Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 So there is a bar in my neighborhood that all of my friends go to. Probably half the bar is regulars. It's sort of a community hang-out, like an English pub. Anyways, there is this guy there who always hangs out with another girl, but they are just friends. However, she has made it clear to a couple of friends of mine at she has a big crush on him. However, he has said that nothing would ever happen with them. I was there the other night and I was talking to this guy and a couple other guys. As I was leaving, I said goodbye to everyone. It is quite common in my crowd to say "hi" or "bye" with a kiss on the cheek. However, this guy does not do that. When I said "bye" he hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. I kissed him back, and then he kissed me back. I said, "oops, I'm being bad" because of his friend. He said, "no you're not". A few days later I saw him out and the same thing happened, except that this time he kissed me on the lips (no tongue, haha!) Then I saw him Sunday night and he walked all the way across the bar to say goodbye to me. So my question is...I am definitely getting the vibe that this dude likes me. I'm afraid that this chick will get really mad at me if I go out with him. To me she is just an acquaintance but she is good friends with one of my friends and she works at the bar sometimes. I know she can get really possessive of her crushes. At the same time, I want to say, you have been friends with this guy for a year. Don't you think if something was going to happen it would have already? This is a pleasant surprise. I've always thought he was cute but I never thought he had any interest in me. So what would you do if he asked you out?
tanbark813 Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 I'd be like, "Sorry man, but I'm not into dudes."
Author Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 4, 2008 Author Posted March 4, 2008 Um, except that I am into dudes.
tanbark813 Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 Well I don't see any reason to not go out with him but I know girls are much weirder about this sort of situation than guys are.
Kamille Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 Calling dibs on a guy is for high school and really close friends. If he asks you out, go out with him. If she says anything or acts really weird, just know she is acting out of jealousy and immaturity and let it slide. If you notice that she feels sad? Tell yourself that she will get over it and let her friends take care of her. I know a lot about these situations, for coming from a small town and having been on all sides of the triangle.
NuTuDating Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 Go out with him. I have girl friends (not girlfriends) that I've hung out with on occassion and I've always worried that other single women would think that I was taken when I wasn't. If he asks you out, go for it!
Author Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 5, 2008 Author Posted March 5, 2008 Thanks! Yeah, it's funny because I live in a major east coast city but we joke all the time that it is really a small town the longer you live here. Not 6 degrees of separation, more like 2. So of course there will be some overlap in the dating pool. What's not funny is that we are in our 30's and some people still act like they are in high school.
NuTuDating Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 I'm 31 and dating still feels like high school to me. Not that I have to act like a high schooler, but it definitely feels that way still.
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