Kasan Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 So after thinking about this, maybe we are being to hard on him. Maybe he is extremely picky and hasn't met the "right one?" I can't imagine that he would "play you" knowing that he would be judged harshly at work. What would be the point of this? What if he genuinely likes you?
Author marlena Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 A4a, You had me in stitches! Marriage is the furthest thing from my mind. Truth be told, wes, I do want to "enjoy" him, let's say. Have wanted to for a long time. If we weren't working together, I wouldn't give it a second thought. Actually, I am looking for both. Fun and/or a serious relationship. It dpends on what mood I am in! Thanks
Author marlena Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 What if he genuinely likes you? Yes, WHAT IF? I mean really we know eachother pretty well. We spend half the day together after all. So, if I don't go, I might be losing out on a chance for a good thing happening! Right?
a4a Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 A4a, You had me in stitches! Marriage is the furthest thing from my mind. Truth be told, wes, I do want to "enjoy" him, let's say. Have wanted to for a long time. If we weren't working together, I wouldn't give it a second thought. Actually, I am looking for both. Fun and/or a serious relationship. It dpends on what mood I am in! Thanks well go for it. As long as you know you can pick yourself up and dust off if it doesn't work....... I see no problem. (unless there are employment issues not thought of)
Kasan Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Yes, WHAT IF? I mean really we know each other pretty well. We spend half the day together after all. So, if I don't go, I might be losing out on a chance for a good thing happening! Right? I don't know you Marlena, although I have seen many of your thoughtful postings here at LS. But, I do know that as we get older, we sometimes get a little cautious. You are both adults and know what you are getting into.....I say throw caution to the wind and do it. What could a couple of dates hurt?
Author marlena Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 Thanks Kasan for your vote of confidence. Yes, how could it hurt? I will be the perfect lady, I can assure you.
a4a Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Thanks Kasan for your vote of confidence. Yes, how could it hurt? I will be the perfect lady, I can assure you. ehhhh BS! you will be nibblin' his "particulars" in no time!
Author marlena Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 ehhhh BS! you will be nibblin' his "particulars" in no time! Hey, then I can come back and give you guys all the particulars on the "particulars"!!
Author marlena Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 What exactly are you looking to get out of this? Do you want some casual fling, or do you want something more long term? Pyro, Hi. Thanks for responding. Truth be told, either one with a preference for the second. But a fling with a colleague, well, can be a little treacherous. Ergo, the dilemma! Otherwise, I would have had my little fling,quietly and discreetly, and not tired you wonderful friendson LS with yet another tiresome thread by me!
a4a Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Marlena your post is wanted, you do not tax us with this. Many of us have no romantic life and need posts like yours. - what if he has small particulars? - does he smell good? Report ASAP.
Author marlena Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 - what if he has small particulars? I'll make them grow pronto!!! - does he smell good? Heavenly. Actually, he's always commenting on my perfume. He knows what I'm wearing every day. He'll come uo to me, lean over and say,mmmmmmmmm,that's Intuition or mmmmmmmmmmmmthat's Bulgari...........His favourite? White Linen!! Oh, my God, is he insinuating something?
Kasan Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 His favourite? White Linen!! Oh, my God, is he insinuating something? Only if you have linen bedsheets!!!! And yes, we want updates.....
Lyssa Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Marlena! I'd go for it if I were you! It's just a date and you are both adults so it should be fine. You sound mighty excited too!!
Author marlena Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 HI Lyssa dear, I guess I do sound excited, don't I? Thanks. I know you will wish me luck! Many,many hugs to you.
dropdeadlegs Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 I would go out with him. I would *try* not to get intimate until I was sure I could handle any fallout if things didn't work out, but only because you work together. Oh, who am I kidding? In reality I'd probably boink him at the first opportunity, worried I might not have another chance. Like you I'm not concerned about marriage, but a woman's sexual prime comes once in a lifetime and doesn't last forever! It wouldn't be the first time I had to face a colleague, or even a client, after taking things outside the office. I've always survived because I can laugh at myself and have "eaten where I ****" more than once. I've only had to "eat ****" a few times. Age is of no concern unless he's in his teens or twenties, and he isn't. A player can be "mucho" fun as long as you don't emotionally invest. If it all goes to hell in a hand basket, we'll be here to pick you back up. It's only a date and I have full confidence that you can handle a date (or many) with him. Go with the intent of having fun with a man you share chemistry with! What to wear? Something elegant and confident. Not too sexy, but still sexy in a classy way. You have to come back and share the details, though. It's a membership requirement.
a4a Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 - does he smell good? Heavenly. Actually, he's always commenting on my perfume. He knows what I'm wearing every day. He'll come uo to me, lean over and say,mmmmmmmmm,that's Intuition or mmmmmmmmmmmmthat's Bulgari...........His favourite? White Linen!! Oh, my God, is he insinuating something? Yes he wants you to buy him new sheets.
Ariadne Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 ...he's always commenting on my perfume. He knows what I'm wearing every day. He'll come uo to me, lean over and say,mmmmmmmmm,that's Intuition or mmmmmmmmmmmmthat's Bulgari...........His favourite? And you are going to jump at the gun... Hmm.... It can be like, oh, I'll just do that older chick a favor or some. I'd make it intense, crave, desire. In this case it'd be worth it, since it's not relationship potential, make it a good fk. Not tell him "no" flat out, but, I don't know... I have my reservations...you are cute...type. And then go for it. If he doesn't care for you after your first hesitation then it's crap and a flat fk.
Lyssa Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 HI Lyssa dear, I guess I do sound excited, don't I? Thanks. I know you will wish me luck! Many,many hugs to you. Well, I don't think you need the luck cause you're one helluva woman!! He sounds McDreamy *sigh* Yes, you will have to share with us the details! Don't forget those sexy stilettoes!
Kasan Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Absolutely, and cleavage, can't forget the cleavage!!!!
twice_shy Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 One of my colleagues, a very handsome and suave gentleman, asked me out on a date yesterday. I wasn't too surprised as there has always been a very strong attraction between us. I said I wasn't sure as I had mades some tentative plans. He said he would call me on Friday night. So, I have one day to think this through and I need your help. The reason why I am somewhat hesitant is a) he is almost ten years younger b) we work together and c) he is somewhat of a ladies' man. There has always been an overpowering attraction between us. I think everyone at our work place feels it too. I can practically hear their whispers. My problem is if I start dating him and something goes wrong I have to see this guy every day for many years to come. it could get awkard to say the lest. This makes me fele uncomfortable. Also, he is much younger and the odds of a serious relationship with him are thin. And he is a ladies' man like I mentioned. Guys, what do you think I should do. Accept or not? Well you don't believe in marriage or monogomous relationships, so whats the problem?
Author marlena Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 I would go out with him. I would *try* not to get intimate until I was sure I could handle any fallout if things didn't work out, but only because you work together. Oh, who am I kidding? In reality I'd probably boink him at the first opportunity, worried I might not have another chance. DDL, See. It's like this. One minute I am thinking the first thing you said and the next minute I am thinking, like you, who the hell am I kidding. I agree with you. Players can be great fun! As long as you don't fall for them. But you do. They're soooooooooo goood at the game. And, like you said, I know you guys will be here to help put Humpty Dumpty together again. You've done it before with huge sucess! OK. Tomorrow, I buy the linen sheets! Thanks, DD! Don't worry, I'll meet the requirements. Wouldn't want Tony to throw me out of the good ol'shack!
JamesM Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 The reason why I am somewhat hesitant is a) he is almost ten years younger b) we work together and c) he is somewhat of a ladies' man. Guys, what do you think I should do. Accept or not? Do not start it. And age is the least concern. In fact, it really is not a concern. Since you work together, there can be only one good outcome, and that is a long term relationship that lasts longer than the time you two will work together. If the relationship EVER ends before the two of you quit working together, there will be a problem. On the other hand, people DO meet and marry because of work. Having dated three women whom I worked with, I can say that after it is over, it becomes uncomfortable for awhile. Based on my experiences, I would say no.
Author marlena Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 And you are going to jump at the gun... Ariadne, You crack me up!!! You're so funny!!! Yeah, he could be thinking "I'll give the old bag something to thank me for!" He'll soon eat his words! Don't worry,sweetheart. I have given him a hard time for years. What's another month or two?
Author marlena Posted January 31, 2008 Author Posted January 31, 2008 Hi James, I know what you mean. This man has been flirting with me for a very long time. Truth be told, this isn't the first time he's asked me out. The other times I declined. I was in what I thought was a serious relationship at the time and I never cheat on anyone I am in an exclusive relationship with. I am fully aware that this can get messy if things don't work out well. If I do decide to accept his invitation, trust me, I'll take it very slowly. Thank you so much for your input. It is always respected.
Ariadne Posted January 31, 2008 Posted January 31, 2008 Don't worry,sweetheart. I have given him a hard time for years. What's another month or two? Well, doesn't have to be two months. But he's trouble so might as well be worth it. If it goes wrong later, well, he begged for it. Bad. You just had to..
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