try not to worry about it. Just do your thing and in the back of your mind, look forward to the next time you get to see her again!
mortensorchid Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Well, I'm a woman. I know I'm a slave to my hormones, and sometimes I will be crazy. But, if she called back and said "let's go out again" then she's at least giving you a chance. Tell how it went.
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