Asperger's and intellectual intimidation

[Ms. Red]

Yea, that is another one. It is like a dare. Do you really want to know?

 

Next week I plan to use strange and vaugue responses to anyone who asks me this.

 

ie..

 

Unders, how are you?

 

Lima Bean

 

Ha Ha, My Dad likes to do that to beggars. When they ask for $ he responds with, "I have a limp arm." They are so confused he has time to walk away without a response.

[Ariadne]

Oh no!

 

:(

 

Your Aspie score: 131 of 200

Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 66 of 200

You are very likely an Aspie

 

(http://www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php)

 

Maybe this is what I was, I knew I was weird.

 

Argh, I don't believe in these things anyway.. yeah.

[Jilly Bean]

LOL. I am SUCH a sucker for a quick, Ariadne.

 

My aspie score was 23 out of 200

My neurotypical was 180 out of 200

 

Apparently I am most likely neurotypical.

 

(I think my ADD threw off my score - lol).

[underpants]

Man,

 

That test was long.

 

My favorite questions were:

 

Do you enjoy digging holes?

 

and

 

Are you affected by high air humidity combined with hot weather?

(Do they know where I live?)

 

 

Your Aspie score: 64 of 200

Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 159 of 200

You are very likely neurotypical

[Ariadne]

Well,

 

At least this explains a bunch of things.

 

I always have to pretend to be normal with people and end up being weird no matter what.

 

 

(Like, I go to the bathroom and open the faucet and close it, so that people think I washed my hands, and do all the bs people do etc)

[underpants]

Well,

 

At least this explains a bunch of things.

 

I always have to pretend to be normal with people and end up being weird no matter what.

 

 

(Like, I go to the bathroom and open the faucet and close it, so that people think I washed my hands, and do all the bs people do etc)

 

You don't wash your hands? *ocd level rises*

 

I took the schizotypal test. That was shorter but all it gave was averages. I was a little over on the social anxiety questions. However, that is understandable to me.

 

Ariadne, everyone is a little weird. That is half the fun of humanity.

 

If it helps you, read up on AS and see what has helped people.

[Ariadne]

Underpants,

 

>I took the schizotypal test.

 

Yeah, me too:

 

Total SPQ-A: 18 out of 74

 

I'm ok here.

[spookie]

Your Aspie score: 158 of 200

Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 57 of 200

You are very likely an Aspie

 

That test thoroughly creeped me out.

 

Do you have problems recognizing faces (prosopagnosia)?

The number of times I've started conversations with people I thought wer my teachers/ aquaintaces only to receive blank stares from strangers.... is in the double digits. At least.

 

Have you felt different from others for most of your life?

To put it lightly.

 

Are you gracious about criticism, correction and direction?

You should talk to my family about this one. They call me Psychob!cth.

 

Have you had the feeling of playing a game, pretending to be like people around you?

Always. And I'm getting good; even starting to enjoy it.

 

Do you prefer to wear the same clothes and/or eat the same food every day?

I wanted to answer this one with "no" but then I realized that I'm sitting here in a shirt/ pants combo I've had on for two weeks. I've been sleeping in the shirt, as well.

 

Do you judge a potential mate as most anybody else would?

I have a mathematical formula.

Are your eyes extra sensitive to stong light and glare?

Yah. I noticed when I was little that I'm always squinting really hard when I'm outside and staring at the ground, when other people arn't. It hasn't gotten better.

 

Do you avoid talking face to face with someone you don't know very well? Do you find yourself at ease in romantic situations? Do you have a tendency to become stuck when asked questions in social situation?

I'm an alcoholic cause I can't deal in social/romantic situations.

 

Do you dislike being touched or hugged unless you're prepared or have asked for it?

Physical contact outside sexual relationships completely weirds me out. I find it hard to hug my parents. In relationships it's fine though - it's the main way I relate on that level

 

Do you need to do things yourself in order to remember them? Do you find it very hard to learn things that you are not interested in? Do you find it difficult to take notes in lectures?

These are the reasons I failed out of college.

 

Do you get very tired after socializing, and need to regenerate alone?

This contributed too. If I spend the night before with other people, I have to take the next day off to recharge, alone.

 

Are you affected negatively by high air humidity combined with hot weather?

I pass out. Literally. But what does this have to do with it?

 

Have you been accused of staring?

I've gotten beat up for staring. A couple times.

 

Have you have had long-lasting urges to take revenge?

I'm the most vengeful person I know. Cross me and I'll spend the rest of my life fantasizing about fvkcing you up.

Do you or others think that you have unusual eating habits?

I don't use utensils and according to my parents I chomp instead of chew. Everyone I've ever known has told me I was a really gross eater.

 

Do you sometimes not feel anything at all, even though other people expect you to?

Doesn't everyone?

 

Do you have difficulties imitating & timing the movements of others, e.g. when learning new dance steps or in gym class?

Hahahaha. I got an F in gym in high school two semesters in a row cause I had the bad luck of getting the same teacher, who was convinced no one could be as clumsy as me unintentionally. My homecoming date left mid-dance cause he thought I was trying to embarrass him.

 

Do you confuse left and right?

I don't know the difference without doing the "L" test.

 

Have you experienced stronger than normal attachments to certain people?

Have you read what I've written on the subject of my ex?

 

And the best one of all...has it been harder for you to make it on your own, than it seems to be for most others of the same age?

Ha!

[Citizen Erased]

Guess I'm normal:

 

Your Aspie score: 61 of 200

Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 148 of 200

You are very likely neurotypical

[spookie]

Interesting that some people actually score in the normal range.

 

As I was taking the test I just kept thinking, my answer is yes, but isn't everyone's??

[Nevermind]

Those tests are stupid and tell you absolutely nothing about your condition. If you're having aspergers...well you're also having some serious issues in daily life. You need routine, and I mean : you NEED it. Many asperger patients eat exactly the same food every day, they get up the exact same time, they dress in the same fashion etc. Moving somewhere is a huge problem and it will take time (read month, years) to get used to new surroundings. They have great problems reading emotions.This means that you can stand crying a river before them and they might not be able to understand you're feeling sad.

 

As every illness they are more or less developed cases and a light version of asperger's might only manifest as an obsession with routines. BUT it is certainly not the newest cool thing on the iq-market. Smart does not equal Aspergers. Smart with edges does not equal Aspergers.

 

If you're interested in this guy and want to try it, go. But always keep in mind that when he seems cold or strict it is not really his choice to be like this. And good luck!

[Ariadne]

Interesting that some people actually score in the normal range.

 

As I was taking the test I just kept thinking, my answer is yes, but isn't everyone's??

 

I guess not.

 

I go crazy with sounds most of the times. Say, I'm in a restaurant and the people in the next table are talking loud I can go nuts.

 

I've sushed people in restaurants, gotten up an moved to some far away table, shushed people on cell phones.

 

And nobody cares. Is like, are you not bothered by this noise???

 

Nope.

 

I always make sure I talk in a modulated voice because I know how annoyed I get at loud people.

 

(oh yeah, but I love thunders)

[Jilly Bean]

Your Aspie score: 158 of 200

Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 57 of 200

You are very likely an Aspie

 

Spookie - this guy could very well end up being a perfect match! Are you encouraged, or discouraged by these results?

[Trialbyfire]

Aspie = 54/200

NT = 169/200

You are very likely NT.

 

I found a number of the questions funny. Bright and shiny objects, anyone?

[underpants]

Aspie = 54/200

NT = 169/200

You are very likely NT.

 

I found a number of the questions funny. Bright and shiny objects, anyone?

 

I had that one too. Who doesn't like to look at those?

 

Most of my responses were 'a little'. I wanted an 'it depends' choice.

 

I am still trying to figure out that hot humid question? However, maybe all it shows is how obsessive I can be.

 

...and yes, there is a strange noise at a nearby intersection that has had me baffled for months. I simply would very strongly like to figure out the source of this odd, subtle noise.

 

Perhaps the aliens that talk to me through doorknobs will let me know.

[Trialbyfire]

I had that one too. Who doesn't like to look at those?

 

Most of my responses were 'a little'. I wanted an 'it depends' choice.

 

I am still trying to figure out that hot humid question? However, maybe all it shows is how obsessive I can be.

 

...and yes, there is a strange noise at a nearby intersection that has had me baffled for months. I simply would very strongly like to figure out the source of this odd, subtle noise.

 

Perhaps the aliens that talk to me through doorknobs will let me know.

Oh, you're like I am. Do you sometimes confuse sounds for voices? I do that all the time. Everything talks to me...everything... The best advice I've ever received was from my toilet. It's why I keep on flushing over and over and over again.

[Jilly Bean]

LOL - UP. I think the weather question comes from people with aspie being very sensitive to noises, light, apparently temperature changes...

 

But the digging of holes question was the best. Wouldn't that mean I was part canine?

[spookie]

Spookie - this guy could very well end up being a perfect match! Are you encouraged, or discouraged by these results?

 

I don't know. It's kinda cool to have found a name for why I've felt different all my life, but I'm still not buying that I really have Asperger's. Maybe I'm misunderstanding what does or doesn't constitute being affected by it, but I was under the impression that the main criteria was inability to process social cues, which I think I can do. Also, Aspies tend not to cry, while I'm the biggest cry-baby you'll ever meet (though my "breakdowns" are triggered by things that happen in my head, not in the outside world).

 

I think I'm just eccentric.

 

We'll see about this guy, though. He's said a couple of things to me that I could REALLY relate to, that I've never heard from anyone else. Like this:

 

After being with a group of people for any length of time I tend to switch

into a specialized persona for them. This always made for complicated

moments when people from various groups would be together and I'd be

unsure how I was supposed to present myself (like when my college

friends visited my parents' house for my summer birthday).

Since, with almost everyone, I feel like I'm going through the motions of interaction without ever leaving the comfort of my head, I too tend to personalize my "personality" for each friend to make our time more enjoyable (for example, with my ditsy female friends I pretend to be a normal girl (I'm always a little uncomfortable in this role), with my male friends I channel my inside hardcore male, etc). It's ALWAYS awkward to hang out with different groups of people at the same time cause I don't know "who" I'm supposed to be.

 

I was surprised to find someone else who'd admit to being the same way - though I am sure everyone does this to some degree.

[o0lovindrama0o]

My boyfriend has Asperger's Syndrome, and I wouldn't change him for the world. While the first post is correct in identifying some of the negative traits of the disorder, the advantages must be weighed as well.

 

Symptoms of this disorder actually include above average intelligence.

AS men try harder. They want to make you happy and they'll do everything they can to make it happen. (It's part of their fear of rejection.)

AS men are faithful. Once a man with AS decides he wants to be with a woman, little can be done to change his mind. She becomes the "only" one in his eyes.

AS men trust deeply. Once you are trusted, it's forever.

 

If you haven't cut him loose already, give him a chance.

[o0lovindrama0o]

Those tests are stupid and tell you absolutely nothing about your condition. If you're having aspergers...well you're also having some serious issues in daily life. You need routine, and I mean : you NEED it. Many asperger patients eat exactly the same food every day, they get up the exact same time, they dress in the same fashion etc. Moving somewhere is a huge problem and it will take time (read month, years) to get used to new surroundings. They have great problems reading emotions.This means that you can stand crying a river before them and they might not be able to understand you're feeling sad.

 

As every illness they are more or less developed cases and a light version of asperger's might only manifest as an obsession with routines. BUT it is certainly not the newest cool thing on the iq-market. Smart does not equal Aspergers. Smart with edges does not equal Aspergers.

 

If you're interested in this guy and want to try it, go. But always keep in mind that when he seems cold or strict it is not really his choice to be like this. And good luck!

 

All people with Asperger's do not have such a strict need for routine. The spectrum is large, and because this AS man asked for her phone number, it tells me that he's on the most high functioning end of the spectrum. Initiating ANYTHING is extremely difficult for anyone with AS. Asking for her phone number is HUGE.

[Green]

My boyfriend has Asperger's Syndrome, and I wouldn't change him for the world. While the first post is correct in identifying some of the negative traits of the disorder, the advantages must be weighed as well.

 

Symptoms of this disorder actually include above average intelligence.

AS men try harder. They want to make you happy and they'll do everything they can to make it happen. (It's part of their fear of rejection.)

AS men are faithful. Once a man with AS decides he wants to be with a woman, little can be done to change his mind. She becomes the "only" one in his eyes.

AS men trust deeply. Once you are trusted, it's forever.

 

If you haven't cut him loose already, give him a chance.

 

Im glad your having good personal experiences but I really dont know if these are scientificaly true facts about people with this type of autism... if you would be so kind im curious what your sources are, other then ur own personal expierce with your bf

[spookie]

My boyfriend has Asperger's Syndrome, and I wouldn't change him for the world. While the first post is correct in identifying some of the negative traits of the disorder, the advantages must be weighed as well.

 

Symptoms of this disorder actually include above average intelligence.

AS men try harder. They want to make you happy and they'll do everything they can to make it happen. (It's part of their fear of rejection.)

AS men are faithful. Once a man with AS decides he wants to be with a woman, little can be done to change his mind. She becomes the "only" one in his eyes.

AS men trust deeply. Once you are trusted, it's forever.

 

If you haven't cut him loose already, give him a chance.

 

I havne't cut him loose. We started dating after a couple of weeks of emailing and it's going FANTASTIC. He is the best match for me of all the people I've been with, and treats me the best. (I literally could not ask for more.)

[CrazyH]

I have been professionally diagnosed with AS. Mine is more high-functioning than some cases, as quite a few of the negative symptoms like poor motor skills or lack of a sense of humor don't apply to me at all; in fact just the opposite is true in my case. My social skills leave something to be desired, but most people only find me to be mildly awkward. As far as my sense of humor is concerned you will either think I am hilarious, or revolting and/or mildly psychotic. I have for the most part led a completely "normal life" (if there is such a thing) and wouldn't want to change anything about the way I am or the group of friends I have settled into over the years.

Finally to answer your question; I've never dated anyone with AS, but if its any comfort to you I've been living with myself for over 22 years now and the relationship is working out.

[BentSpine]

I have been diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome and I really like hugging. And the few women I have been intimate with have all enjoyed it. So did I, but since I am a man that comes as no surprise now, does it?

 

I had become 25 before a woman accepted my date proposal for the first time. You see, I take words literally unless I have by experience, or reading, learnt that they really mean something else. So it took a lot of experience and reading before I learnt that excuses meant "No, I'm not interested in you. Don't ask me anymore." Now when I have broken the code in the area of rejection, I realise right off the bat if things are a no-go. What I am trying to convey is that it's possible for an Aspie to learn the code: Things can get better!

 

Same thing with reading (interpreting) body language. The code can be learnt!

 

I don't have a poker face and I couldn't fake an emotion to save my life. So my feelings are all on display up there in my face.

 

Small talk for me is OK because I have realised that small talk is actually about inviting and showing suitable amount of interest in the other person. Suitable with regards to how close a relationship you have at the time. A deep, meaningful relationship probably started out as more easy-going so it's worthwhile to be open to the not-so-deep relationships as well.

 

My loyalty is very strong for those who been there for me in time of need.

 

Finally, humour. I.Am.Humourous. And make no mistake: I'm not talking goofy here. Not only at least.

Humour happens to have its own rules. And wherever there is a rule, there is an Aspie to read and learn it.

[shadowplay]

Spookie, I also took the Aspie test once and got a high score. My ex boyfriend was convinced I had it because he read an article about girls with Aspergers and I fit a lot of the traits. There are several important differences in the traits that manifest in each gender. A lot of the things I can relate to like feeling more affection for animals than people, severe social awkwardness, etc. Autism also runs in my family and my brother has Aspergers. I'm still not sure whether I have it or not, but it would explain a lot of my weirdness and near pathological social problems. There was a New York Times report on women with Aspergers a few months ago that was pretty interesting. Most of the girls they profiled were pretty low-functioning, though.